DH and I have talked extensively about this, and his feeling is that this is our first moment and parents and it should be just the two of us (and med team) in the delivery room.?
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My mother, however, has been glowing over the idea of being able to see a birth for the first time since i got my bfp. I completely agree with DH and would like it to just be the two of us, but dear lord that woman's heart will break if she is told she's not wanted in there.?
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Who's going to be in the room with you when it's time??
Re: Who will be in the delivery room w/ you?
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Just me and DH. I haven't talked about this with my mom or anyone else yet... but I just wouldn't feel comfortable with anyone else in the room.
DH wants to catch the baby... not sure how I feel about this... I know he's seen it all (he's a doctor) but he doesn't need to see it with me... haha
Just DH, and of course the usual entourage of nurses and other medical staff :-)
You should probably be honest with your mom now, because the longer she thinks she's going to be in the delivery room with you, the worse its going to be to tell her no.
Annelise 3.22.2007 Norah 10.24.2009 Amelia 8.7.2011
First birth, my husband & my best friend (C's Godmother) were there. GREAT experience.
This time around, I've offered two of my closest friends the option of being there (along with the hubs). My bestie lives on the other side of the country, so I can't make sure that she's here. Both of the girls are super excited and I think they'll be awesome coaches and distractions for us. One of them has already offered to go to a Bradley class with me (DH's work schedule keeps him from attending), which will be a lot of fun, too. Super excited about L&D this time - I have an idea of what's going to happen!
Besides the obvious medical staff, DH and my best friend. If you're concerned about how your mom will take it and really can't stomach telling her yourself, most doctors and nurses are willing to be the bad guys. When I did my time in OB we would kick everyone out for the cervix check and then ask her with no one around. If she said everyone was welcome, they stayed (#s within reason), but if she said, "Oh, they're driving me nuts but I feel bad telling them to leave," then I did the dirty work. "I'm sorry folks, but we dont' permit this many people in the room at this stage of labor, we'll need room to work and prepare for the impending delivery. There's coffee in the waiting room and we'll keep you all updated as often as possible."
DH and I only.
For DS birth it was like a circus with DH, MIL, his Aunt and friend. With DD it was DH, MIL and my sis. It's just too much! Luckily my mom freaks at the sight of me in pain so she has a hard time standing outside of the room much less being right there front and center!
(m/c 1.17.07, m/c 5.15.07)
DS - 03.15.08
DD2 - 12.03.09
DD3 - 3.28.11
DH: 31, no issues
4-6/2012 100mg of Clomid + trigger + IUI/TI = BFN
7/2012 150mg of Gonal-f + trigger + IUI = BFN
8/2012 Surprise unmedicated BFP!! Due May 8, 2013
DH and I talked about this way before I got pregnant. ?At the max it will be DH, my mother and my sister. ?The thing is my mom and sister both said that it was up to me and that they know that during the delivery I may not want anyone in there at all (my sister has 3 kids and I was there for all of them cuz her husband couldn't deal with it). ? I don't know how my MIL or SIL are going to take it though, but my husband is okay with whatever I decide. ?
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Me and my DH. We agree with what your hubs said.
I think it was Blair who once said that it was only her and her hub when the baby was made so it'll only be her and her hub when the baby enters the world