Most hospitals have a limit of 3 ppl allowed in room when you're having a vag birth, right? A friend of mine is insistant about saying "she will" be there when I give birth but I only want my DH, Mom, & MIL there. How can I let her down easy? She's a good friend but not my BFF.
Re: Who do you want to witness your birth?
My husband and that's it.
I'd say she should understand that you don't want her there. A friend doesn't trump family.
I only want my DH in there. Too many people will just get on my nerves.
If you don't want your friend there, you certainly don't have to invite her. If you want to be polite about it, absolutely use the excuse that the hospital limits the number of guests or that they only allow family.
Burned by the Bear
This exactly
DD1 Feb 2010
DD2 Sept 2011
When giving birth to a baby it is ALL ABOUT YOU!
I can't tell you how many times I've heard of people trying to weasel their way in there and make it about them when they should be concerned about what you want.
If you want to let her down easy just tell her she's welcome to show up at the hospital and wait in the waiting room (like a good friend would).
If you have to make something up, you can say the doc gave you a 2 person limit or what have you.
This!
BFP #1 3/13/13, MMC 4/17/13, D&C 4/19/13
BFP #2 8/7/13, Beta at 4w6d = 3,796
I can't imagine anyone insisting on witnessing someone give birth. that is so strange and really lacks social boundaries, imo.
Only H was there for #1 and #2. It will be the same for #3 unless my mom wanted to be there - which she doesn't. lol
Just my H and the way I feel about him this morning, I barely want HIM there, lol.
Next time she brings it up, I would just say "Awe! I wish you could, but we're only having our Moms in." If you feel it necessary, explain the limit but you shouldn't have to.
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As PP have said, your friend is being very pushy with something that is not directly affecting her. She is a friend NOT family. If she cannot understand that then she can hardly be a good friend at all.
As for me, I want just MH there with me. We have too big of a family to have everyone coming in when I am not going to be as friendly or comfortable as I usually am. Plus to have everyone around for what could be hours, seems a bit silly. I'll have MH call everyone down to the hospital once we're fulyl dialated and ready to go so by the time they get there LO will be all ready for her moment to shine, and it'll give me some time to wipe the sweat off my face
RME