The other day at work I burst into tears because of something a coworker said. I've never cried in front of anyone but my husband about my if. I've never outwardly been affected even by comments of others.
But for some reason this week was different.
My coworker said something along the lines of "careful, don't carry so much at once. One day you are going to have babies who want to be carried and you don't need a hurt back."
Tears immediately started pouring down my face. And my coworker immediately ran over to me and hugged me and apologized for whatever she said (she had no clue about us even trying to get pregnant. She's younger than me and not married or dating.) I guess she realized it had something to do with trying to get pregnant, she said, "I can't have kids either" (like that was supposed to make me feel better) it actually made me feel worse because not only had I burst into tears over my IF I also got sad for her.
It turned out okay and I was able to stop crying and no one else knew it even happened. She tried to be enouraging and stuff, but it's not the same talking to someone who is not near trying to have kids.
Anyways, has anyone else had a similar situation? How did you save face?
Trigger warning
me: 28 dh: 34
married since October 2015-started trying immediately
dx: PCOS, anovulatory
rx: provera metformin progesterone
*TW*
BFP August 2016- early mc- Enoch Matthis
1 clomid cycle (March 2017)
BFP March 2017 ~ EDD December 13, 2017
di/di TWINS!!!!! vanishing twin- Hannah Jordan
DS-Nov 23, 2017- emergency induction-- Pre-eclampsia
*End TW*
BFP Sept.2019
Re: Need to share with ladies who understand
Staying strong is hard, and I have found myself running to the bathroom to cry and if i feel the tears building up, then I usually say I have bubble guts (I'm sorry TMI) but that way if it gets to overwhelming I can keep running to the bathroom, saying I don't know what's wrong with my stomach. I hope this helps.
Congrats on your new marriage!
Thank you for your advice.
Trigger warning
married since October 2015-started trying immediately
dx: PCOS, anovulatory
rx: provera metformin progesterone
*TW*
BFP August 2016- early mc- Enoch Matthis
1 clomid cycle (March 2017)
BFP March 2017 ~ EDD December 13, 2017
di/di TWINS!!!!! vanishing twin- Hannah Jordan
DS-Nov 23, 2017- emergency induction-- Pre-eclampsia
*End TW*
BFP Sept.2019
Together 9 Years, Married 3 Years
DH (33) Me (29)
TTC 1.5 Years
We know that suffering produces endurance; endurance, character; and character, hope. And hope does not disappoint us.
-Romans 5: 3-4
As for if you start crying around someone you don't want to tell, I'd just use the excuse that you're having a bad day and you're not sure why you're upset (hormones?) but that it's not that person's fault--and then beeline for the bathroom. (I suspect this works better with female colleagues, but who knows? ;-) )
Thanks for your encouragement ladies.
Trigger warning
married since October 2015-started trying immediately
dx: PCOS, anovulatory
rx: provera metformin progesterone
*TW*
BFP August 2016- early mc- Enoch Matthis
1 clomid cycle (March 2017)
BFP March 2017 ~ EDD December 13, 2017
di/di TWINS!!!!! vanishing twin- Hannah Jordan
DS-Nov 23, 2017- emergency induction-- Pre-eclampsia
*End TW*
BFP Sept.2019
TTC #1 Since: April 2015
Unexplained Infertility
Cycle 1&2 : Clomid 50mg- BFN
Cycle 3: Letrozole 2.5mg- BFN
Cycle 4: Letrozole 5mg- BFN
Cycle 5: HSG-normal
Clomid 100mg+ Estrace- BFN
Cycle 6: Letrozole 5mg+Trigger shot+IUI+Progestrone- BFN
Cycle 7: Letrozole 5mg, Cyst found during follicle check
Cycle 8: Birth control to treat left ovary cyst
Cycle 9: Letrozole 7.5mg+Trigger shot+IUI+Progesterone- BFN
Cycle 10: Letrozole 7.5mg, 2 Cysts found during follicle check
Cycle 11: Clomid 100mg+Estradiol+Trigger shot+IUI+Progesterone- BFN
Cycle 12: Clomid 100mg- BFN
Cycle 13-16: Natural attempts while awaiting IVF
Cycle 14: IVF-BFN
The most difficult thing is I work in a college book store and the bathroom is a trek from the store. It would be easier to hide if I had a normal job. Since many times I'm the only one on the floor, I can't really run off. I wish I had an "off" button to my emotions!
Trigger warning
married since October 2015-started trying immediately
dx: PCOS, anovulatory
rx: provera metformin progesterone
*TW*
BFP August 2016- early mc- Enoch Matthis
1 clomid cycle (March 2017)
BFP March 2017 ~ EDD December 13, 2017
di/di TWINS!!!!! vanishing twin- Hannah Jordan
DS-Nov 23, 2017- emergency induction-- Pre-eclampsia
*End TW*
BFP Sept.2019