In the past 2 years including mine there has been 5 office pregnancies. I have a scheduled C-section on Monday the 15th. Two of the co-workers were moms and two were dads. Everyone was given an office gift chipped in on by the entire office to say congrats on your new baby except me. The last one to receive this office gift was less than a month ago. Since last Friday I have been really upset about it. I don't want to feel entitled to gifts but some "congrats we are happy for you" even, I feel two inches tall. Out of all the employees that have had baby's in the past 2 years I have been there the longest. I am not looking for special treatment but I thought at least equal treatment was warranted. To be honest it has made the last two weeks of work emotionally straining and I dread going in now. I am even fantasizing about not returning, If I could afford to stay home I totally would at this point. I feel so.....just hurt I guess. Am I over-reacting b/c of hormones or does this seem a little a messed up.
Re: Co-workers all gave me the cold shoulder
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well.....it may be that they think last month is still fresh in your mind and they want to surprise you by waiting longer for your party day....
even though my department was relatively small, one of my co-workers and I got married the same day...they threw me a surprise shower much later than they threw hers (they knew I don't really care about that stuff, though)
I don't know when you are due but they might just be waiting until a slow day or for the before- holiday -potluck...
ditto this!
I'd be willing to bet that they are planning something for this friday. They probably DID collect for a gift last week & are going to surprise you on your last day.
If they don't, they shame on them. And in any case, I am sorry you are down about it. Try to stay hopeful & positive though! On monday you get to meet your baby & that's a good thing to focus on!!
Maybe they are waiting until this week because they did the wedding one last week (which they obviously had to b/c he is on his honeymoon now). It would have been weird to do both last week don't you think? Anyway, if they aren't doing it, I would be hurt too. However, it really isn't the end of the world. It is just work people. It's not like your real family or friends are forsaking you. Gotta keep it all in perspective.
Well, I certainly understand feeling hurt about the whole thing, but you did say that they did something last week for a guy who got married, right? And I hate to even ask, but the other people who have had babies recently - was it their first or a subsequent pregnancy? Maybe that has something to do with it? In the meantime, since you're only working 1/2 days, I would try to not let it bother me too much. Not that I would want this to be the reason I left, but maybe when you head back into the workforce, perhaps start looking for another job if this is just one more in a list of things that make you unhappy there?
I work in a really small office and all of the ladies from work were at my shower. I don't expect anything besides the personal gifts I've already received. If anything, the company might send me flowers or something in the hospital, but the company is in such dire straits right now financially, I'm not even expecting that at this point!
You are completely validated in feeling hurt, however you still have some time so maybe they are planning something or you on your last day? Let's hope so...they better!
I'm sorry you have to experience this sillyness from co-workers.
And I'm sorry - I thought I read in there somewhere that this was your second baby...So not only are my hormones all over the place, but so is my eyesight and/or memory! Oy! Anyway, yes, I would feel hurt!