@cmillar36 I feel like we should talk sometime. Our little girls share the same birthday. And even though some of our circumstances might be different, we are sharing a very similar journey since we lost our girls this week. As I read your posts I feel every single word and can connect on so many levels both emotionally and physically. I think we could be a great support for each other. I live in Ontario Canada and saw that you are in Canada too. Any advice u can offer about the paperwork for a leave would be helpful. I'm trying to sort that out too. My email is rs892@hotnail.com. Let me know if u would find it helpful to chat xo
@cmillar36 and @Rach2smith hugs to you ladies! Everything you are feeling is totally normal and dumb people say some really awful things. There's sadly not much we can do about the stupid things. Just know that those of us who get it, also get the stupid things told to us and it makes us all want to scream, which is normal. Don't let them make you feel worse for feeling how you feel, you are entitled to whatever feelings you have and those people can shove it! Do whatever you need to do to protect your hearts!
There are so many things that will catch you and cause you to break down. I'm glad you recognized you needed space from your family and pregnant sister. Don't allow others to tell you where you should be in your grief process. Allow yourself space when you need it. Be patient and kind to yourself.
@cmillar36 thanks for sharing this picture. She is a sweetheart. So tiny and so very loved.
I had bleeding and spotting for quite some time, off and on. I assume lochia is the same at 5 months as it is for an 8 month loss, but initially, the lochia is the shedding of different uterine materials, which progresses through different colours. After that, some women (including me) have a return of red bleeding, which I think was my uterus entirely replacing the patch where the placenta was attached to the uterine wall. Finally, I experienced black lochia, which was scary but painless.
Throughout these 7 weeks, I have had stomach pains as my body slowly heals.
There are a couple of good articles out there on postpartum bleeding that come up on Google.
the pains are just your body adjusting. The cramps are similar to when your uterus was growing, now it's shrinking. Bleeding can come and go. I hope it goes as quickly as possible for you. So many hugs to you
Embarrassing question? How long did you wait to be intimate with husband or significant other? Today is Day 11. Bleeding seems to be done. Id really like to. My discharge sheet days when bleeding is done and when you feel you are ready? Having had 2 previous csections not sure if it's ok.
Embarrassing question? How long did you wait to be intimate with husband or significant other? Today is Day 11. Bleeding seems to be done. Id really like to. My discharge sheet days when bleeding is done and when you feel you are ready? Having had 2 previous csections not sure if it's ok.
That's a good question for your Dr. if you are unsure. I was told to wait the usual 6 weeks after a vaginal birth due to the risk of infections. We definitely waited longer than that because I was just so out of it for a while. Sorry I'm not much help.
I agree ask your doctor mine had been a vaginal delivery- we were told 6 weeks and then to avoid pregnancy for at least 3 cycles before getting pregnant again.
Re: I belong here now
in Winnipeg.
I actually have emails to write to @alanna3622
My mind just won't let me put too many thoughts clearly down right now.
A picture of my angel.
I had bleeding and spotting for quite some time, off and on. I assume lochia is the same at 5 months as it is for an 8 month loss, but initially, the lochia is the shedding of different uterine materials, which progresses through different colours. After that, some women (including me) have a return of red bleeding, which I think was my uterus entirely replacing the patch where the placenta was attached to the uterine wall. Finally, I experienced black lochia, which was scary but painless.
Throughout these 7 weeks, I have had stomach pains as my body slowly heals.
There are a couple of good articles out there on postpartum bleeding that come up on Google.
the pains are just your body adjusting. The cramps are similar to when your uterus was growing, now it's shrinking. Bleeding can come and go. I hope it goes as quickly as possible for you. So many hugs to you
It sucked for me too -- I thought I was in the clear and it was done, but then it started again.
I am glad you are waiting. The last thing you need is an infection.