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Changing baby's name?

I am seriously debating changing baby's name. It doesn't 'fit' and I really regret not going with my gut.

The paperwork is easy enough, and DH is on board. Am I completely insane?

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Re: Changing baby's name?

  • Doesn't sound insane to me.
  • How old is your kid? What is their name? What do you want the name to be?
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  • Can't see your siggy to know how old LO is, but I say go with your gut! You may have to correct some people who already know the first choice, but that's no big deal.
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  • Just out of curiosity- what was the original name and what are you changing it to? Why did you choose the original name? Why the change? 
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  • I honestly thought about it too, but I found after 3 months or so (once you started to see her personality) it really started to flow well and suit my DD more. You picked the name for a reason, but then it would also depend on your reason for wanting to change it.
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  • We went and changed DS2's name not long after having him. We didn't have "the name" for him, so we just picked from our current top 2 at the time. It didn't fit him or our family, as in it felt awkward calling him that name if that makes sense?

    Obviously I don't think it's insane at all. Especially considering your LO's age.

     

  • We named her Theresa, Tess for a NN. Basically we couldn't agree on anything so we picked Tess in the hospital. The boys are Jack and Sam and I thought it worked. I just don't 'love' it, you know? I now see Theresas all the time and the majority seem to be late middle aged women with few teeth. :(

    She is 9 weeks old and I really want to change it to Annabel with a NN of Annie. I worried about it being too popular so I passed on it and am now kicking myself.

    I just feel like an A$$ as we sent out announcements. :s

     

     

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    Doesn't sound insane to me.

    This!

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  • BTW, i love the name that you are considering changing it to.

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    We named her Theresa, Tess for a NN. Basically we couldn't agree on anything so we picked Tess in the hospital. The boys are Jack and Sam and I thought it worked. I just don't 'love' it, you know? I now see Theresas all the time and the majority seem to be late middle aged women with few teeth. :(

    She is 9 weeks old and I really want to change it to Annabel with a NN of Annie. I worried about it being too popular so I passed on it and am now kicking myself.

    I just feel like an A$$ as we sent out announcements. :s

     

     

    I love the name you picked out! I think it probably sounds a bit "old" for a newborn, but I think it is a better name to grow into than Annabel (Annie) (although that is a nice name too) I think Theresa (Tess) actually goes better with your boys too. Do what your gut is telling you to do, but I honestly think that the name will start to suit her as you use it more.

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  • I like both names, but ultimately that's irrelevant.

    If your daughter is an Annie, she's an Annie! Go ahead and make it official. 

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  • I can't relate to regretting DDs name, but it was hard to get used to calling her anything but ' the baby' for quite a while. She totally suits her name now. That said, if you have serious regret, its still early enough that changing it wouldn't be a huge deal.
  • When it comes to Theresa, I think of someone older...only because I have two aunts name Theresa. But I don't think of someone older when I see Tess or Tessa as a nickname for it.

    If you feel like you should change it, go for it. We were Team Green and didn't have a name until DD was born. But it took months before it felt like her name fit.

    However, if both you and your husband are agreeing that something isn't right, I would change it. You may feel dumb, but don't feel that way. If you have a FB, just post on there after picking a new name and explain why....and word will travel to others that her name is Annie. Then there is less people you have to tell.
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    We named her Theresa, Tess for a NN. Basically we couldn't agree on anything so we picked Tess in the hospital. The boys are Jack and Sam and I thought it worked. I just don't 'love' it, you know? I now see Theresas all the time and the majority seem to be late middle aged women with few teeth. :(

    She is 9 weeks old and I really want to change it to Annabel with a NN of Annie. I worried about it being too popular so I passed on it and am now kicking myself.

    I just feel like an A$$ as we sent out announcements. :s


    If you've already sent announcements, it isn't as simple as paperwork. All your life, you're going to be those people who changed their baby's name. I know this because my friend's mom changed his name (he had a cousin with the exact same name and it was causing paperwork confusion) People still talk about it. 

