Hey girls, I'm coming over from 9-12 to ask a question. My coworker's wife is pregnant and mentioned a push present to him. Since I recently had a baby he asked me what a push present involves. I didn't get one (didn't want one) so I don't really know what to tell him so here I am to ask advice. He's pretty sure she's wanting a piece of jewelry, but he would rather get her something thoughtful/sentimental. During my tri days I remember something about mommy jewelry that wasn't really expensive...does anyone have that website? Or is there something else you would suggest? TIA!
Re: Push Present ?
To me a push present is ridiculous. For the wife to mention one is even more ridiculous. She's just looking for presents.
I believe the baby-shower board police call that "gift-grabby".
What does she need a present for? I wouldn't buy someone jewelry for completing a natural function of life. He can get her flowers or something. Whatever he considers thoughtful or sentimental... heck, I'd be happy with a trip to the nail salon, since I can't seem to fit that in these days.
But more than that, I'm happy with a healthy new baby.
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I think a push present is sweet. As long as it's reasonable. I wanted something useful, not diva-y. So DH got me a sewing machine. I'm now working on quilts for SD and LO! I loved it. I got it early on, like very end of 1st tri, when I was feeling really crappy all the time, so it was a nice touch.
But I kind of agree that woman is tacky... I don't ASK for presents, MH just gets them for me.
Believe me, I'm with you girls, which is why I am asking what someone who wants a push present would want! Cause I don't know! lol
Personally, I was very happy to have received (or bought myself) all the baby gear/clothes/etc that I wanted. And like you said, you're getting a baby out of the deal, which is the best part! We didn't have the means to have gotten something like a push present, but my coworker definitely does. And he wants to be thoughtful and sensitive to what his wife wants (she really is a sweet person.) So I thought I'd help him out and try to find a few ideas.
If they have $$ then it is probably quite common in their circle to do push presents. Push presents are kind of common around my area but we don't have the $$ for extravagance and I told my BF that (although an engagement ring would kind of kick azz LMAO)
Tell him to check redenvelope.com they have a lot of "family" jewelry or look into something like a pandora bracelet or something that can be added to for different holidays and events.
If DH thought to get me a push present on his own then I would think it was really sweet, but I would never expect or hint for one.
All judgment aside I do have some recommendations -
The 'Loving Family' line of necklaces are really sweet IMO, and inexpensive.
For one child. They have necklaces with more children, just search amazon.com
With birthstones inside. I like this one if they plan to have more kids. It comes with one of each birthstone, I believe.
Another birthstone option but you have to tell them in advance what birthstone you want.
DH's friend told him that he HAD to get me a present when I had the baby. I guess his wife demanded one. She wanted a TV for their bedroom. I was very surprised because I knew nothing about all that - DH gave me earrings with DD's birthstone in them. while we were in the hospital
I've currently lost one and I'm really torn up about it.
I think it's a sweet way to commemorate a milestone - it doesn't have to be extravagant, but I don't think people should be demanding them either.
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I think it's a sweet idea to get something sentimental. As many of the other mom's mention, a piece of jewelry with the baby's birthstone is a nice idea. I don't see anything wrong with something like that.
But someone demanding a present......hmmm. She probably gives him a list of what she wants for her birthday and/or Christmas & suggest he stick just to it as well. Pushy people are pushy people regardless.....but i think the idea of something from the husband to recognize all the hard work the woman went thru is nice.
Having said that I did NOT get a push prize for #1 and am not expecting anything for #2.
I really wanted something with the baby's birthstone, but I wasn't about to ask for it and I woudn't expect my DH to think of something like that on his own. Then one day I wasat khols and the had a 300 dollar neckace for 70% off... SCORE! I actually bought my own push present- talk about tacky.
Anyway another idea might be something spa/beauty related,I know I a feeling pretty unattractive these days and would love to be able to get out and get a guilt free mani/ pedi after the baby comes.
ETA: please excuse my spelling/ missing letters, I have a feeling DH spilled something on my key board recently!
My H decided he wanted to do this and is getting me some sort of jewelry with LO's birthstone.
Pretty much every jewelry store carries birthstone items. There's also a variety of more modern mom/baby items that I saw recently on Red Envelope.
DH is getting me these stackable birthstone rings for Christmas - one for each of my 2 kids and one spacer. I really like them and don't think they're as "old-fashioned" as traditional mother's rings.
https://www.favoritejewelry.com/Stack-Rings-Birthstone/stack_rings.htm
I hate the term, but I love the idea.
I think it's sweet if he gets it on his own. If you have to ask, or demand that it's a certain thing or pricey - then it kind of sucks the special out of it.
OP - to your co worker I would suggest a birthstone pendant or something similar.
This. Isn't her baby a present enough?????
This or maybe a necklace..