getting lots of stuff for their house for the baby?
Both are getting packnplays which I can understand, and both want to get swings or other seats and almost everything I will have. How often will the baby really go over to their houses?
This may be a dumb question as this is my first baby but it will be born at the end of January in an Iowa winter....will I really leave my own house all that often for the first couple months and/or just drop the baby off at their house enough for them to need all the same stuff I'm getting?
Again, I know this is a dumb question but I'd love a 2nd opinion because my mother and MIL keep telling me that my child will probably be at their house EVERY weekend and I don't see it. THANKS!
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My MIL already has 2 grandkids. They have a ton of things at their house. The kids stay over a lot and are over there all the time.
Its up to you though. Our child won't be over there EVERY weekend, but some do it that way. My SIL is over at her mom's house at least once a week, often more.
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My DD was my MIL's 5th grandchild, so she has a pack n play, high chair and some bibs, and a porta-crib thing. She might also have a couple blankets. But she babysits fairly regularly between the 5 of them, soon to be 6!
My mom has a crib, and she keeps some clothes, blankets, etc. She had bottles, now has sippy cups and bowls, kid silverware, etc. But she watches my DD a lot for us, and overnights. We're going to NYC next weekend for 4 days, but she'll have her the night before we leave, as well as the night we come home because we don't get back until about 10pm. We've got 2 weddings that we know of next year that are out of state, and the following February we're going to Mexico for a week for a destination wedding...and she'll have TWO kids for all of those LOL. It's much much easier for her to go and get a pack of diapers and wipes and cups than for us to have to transport that stuff all the time.
For as much as my DH and go out still, there are times my mom comes in the city (from the burbs) to watch my DD, but we LOVE not having to wake up so early the next morning so we really prefer for her to go to my moms. That still doesn't equal every weekend though.
Not a dumb question at all! I think it's truly different for every family...my DH and I really still go out a lot, but some people don't, and didn't even before they had kids. I say, if they want to buy it, let them, but don't necessarily encourage them if you don't want to!
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I think it depends on the situation and how comfortable you are with your baby spending time with your mom/MIL, especially solo.
My mom hardly has any baby stuff b/c we live 1,200 miles away. When we visit, they've either rented stuff, we bring things along (if we drive) or we make due without. But my mom has friends who babysit their grandkids constantly and they would definitely need more gear to have that work smoothly.
MIL (also far away) has a crib and two high chairs. She has half a dozen grandkids, two more on the way, and it helps to at least have those basics for when people come to visit.
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My mom will have a highchair (one of the ones that goes from infant to a toddler booster seat and just straps onto a chair) and most likely a travel swing at her house. And when we are done with it, the co-sleeper will stay at her house as a pack n play. But she will also be the primary baby sitter anytime we go anywhere and we go over to her house fairly often. Although most of the time I would prefer she be at our hosue watching him, there are going to be times when that is not feasible and I would rather not drag stuff to her house.
The IL's won't have anything. We won't go there enough for them to need anything, they will come to us more.