    Honestly, Your daughter is named a lovely name. Your boys probably know it now. It's been announced to friends and family. I'd settle in and keep Tess. Your hormones are all wonky right now and what seems so important may not in a few days or weeks. I say that as someone who has just gone through all this. I hope it doesn't sound patronizing. My hormones were raging for the first 12 weeks. 

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  • I think it's humorous but she's young enough that I see nothing wrong with changing it.

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    We named her Theresa, Tess for a NN. Basically we couldn't agree on anything so we picked Tess in the hospital. The boys are Jack and Sam and I thought it worked. I just don't 'love' it, you know? I now see Theresas all the time and the majority seem to be late middle aged women with few teeth. :(

    She is 9 weeks old and I really want to change it to Annabel with a NN of Annie. I worried about it being too popular so I passed on it and am now kicking myself.

    I just feel like an A$$ as we sent out announcements. :s


    If you've already sent announcements, it isn't as simple as paperwork. All your life, you're going to be those people who changed their baby's name. I know this because my friend's mom changed his name (he had a cousin with the exact same name and it was causing paperwork confusion) People still talk about it. 

    Honestly, Your daughter is named a lovely name. Your boys probably know it now. It's been announced to friends and family. I'd settle in and keep Tess. Your hormones are all wonky right now and what seems so important may not in a few days or weeks. I say that as someone who has just gone through all this. I hope it doesn't sound patronizing. My hormones were raging for the first 12 weeks. 

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  • I like both names, my only hesitation would be the announcement thing. Personally, if I sent announcements, I would not change the name.  But if you believe you are going to regret the name and DH is on board, then go ahead and change it or you may continue to obsess over it - which is not good. You may want to send a spunky name change note to close family & friends so people are not confused, like we thought she was a Theresa, but turns out she is an Annabel, so we made it official.  GL

    ETA: love the nn Tess and Tessa

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    We named her Theresa, Tess for a NN. Basically we couldn't agree on anything so we picked Tess in the hospital. The boys are Jack and Sam and I thought it worked. I just don't 'love' it, you know? I now see Theresas all the time and the majority seem to be late middle aged women with few teeth. :(

    She is 9 weeks old and I really want to change it to Annabel with a NN of Annie. I worried about it being too popular so I passed on it and am now kicking myself.

    I just feel like an A$$ as we sent out announcements. :s


    If you've already sent announcements, it isn't as simple as paperwork. All your life, you're going to be those people who changed their baby's name. I know this because my friend's mom changed his name (he had a cousin with the exact same name and it was causing paperwork confusion) People still talk about it. 

    Honestly, Your daughter is named a lovely name. Your boys probably know it now. It's been announced to friends and family. I'd settle in and keep Tess. Your hormones are all wonky right now and what seems so important may not in a few days or weeks. I say that as someone who has just gone through all this. I hope it doesn't sound patronizing. My hormones were raging for the first 12 weeks. 

     This isn't always true. I know someone who had their baby's name changed when she was an infant. She is now in her 20's and I've known her for 15 years and I only found out her name wasn't her original name about 6 months ago. If the parent's don't allow the story of the original name to follow the child for years, it won't. 

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    We named her Theresa, Tess for a NN. Basically we couldn't agree on anything so we picked Tess in the hospital. The boys are Jack and Sam and I thought it worked. I just don't 'love' it, you know? I now see Theresas all the time and the majority seem to be late middle aged women with few teeth. :(

    She is 9 weeks old and I really want to change it to Annabel with a NN of Annie. I worried about it being too popular so I passed on it and am now kicking myself.

    I just feel like an A$$ as we sent out announcements. :s


    If you've already sent announcements, it isn't as simple as paperwork. All your life, you're going to be those people who changed their baby's name. I know this because my friend's mom changed his name (he had a cousin with the exact same name and it was causing paperwork confusion) People still talk about it. 

