Pregnant after a Loss

tips for dealing with anxiety?

I am thrilled to say that I am pregnant after a loss last winter, but I am finding it difficult to convince myself that I am pregnant (despite POAS multiple times).  Anyone out there have tips for enjoying your first tri and dealing with anxiety from memories of our loss?

Re: tips for dealing with anxiety?

  • Congrats! First tri is going to be tough, it's exciting and nerve wracking at the same time, can be uncomfortable if you have nausea issues, and you might not want to share your news with anyone until you are further along. Second tri took FOREVER for me, and we didn't tell friends/family(other than BFF's and the parents) until I was 19-20 weeks. I tried to keep my mind busy, and not get too excited about the pg. I didn't buy any maternity clothes until I was 14 weeks, and nothing for the baby until 16 weeks. Honestly, everyone copes differently-my way was not to get excited at first. I was on here a LOT for the supportive atmosphere. It didn't become 'real' for me until 23-24 weeks, when people could finally tell I was pg by my physique and I wasn't getting so sick anymore.

    Good luck to you, keep a journal, take pics of yourself getting bigger, and hang on tight, it's a wild ride! 

  • Oh, yes, and I pray a LOT, specifically to have a baby, and then I ask to keep this baby. It helps me calm down....
  • Just wanted to say congratulations. Sorry, no tips here. Still trying to figure that one out myself.
  • ::hugs and congrats::

    For me, each day that I am pregnant helps me feel a little less anxious.

    My mom bought be a meditation CD by Belleruth Naparstek. At first, I thought it was going to be weird, but I kinda got obsessed with it in 1st tri. It really helped me relax a little bit. Even now that I'm in 2nd tri, I listen to it when I start to get anxious/nervous about everything.


    "Courage is not the absence of fear,
    but simply moving on with dignity despite that fear."

    -Pat Riley

    Forever remembered, always in our hearts
    3.5.08 & 1.22.10 & 4.30.10

    After 2 years of IF, 3 miscarriages, pre-e, and bedrest
    Lena Kathryn was born 3 weeks early on 1.18.11 at 6:26pm via c/s weighing 8lbs. 9oz
  • Congratulations!  I'm still ttc after a loss, I came here to see what it feels like for people once they've been successful.  One thing I know for sure is that I'm going to tell a couple close family members right away, but other than that I'm waiting a long time to share the news with everyone. 
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  • Congratulations on your pregnancy!

    The first weeks are very hard - there's no way around it. So it helps just to accept whatever your feeling and know it is part of the process.

    For me, this pg has seemed real only gradually, as we pass each milestone. It has helped to have a few people who knew about our losses know about this pg so they could offer  support and understanding, as well a s some excitement when I couldn't manage that yet! 

    Mommy to Alden, born May 19, 2007 - best birthday present ever! natural m/c October 20, 2008 at 8w1d BFP April 4, 2009! Missed m/c discovered May 1, 2009 D&C May 12,2009 BFP March 3, 2010 Chemical pregnancy BFP May 25, 2010 Elias Derek born January 26, 2011! Surprise BFP October 24, 2012 Missed m/c confirmed Nov 26 D&C Nov 30 Surprise BFP February 13, 2013
  • This is going to sound cliched, but really making an effort to take my pregnancy one day at a time really helped me get through the 1st tri. Every morning I would wake up and remind myself how grateful I was to be pregnant and for my new baby. I would think "today, I am x weeks and x days pregnant" and try my best to revel in that. I didn't want to get too caught up in milestones and yearning to reach them, because that seemed to make me more anxious and sad.

    Our loss last year was a very late one, so I don't know that I'll ever truly breathe easy or rid myself of anxiety completely during this pregnancy. But I think it helps me to remind myself how lucky I am to be where I am now.

     Best of luck to you!

    DD Stillborn June 26,2009 @34 weeks |

    DS arrived safely February 11, 2011

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