As much as I didn't want to I returned to work on May 28. The first week went good but as the weeks go on my separation anxiety has gotten worse. Not to mention last week Chris wasn't breastfeeding and that added to the already uneasy week. Hubby and I had a talk last night and I'm so hurt! My weight bothers him and he feels that I'm not making any strides to working out and he feels that I should be cooking more when I get home because that's what he did for me while I was on leave. Prior to getting pregnant I was 212lbs, I'm 6'0 tall. I ended up gaining 16 pounds when Chris was delivered at 39 weeks 2 days. When I weighed myself last Thursday I was 210lbs. I think I've done a damn good job with keeping off my baby weight and I feel that everyone recognizes it BUT my husband. Chris was 7lbs 10 ounces so I didn't really gain much if any weight but sheesh...give me a flippin' break! Then he complains that I'm not cooking...Um can I adjust to being a working mom! I haven't been back to work for a month and he's already giving me $hit!!
Those two things have caused him to me more distant and had I not brought up the conversation they would have continued to create a bigger wedge between us. I'm upset because I don't want my son growing up in a household like this. Hubby has never been a good communicator but things were progressing prior to me getting pregnant. No he's gone back into this little hole and keeps his mouth shut when he needs to speak up. I feel I make it easy for him to talk to me. I always ask him if how are things or if he needs to talk about something and I'm genuine. I found a couples therapist because I think we're better off getting help now than later but have any of your marriages change after baby?