    Honestly, Your daughter is named a lovely name. Your boys probably know it now. It's been announced to friends and family. I'd settle in and keep Tess. Your hormones are all wonky right now and what seems so important may not in a few days or weeks. I say that as someone who has just gone through all this. I hope it doesn't sound patronizing. My hormones were raging for the first 12 weeks. 

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  • I wouldn't change the name after you sent out announcements, but that's just me.
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  • I really like the name Theresa nn Tess. Its ultimately your and dh decision. When I had dd I questioned if I chose the right name but she grew into it. I think babies become their name. I do think its a little strange to change it but its not a big deal. But what if u change it and then decide she seems more like Tess? Call her Annie for a week and see how it feels.
  • I actually like Therea with nn Tessa better and think it goes better with your boys names. I wouldn't change it at this point if I was you and ditto what the previous poster said about already sending announcements etc.


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    We named her Theresa, Tess for a NN. Basically we couldn't agree on anything so we picked Tess in the hospital. The boys are Jack and Sam and I thought it worked. I just don't 'love' it, you know? I now see Theresas all the time and the majority seem to be late middle aged women with few teeth. :(

    She is 9 weeks old and I really want to change it to Annabel with a NN of Annie. I worried about it being too popular so I passed on it and am now kicking myself.

    I just feel like an A$$ as we sent out announcements. :s


    If you've already sent announcements, it isn't as simple as paperwork. All your life, you're going to be those people who changed their baby's name. I know this because my friend's mom changed his name (he had a cousin with the exact same name and it was causing paperwork confusion) People still talk about it. 

    Honestly, Your daughter is named a lovely name. Your boys probably know it now. It's been announced to friends and family. I'd settle in and keep Tess. Your hormones are all wonky right now and what seems so important may not in a few days or weeks. I say that as someone who has just gone through all this. I hope it doesn't sound patronizing. My hormones were raging for the first 12 weeks. 

    This was my exact thought when I read OP.  I know my emotions were all over the place.  I remember looking at DS when he was 1 month old and thinking I already wanted another one Tongue Tied  I'm not really the type to worry about what others think, so the fact that you sent the announcements out already wouldn't come into play for me.  I think Tess is a great name (Tessa was on an early list of ours). 

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  • Not insane, but def. never heard of, do whatever you feel is right though. With my son my husband and I named him before my 20 wk U/S (Collin) and the moment he was born and laid on my chest I immed. thought "he's a Ben!!" I told my hubby that he wasn't a Collin, I see Ben in his eyes and he completely ignored me and said that we had decided on Collin, told family members and bought monogrammed stuff so Collin it was....Months passed and I still felt the same way, he's 2 now and I'm finally seeing him as a Collin and glad I didn't change it :)
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  • My sister changed her DD's name as an infant after everyone knew her original name. My neice is 13 now and people still bring it up to my sister, and "joke" about it with my neice. She has her own mixed feelings about her name change as well.

    I wouldn't change her name after sending announcements, unless you're prepared for people to talk about it forever. You never know how the knowledge and jokes might affect your daughter in the future either.
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  • My instinct is to say don't change it, but I am biased because I love Theresa nn Tess. I don't think you would be "wrong" to change it- I just don't think I would do it personally at this point.

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  • I love the name Annabel but Tess is a cute name too. Do you dislike Tess or just Theresa? Maybe you could just change her name to Tessa/Tess and drop the Theresa? That might not be worth it for you though... Tough situation! Sorry I'm not much help

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  • I do love Theresa nn Tess, but I do feel Annabel/Annie fits better with Jack and Sam. If you and DH feel strongly enough then I would go ahead with the change. I don't feel like the birth announcements are a huge deal like PP'S stated, but I would be sure to resend new birth announcements to each friend and family member with DD's new name.

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  • Nope, you're not insane at all. I would definitely do it and the sooner the better. Just send out a mass email or a new announcement. I really don't see it being a big deal at all.
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