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What's the consensus...

Is it assumed that babies/children are welcome at baby showers? Or not? Does it depend on if it's a 3 month old vs 2 year old?
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Re: What's the consensus...

  • In my circle, never. But I have issues about kids at adult parties. My showers were at sit down restaurants without high chairs. Also, now that I'm a mom I have no desire to take my kids to a shower,
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  • I think all girls are usually welcomed at baby shower. Lol

    Although I was informed both my boys are invited to sil shower. She called to make sure they were not allergic to strawberries. I had assumed I was invited alone before that.
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  • I would assume they are not invited unless their names are on the invitation. DH's family and most of my family do adult only showers.  One of my aunts has 4 daughters and their showers always include female children.

    I don't have a problem with kids being at showers but I think it would be really boring for them.   

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  • No, I would not assume they are invited or welcome unless specifically invited
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  • I wouldn't assume kids are invited, my SD has always been invited along with me, and since the baby was born his presence has been requested too, mainly because they've all been family showers and we all like to nom on each others babies.
     

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  • Our family, probably.  But, my girls were invited to a family wedding shower in the fall too.

    I had a friend who would rather I not attend than bring DD1 when she was 5 months.


  • I always assume showers are adult affairs unless the kids are specifically invited. Even then I usually leave them home. The only exception I've made was my cousin's bridal shower a few weeks ago because she hadn't met Andrew and asked that I bring him. 
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  • I've never been to a baby shower without kids. 
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  • In my circle, kids of any age are always invited, though many moms choose not to bring them for a little alone time.  Also, if the child is poorly behaved, they usually don't get to come.  I've got 2 showers this month, and the only thing that might prevent me from bringing DS is his nap.
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  • My circle of friends usually leaves kids home unless its a baby. I have only ever taken my boys to showers when thy were tiny and needed to nurse often still. I have no desire to take my 2 and 5 year old boys to a shower.
  • I wouldn't assume my children are invited, unless their names are on the invitation.
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  • I've never been to a baby shower with kids. With the exception of a friend who adopted and her shower was after they brought the baby home because they didn't want one before hand just in case the birth mom backed out. 

    That being said, I never assume my child is invited anywhere unless its specifically stated.  


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  • Around here, it is assumed they are invited to baby showers and usually bridal showers. Most weddings around here are child friendly as well though.
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  • In our circle all babies under 2 or so? And usually any girl children are assumed to come.
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  • Kids are always welcome to everything unless specified in my circle.
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  • Around here it's usually assumed that the kids are coming. I've never been to a baby shower without kids, there were at least 5 at my own baby shower.

    I think it's whatever the norm is in your circle/area.
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  • I would assume they are not invited.  
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  • A nursing baby that is under a year....yes.  Otherwise I would call and ask if it is ok or not.
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  • I'd never assume. I'd only attend if my nursing baby was welcome when she was teeny. Now, she's big enough to spend a few hours away. I'd probably ask if it's anyone I'm close enough to want to attend their shower (a close friend) and be cool with either answer. 
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  • This is all fascinating to me.

    I went to one baby shower when there were kids. It was chaos. They ran around, screamed...it was annoying. To me, a baby shower is to "shower" the FTM with gifts, friends, food and good times. Toddlers running around trying to unwrap gifts is not cute to me. 

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  • I wouldn't ever assume anything...even babies. Unless they're listed on the invite, I assume no.
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    I would never assume anyone was invited to anything unless their name is on the invite.

     

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    This is all fascinating to me.

    I went to one baby shower when there were kids. It was chaos. They ran around, screamed...it was annoying. To me, a baby shower is to "shower" the FTM with gifts, friends, food and good times. Toddlers running around trying to unwrap gifts is not cute to me. 

    Yes. This is an adult party and kids are annoying not cute if they are not your own. I had my niece at my shower but I specifically requested she come.
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  • I don't understand why you'd ever take someone to an event if they weren't invited. If they aren't on the invitation, they aren't invited. Whether they are 2 months, 2 years or 12. 

    It seems that people have no idea how to address or interpret an invitation. 


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    No. Not welcomed.

    Pretty much.

    And end, scene.

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  • Kids are welcomed to everything in my family unless specifically stated. If it's a friend or acquaintance, I don't assume DS is invited unless it's stated to bring him.
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  • image I Heart The 80s:

    This is all fascinating to me.

    I went to one baby shower when there were kids. It was chaos. They ran around, screamed...it was annoying. To me, a baby shower is to "shower" the FTM with gifts, friends, food and good times. Toddlers running around trying to unwrap gifts is not cute to me. 

    This is me too.  Of course, I would never assume a child was invited anywhere unless specified on the invite. 

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  • image I Heart The 80s:

    This is all fascinating to me.

    I went to one baby shower when there were kids. It was chaos. They ran around, screamed...it was annoying. To me, a baby shower is to "shower" the FTM with gifts, friends, food and good times. Toddlers running around trying to unwrap gifts is not cute to me. 

    And this point always confuses me.  I have quite literally never been to an adult only baby shower or bridal shower and I have been to a lot as we have a lot of people getting married and having babies in our church.  Keep in mind I have never been to an invite only shower either.  Back to the point, in the probably 50 or more showers I have been too (going back to when I was a child myself) I have never once seen a child try and open the presents.  Nor were they running around bothering everybody else.  Quite honestly you've never been able to tell that they are even there.

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    image I Heart The 80s:

    This is all fascinating to me.

    I went to one baby shower when there were kids. It was chaos. They ran around, screamed...it was annoying. To me, a baby shower is to "shower" the FTM with gifts, friends, food and good times. Toddlers running around trying to unwrap gifts is not cute to me. 

    And this point always confuses me.  I have quite literally never been to an adult only baby shower or bridal shower and I have been to a lot as we have a lot of people getting married and having babies in our church.  Keep in mind I have never been to an invite only shower either.  Back to the point, in the probably 50 or more showers I have been too (going back to when I was a child myself) I have never once seen a child try and open the presents.  Nor were they running around bothering everybody else.  Quite honestly you've never been able to tell that they are even there.


    I agree with this. Kids are always at baby showers in my circle and it is never a playground. In fact, the girls at mine were all helpers. Collecting paper, helping with bringing gifts to me and taking them and putting on open present table. I LOVED having all the kids around.
    CJ :-)
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    image dhviel:
    image I Heart The 80s:

    This is all fascinating to me.

    I went to one baby shower when there were kids. It was chaos. They ran around, screamed...it was annoying. To me, a baby shower is to "shower" the FTM with gifts, friends, food and good times. Toddlers running around trying to unwrap gifts is not cute to me. 

    And this point always confuses me.  I have quite literally never been to an adult only baby shower or bridal shower and I have been to a lot as we have a lot of people getting married and having babies in our church.  Keep in mind I have never been to an invite only shower either.  Back to the point, in the probably 50 or more showers I have been too (going back to when I was a child myself) I have never once seen a child try and open the presents.  Nor were they running around bothering everybody else.  Quite honestly you've never been able to tell that they are even there.

    I agree with this. Kids are always at baby showers in my circle and it is never a playground. In fact, the girls at mine were all helpers. Collecting paper, helping with bringing gifts to me and taking them and putting on open present table. I LOVED having all the kids around.

    When my daughter has gone to showers in the last year or so, she has been a "helper" like you describe - but she was invited and more than welcome my the guest of honor. I don't actually think it's that weird for young girls to be invited, if close to the bride or mom to be. I just think it's odd if it's a given, when the child isn't explicitly invited on the invitation.  


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