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Somehow management found out about the day he called out to go to the doctors to find out we miscarried.  He originally used some sick time, but now they are giving him back the hours he used and pay him for the day.  He could have actually taken 3 days.  I am looking at his company policy...so according to Home Depot "the following immediate family relationships are included:....child (including miscarriage for which both father and mother are eligible)" Thank you Home Depot for recognizing the loss of our child, I wish everyone saw it that way. 

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  • cozylittlecavecozylittlecave
    I'm actually pretty impressed with HD after reading that. I get the impression most companies downplay m/c way too much. It makes me glad to hear that they have a little bit of compassion in such a circumstance. :)
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  • damabo80damabo80 member

    Whoa, that is awesome (the bereavement part, not the loss part).

    I tried that with my company (to take a week off). They said that if I was too upset to work, then I needed to file a mental disability with FMLA. I ended up just taking sick time.


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  • avioletskyavioletsky member
    That is so wonderful. I almost feel like writing them a note for including a policy that includes that degree of compassion. 
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  • mandy6418mandy6418
    Wow!! Thats pretty amazing.
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  • Aubs13Aubs13 member

    Yay for Home Depot!  I wish everyone else would follow suit.

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  • ColleenS629ColleenS629 member
    Wow, that's really amazing of them. I feel like no one recognizes miscarriage as the loss of a child except people that have gone through it.
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  • DowagerCountessofNJDowagerCountessofNJ
    That's a wonderful policy.
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  • itsmeginitsmegin
    That is really awesome actually, makes me like Home Depot a lot more! I am now curious what other employer's policies are. DH just took it as a vacation day (he has tons) so we didn't even check.
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  • MCH77MCH77 member

    That is great.  Go HD!

    I took 2 days off and when I came back I never recieved a form to sign for my sick days.  I thought my boss just let me slide.  Nope, next pay check my sick days were gone  :( 

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    imagecozylittlecave:
    I'm actually pretty impressed with HD after reading that. I get the impression most companies downplay m/c way too much. It makes me glad to hear that they have a little bit of compassion in such a circumstance. :)

    This, that is great news that they did that. Most companies do not include a miscarriage into berevement. two thumbs up to Home Depot!

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  • martinimommamartinimomma member

    I am usually a Lowe's shopper but this may convert me.  That is an awesome policy. 

    I took off the day of my D&C as "personal time"...and that's it (it was a Friday).  But I was totally nonproductive my first couple days back so i should have tried to take more.  DH took day of D&C only as a sick day.

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  • e_ueckere_uecker member
    That is beautiful of them to do. Makes me smile that they see it for what it is.
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  • TheGregory's07TheGregory's07
    imagecherylanddoug:

    Somehow management found out about the day he called out to go to the doctors to find out we miscarried.  He originally used some sick time, but now they are giving him back the hours he used and pay him for the day.  He could have actually taken 3 days.  I am looking at his company policy...so according to Home Depot "the following immediate family relationships are included:....child (including miscarriage for which both father and mother are eligible)" Thank you Home Depot for recognizing the loss of our child, I wish everyone saw it that way. 

    This is very impressive, it is very rare that major retailers will recognize this. I would know I have worked for a number of them. 

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  • millejj1millejj1 member
    That's awesome of them! It's so nice of them to recognize that. I wish more companies would do that Yes
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  • sunflowr0803sunflowr0803 member
    Wow, that's impressive! I want to shop at Home Depot to thank them for that. :)
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    imageColleenS629:
    Wow, that's really amazing of them. I feel like no one recognizes miscarriage as the loss of a child except people that have gone through it.

    This.

    It makes me sort of smile that DH spends tons of $$ at Home Depot.

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  • PachitaPachita member
    That is great! I wish every company included mcs as part of their bereavement pay. 

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  • ColindaPColindaP member
    Whoa...I need to look over my policy. I doubt it's included but if it is, dude, they owe me a TON of time.
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  • cutebride73cutebride73 member

    Wow - that's really something that Home Dept. has a policy like that.  Although, I can have 5 days off for the death of a child, I don't think that miscarriage counts, there is no mention of it in the policy. 

     

     

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  • ashleyrsotomayorashleyrsotomayor member
    WOW. I will shop at Home Depot now just for that.
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  • Fififa21Fififa21 member
    Wow, that?s great news! Yay for Home Depot!

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  • jolieandscottjolieandscott

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    Wow, that's impressive! I want to shop at Home Depot to thank them for that. :)

    This! And I tend to be more of a Lowe's girl...but this might change things. ;)

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    Impressive HD!
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  • stillbakingstillbaking member

    Wow - that is really impressive. Where I work our benefits are pretty comprehensive, but our bereavement pay policy doesn't include miscarriage.

    I'm really amazed with Home Depot. Awesome.

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  • LynnZMommaLynnZMomma
    wow that just made me choose hd over lowes!  I am sorry that your dh had to use it :(
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  • prancerprancer
    Kudos to my husband's comany as well.  He works for Verizon Wireless and was also given bereavement pay for the days he took off for my miscarriage and D&C.  I am a teacher so I was already off of work for the summer,
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  • bbhalphenbbhalphen member
    That's really impressive!  I'll shop there more often.
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  • alliejoealliejoe member
    wow- that's awesome that they have policies that support their employees like that.
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  • butterfly843butterfly843
    That is impressive that they have a policy like that. Definitely makes me want to shop at HD more. My company doesn't have that in their policy andI took sick/vacation days.

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    That is so awesome!
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  • magpiebride61210magpiebride61210 member
    imagedamabo80:

    Whoa, that is awesome (the bereavement part, not the loss part).

    I tried that with my company (to take a week off). They said that if I was too upset to work, then I needed to file a mental disability with FMLA. I ended up just taking sick time.

     

    this happened to me too. i called my doc and she wrote a letter saying i was "under her care" for 7 days to include the D&C. FMLA accepted it and it worked out in the end. My job also told me I'd have to go sit through a mental health evaulation to determine if I was "mentally sound" if i did file for mental health leave through FMLA.

    since when is the loss of a loved one a mental illness? christ these stoires piss me off. what is wrong with people? most companies just don't get it.

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