I've had the same "best friend" since high school. Though we grew up in the same town and went to the same schools and were otherwise quite similar, our paths seem to have taken us different places over the years.
I finished my undergrad and got myself into the working world. Although she seems to prefer being in school (she's done her undergrad, teacher's college, Masters, and now in the middle of a PhD), it sounds like she's getting burned-out with the schoolwork that her PhD program requires. She just doesn't sound happy and is always starting or finishing "work" when I call.
Since informing her of my pregnancy, it feels like there's a lot she doesn't seem to be sharing with me. I'm beginning to wonder if it's because she feels we're in such different places in our lives right now, and that having a baby is going to somehow change my personality which would prevent us from continuing as friends?
I'm also wondering if her being jealous has something to do with our growing apart, because she recently admitted that she doesn't "want" to work a regular job when she's finished school. When I gently told her that people generally don't like to work and many of us hate our jobs but we do it anyway (let's be realistic, here!), she responded with a despondent, "Well, you aren't going to have to work anymore!" .. despite the fact that our circumstances are very different (I have a husband who's willing and able to support me while I'm a SAHM and/or work part-time, whereas for the past six years she's chosen to date someone who lives an 8-hr drive away across the border in the US, and who has commitment issues).
Anyway, it makes me sad to think that our respective life choices might be driving us apart. I've tried talking to her about it, as I acknowledged that she sounded a bit "down" the last few times we spoke. When I told her that I worried about her sounding unhappy, she attributed it to her school work (this is when we had the "I don't want to work" discussion as well, it was rather bizarre). We live 3 hrs apart so don't often get to see each other, which doesn't help.
She spent this past weekend visiting another friend where she said (via text) that she'd done "lots of thinking" (though didn't elaborate on what that meant). FWIW, I'm notorious for assuming things are my "fault" when in reality they've got nothing to do with me, and hope that's not the case here. It could just be her schoolwork that's getting her down, but as soon as she threw out that line about me not having to work anymore whereas she'll have to, it made me suspicious.
I'd appreciate any insight or advice any Bumpies might have, on my situation or one that they've experienced themselves, since I'm terrible when it comes to discussing feelings or relationships and don't really know how to best approach this situation, anymore!