My husbands brother asked us to be godparents to his daughter a few weeks ago. He left my husband a message yesterday saying they will just be going with his girlfriends sisters as godparents now, and not us. He said it was because we do not plan on attending the church service before her baptism (this Sunday). It is two hours away, we have a very active 16 month old which would make that difficult, and we do not attend church regularly besides. We think this is just an excuse because my husband has been avoiding BIL lately because hes a lair, and we are tired of it. Anyways would it be terrible not to attend the baptism? We were still planning on going but the more I think about it, I am on the fence.
Re: If you were unasked to be a godparent
Yes, it would.
The child shouldn't be punished because you want to throw a tantrum. Granted, she is completely unaware of the situation but you should behave as if she is.
At first I was like "OH NO WAY" but after reading your post it make sense. The church service is an important part. He shouldn't have waited till the last minute or unceremoniously left a message, but his reasoning is good. But than you said he was a liar and there are issues (which makes me wonder why you all agreed in the first place) and made me wonder if there are other reasons why BIL unasked ya'll.
So you have a choice. If I were in your shoes it would be easy not attend, but I wouldn't recomend it. That will only make things worse in the future possibly w/your DH's family. I say take the high road, attend, bring a gift, be gracious, etc.
Yes, I would go. Just let it go and be glad that you won't be in the role of godparent, which may prove to be difficult and awkward w/ your BIL anyway.
Go to the baptism. Coo over the baby and try to put your BIL out of your mind.