Does your DH get you a gift? Assuming your kids are too young to know what day it is and aren't giving you something.
DH has just finally gotten good at getting Christmas and Birthday gifts. He barely remembers his mom's birthday and wouldn't think of giving her something if I didn't do it for him. So, no. I am not expecting anything. Also, I get that I am not his mother. Last year I used Mother's Day as an excuse to buy new shoes.
Re: s/o Mother's Day
We always buy our mom's gifts and visit with them on Mothers Day weekend. It is more about them than me. My first Mother's Day I was all bent out of shape because I spent the whole weekend shopping for our moms and visiting with them but then I grew up and realized our moms won't be around forever. My MIL usually gets me a gift though cause she is sweet like that!
Therefore, I assume that our children won't even when they are old enough.
Personally, I don't get the "I'm not his mother" argument. To me, it's a day to honor all mothers who are special to you.
I guess technically he got me a gift last year. I sent him a link to what I wanted last year (a little necklace with a pearl and two heart charms with his initial in one and DS's in the other.) I likely would have got nothing had I not emailed him exactly what I wanted.
This year I told him I want to get a facial or a massage, but I know he hasn't organized it yet so I'll have to remind him. Probably multiple times.
He is a horrible gift giver. I buy all the gifts for our families. I've learned to not get my hopes up and to just tell him what I want if I want to get anything.
Last year I got a "Mom" charm for my Pandora bracelet.
This year, I've been saying I want to get a prenatal massage. I'm thinking this is what I'm going to do for myself. I asked DH not to get me anything, because I will do this for myself for mothers day this year
Sometimes, if he knows there is something I would really love, he will get me a gift. Our anniversary was earlier this week so it is always close to MD. A couple years ago he arranged a sitter and we went to a Phillies game. He gave me a gorgeous cocktail ring from my favorite jewelry store. That was an anniversary - MD combo
But I don't mind if he doesn't - I know how much he appreciates me. I would rather him only do it if he has something really great in mind. He feels bad this year because he has to work.
I do the same on FD - if I come up with a great idea I will get it, but there is no pressure
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