I've posted before that my MIL is very graciously throwing me a shower at her home. (I live in NY, she's in NC). She just wrote me an email saying "we need to discourage" babies at my shower because there could be a total of 23 people there and space is tight. I understand and respect that it's her home, however I feel it's a joy to have babies at a baby shower. Plus, not everyone we've invited will attend, and I also feel that a nursing mama should be able to bring her baby. I have a total of 5 friends who would potentially bring their babies (though one friend has two kids, and I hope she wouldn't bring the older one...I feel like older kids is a whole different thing). My MIL also gave the reasoning that all of the attention should be exclusively on me, which I disagree with.
What do you think? Would it be rude of me to gently say I'd like for nursing babies to be allowed?