I'd have to say there are quite a few nasty women on here. I understand your hormones, and I get that you have your own opinions, but there is a way to be cordial with what you post, even if every bone in your body is enraged.
We are pregnant, ladies, and as ladies who share something special, I would hope that there would be some decency and civility between us. I read the posts on here to sympathize, to be encouraged, or to share in mutual anguish, and even if I do not agree with one person's opinion, it is not my right to berate them for it. Not one person here is better than another. The person who judges someone else for their comments is now on the same level as the people they judge.
We don't need bullies at this time in our lives. So please, watch how you treat others.
I don't have many to talk to about what's going on with my pregnancy and really need someone to talk to, but it is threads like these that make me think twice about ever posting anything, should some statement I make warrant such a cruel reaction. We all come from different walks of life, and small posts like these can't possibly capture everything that is going on. I would like to feel safe to vent about the stupidest of things, because somedays, that is just how I feel.
I don't see that as a grounds for others to make open rude assumptions.
Everyone does it. Get used to it.
Just because everyone does it, doesn't make it right. Some people just have no manners or communication skills.
Most people don't know the boundaries around pregnancy. I've been asked really shocking things by people I'd never expected to hear these things from.
If you're annoyed now, it's going to be a really long pregnancy. And it doesn't get better when you have kids.
Thanks for the advice... I already have a child and I've heard all the pregnancy comments before. Just because people don't know the "boundaries around pregnancy" or any topic for that matter, doesn't mean you shouldn't tell them when they've crossed the line. Again, just because people do things that are inappropriate doesn't make it right or mean that it should continue to go on.
If someone says something that's offensive simply correct them or tell them. Perhaps they'll think twice before saying it to another person. If everyone took the attitude that "everyone does it, so just let it continue" nothing in this world would ever change
:lurking from 2nd tri: I've had people assume this baby (our first) wasn't planned. I've even had a couple of people remark that DH and I must've had a bit of fun over too many Christmas wines (I wasn't open to all and sundry about our IVF). It sucks, but I think people say stupid comments to almost every pregnant woman.
Either tell the person the truth or ignore them and move on.
Exactly, if it's that upsetting let the person know that what they've said was offensive.
I get that all the time. DH and I got married in July so because it's, "so soon." people automatically jump to that assumption. People also say, "wow you guys are sooo young." Well I'm 25 and DH is 28... it's not like I'm 14!
I'm noticing being PG = a lot of rude comments from people. For some reason some people just can't keep their mouths shut the second they find out you're expecting.
I agree. It just annoys me. It's my life, my baby I need to raise... why do YOU need to add your two sense of my decisions. Even if it wasn't planned, how is that a helpful thing for someone to say?! Grrr. (haha)
I'm sorry that you are receiving this kind of reaction. Not nice at all!
A good friend of mine is trying for her second and her first is only 7 months. We plan to do the same thing - one after another. Apparently she gets nasty comments all the time that she is crazy, etc.
Why can't people just keep their mouths shut and keep their comments to themselves?
I'd have to say there are quite a few nasty women on here. I understand your hormones, and I get that you have your own opinions, but there is a way to be cordial with what you post, even if every bone in your body is enraged.
We are pregnant, ladies, and as ladies who share something special, I would hope that there would be some decency and civility between us. I read the posts on here to sympathize, to be encouraged, or to share in mutual anguish, and even if I do not agree with one person's opinion, it is not my right to berate them for it. Not one person here is better than another. The person who judges someone else for their comments is now on the same level as the people they judge.
We don't need bullies at this time in our lives. So please, watch how you treat others.
I don't have many to talk to about what's going on with my pregnancy and really need someone to talk to, but it is threads like these that make me think twice about ever posting anything, should some statement I make warrant such a cruel reaction. We all come from different walks of life, and small posts like these can't possibly capture everything that is going on. I would like to feel safe to vent about the stupidest of things, because somedays, that is just how I feel.
I predict that your stay here will be short and uncomfortable.
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:lurking from 2nd tri: I've had people assume this baby (our first) wasn't planned. I've even had a couple of people remark that DH and I must've had a bit of fun over too many Christmas wines (I wasn't open to all and sundry about our IVF). It sucks, but I think people say stupid comments to almost every pregnant woman.
Either tell the person the truth or ignore them and move on.
Exactly, if it's that upsetting let the person know that what they've said was offensive.
Right, I agree with this too. It's silly to get worked up about it, though. Very few people know we did IVF (we don't want some big mouth to let it slip to our kid when s/he's four). So if someone asks something inappropriate, I can either correct them, laugh it off, or let them know that what they asked is very personal.
Actually, I'm a big fan of that one. 'Was this planned?' 'Wow, that's an extremely personal question. Are we going to talk openly about your sex life next?'
But we know this is coming. This is what people do when people have kids. It'll be annoying, but you learn to deal with it.
I completely agree with you. Find a witty come back and put them in their place.
When we told my godfather about 2 under 1 (not happening anymore, sadly), he said...""OOPS!" I laughed and told him we wanted them close. It happens...people say rude things.
Re: (vent) why do people assume this is unplanned...
I'd have to say there are quite a few nasty women on here. I understand your hormones, and I get that you have your own opinions, but there is a way to be cordial with what you post, even if every bone in your body is enraged.
We are pregnant, ladies, and as ladies who share something special, I would hope that there would be some decency and civility between us. I read the posts on here to sympathize, to be encouraged, or to share in mutual anguish, and even if I do not agree with one person's opinion, it is not my right to berate them for it. Not one person here is better than another. The person who judges someone else for their comments is now on the same level as the people they judge.
We don't need bullies at this time in our lives. So please, watch how you treat others.
I don't have many to talk to about what's going on with my pregnancy and really need someone to talk to, but it is threads like these that make me think twice about ever posting anything, should some statement I make warrant such a cruel reaction. We all come from different walks of life, and small posts like these can't possibly capture everything that is going on. I would like to feel safe to vent about the stupidest of things, because somedays, that is just how I feel.
Thanks for the advice... I already have a child and I've heard all the pregnancy comments before. Just because people don't know the "boundaries around pregnancy" or any topic for that matter, doesn't mean you shouldn't tell them when they've crossed the line. Again, just because people do things that are inappropriate doesn't make it right or mean that it should continue to go on.
If someone says something that's offensive simply correct them or tell them. Perhaps they'll think twice before saying it to another person. If everyone took the attitude that "everyone does it, so just let it continue" nothing in this world would ever change
Exactly, if it's that upsetting let the person know that what they've said was offensive.
Cents.
Just sayin'.
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I'm sorry that you are receiving this kind of reaction. Not nice at all!
A good friend of mine is trying for her second and her first is only 7 months. We plan to do the same thing - one after another. Apparently she gets nasty comments all the time that she is crazy, etc.
Why can't people just keep their mouths shut and keep their comments to themselves?
I predict that your stay here will be short and uncomfortable.
I completely agree with you. Find a witty come back and put them in their place.