Miscarriage/Pregnancy Loss

I havent cried in a while..

until yesterday. While at the supermarket DH and i ran into a coworker of his.. his wife is pregnant and due close to when i was due.. She looked at me a little puzzled, but said.. I heard you are expecting too! At first, I said no, but she and her husband looked confused, so I said.. well we lost it... I was okay.. until I got home... and the tears started fresh, as though it just happened. I guess I just have to accept that this will always hurt in some way or another, whether it be in the form of a sad memory that brings tears to my eyes, or anger when I see my pregnant neighbor smoking a cigarette, or really anything that reminds me that I am no longer having my baby.

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  • I'm so sorry you're hurting.  ((Hugs))
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  • I'm so sorry! i know how this feels as something similiar just happened to me.

    I just had a missed miscarriage and on the one day I was at work before my d&c(yesterday), one of my coworkers asked if I was going somewhere fun since I was marked out for the next 2 days. I guess she hadn't heard the news. I just started crying and said "To get a d&c" and walked away.

    I know she felt bad, and it wasn't her fault but it was still awful.

    I feel your pain.

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    one of my coworkers asked if I was going somewhere fun since I was marked out for the next 2 days. I guess she hadn't heard the news. I just started crying and said "To get a d&c" and walked away.  

    I'm so sorry. Hugs to you.

    I took last week off, and a co-worker came up to me on Monday and asked how my vacation was, and if I went anywhere fun. FML

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    BFP #4 via the natural (free!) way ~ E (8lb 11oz) 9/13/12

  • I'm so sorry that you had to deal with that situation.  I think it will always be difficult to some degree.  But hopefully it gets a little easier with time.  Hugs.
  • I'm so sorry. :(  We have friends who are pregnant too, and I'm dreading seeing them.
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  • I'm so sorry.  I had a similar experience recently, but I was not strong enough to admit the truth about my situation.  I'm proud of you for being able to tell her.  I think its a big step in the healing process.  I'm sorry you had such a tough time afterward.  You have every right to be sad.  ((hugs))
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  • I'm so sorry. I agree that you should be proud that you were able to tell her. Sending some positive vibes.

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  • I'm so sorry.  That is a tough position to be in, but I am so proud of you for keeping it together until you got home... that took guts!  
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  • I'm so sorry.  I have been crying all day today.  I can't stop and I don't know what to do. 

    You know, one of my H's coworkers said to him, "Hope you enjoyed your days off!" in a sarcastic tone when he went back to work.  He said he wanted to a. punch the guy or b. say that his wife was in emergency surgery for an ectopic pregnancy and make the guy feel awful. 

    I haven't been back to work yet, but I still feel sick and I'm dreading it. 

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