FFFC

MamaMunn

I need some work distraction so confess away! 

MRSCORKER

I'm sitting in my GYN office waiting for the NP and I can hear her in the next room talking to a woman who's pregnant and doesn't want to be. I know everyone is in a different place and it may not be the right time for her and I'm all for freedom of choice and handle your UTE the way you want but I want to smack her because we would all give our right arms to be in her shoes. 

DCHokiemom

I feel like the worst wife ever. I had too much wine last night and yelled at DH because the laundry I did has been on the floor for DAYS waiting to be folded....which he says he will do every night.  I basically told him we shouldn't be considering a second child if he can't help out around the house.  Then I woke up this morning, found out I was ovulating, and called him home from work so we wouldn't miss out chance this cycle.  He really is the world's most patient man.  I would divorce me if I were him:/

Xstatic3333

MRSCORKER said:

I'm sitting in my GYN office waiting for the NP and I can hear her in the next room talking to a woman who's pregnant and doesn't want to be. I know everyone is in a different place and it may not be the right time for her and I'm all for freedom of choice and handle your UTE the way you want but I want to smack her because we would all give our right arms to be in her shoes. 

I'm sorry. That sucks to hear.  It's awful that the office doesn't have better sound proofing too. Really irresponsible. 

CoonMom

I'm embarrassed to confess....I've never had an orgasm. Any advice/ tips would be appreciated. 

DH tries so hard but after so long it hurts more than is pleasurable.  

izza2

My FFFC is that I do not find newborn babies to be cute/adorable/beautiful. Maybe that'd change if it were my own kid, but when they're all cone-headed with vagina juices and stuff on them.. I just don't see it.

MamaMunn

dogmomwantinghuman said:

I'm embarrassed to confess....I've never had an orgasm. Any advice/ tips would be appreciated. 

DH tries so hard but after so long it hurts more than is pleasurable.  

All I can say is invest in a good vibrator and your life will change  

Sparty18

I'm too chicken to participate in the "After Dark" threads.  I'm nervous people I know will see or that my H is stalking the board (hi hubby!?). 

MamaMunn

izza2 said:

My FFFC is that I do not find newborn babies to be cute/adorable/beautiful. Maybe that'd change if it were my own kid, but when they're all cone-headed with vagina juices and stuff on them.. I just don't see it.

They're way cuter once the vagina juices have been washed off.

Xstatic3333

Sparty18 said:

I'm too chicken to participate in the "After Dark" threads.  I'm nervous people I know will see or that my H is stalking the board (hi hubby!?). 

I did the first one but have been too nervous since. Shy girl over here. 

DCHokiemom

dogmomwantinghuman said:

I'm embarrassed to confess....I've never had an orgasm. Any advice/ tips would be appreciated. 

DH tries so hard but after so long it hurts more than is pleasurable.  

Yes, you need a vibrator.  I think the bullet is the best for easy clitoral stimulation.  I would work on doing it on your own, without DH there.  Then you can focus and not feel any pressure from an "audience".  Maybe once you can do it on your own, you can show him what has worked and he can change his method.  

simcal18

Sparty18 said:

I'm too chicken to participate in the "After Dark" threads.  I'm nervous people I know will see or that my H is stalking the board (hi hubby!?). 

Me too.  I know we share a lot of personal information about this board and I'm definitely curious about some of the topics that have been discussed, but when I think about contributing I'm all

Winnie81_Old

My husband tried to have a conversation this morning while I was half asleep with no coffee in sight. From what I remember, we fought about not turning into hillbilly's and I started crying. We have rules about not interacting with me before coffee for a reason.  

ShallowSeas

@dogmomwantinghuman
I second everyone else in the vibrator recommendation.  I use a bullet like @DCHokiemom recommended and its amazzzzzing. They're also pretty cheap.

sarah0985

@dogwantinghuman

I agree with everyone bout trying A vibrator. Also about first trying it alone. My ex got me my first one and while I was very comfortable with him, I was shy about that so experimented on my own first. 
Also, have you tried anything to get yourself mentally there? Erotica or some porn? 

momtoleo

Similar to @izza2 , but I hate newborn photo shoots with the naked baby in a basket with a funny hat on. I don't understand the point. I'm okay with photo shoots where the new parents are looking adoringly at the baby, etc. but it's something about those baskets and hats that gets me. Not natural.

DiFazette911

@dogmomwantinghuman - I would recommend getting there yourself first, assuming you mean never, never, not just never during intercourse.  Learn what works for you, then gently teach your SO.  Take the PP's advice and get to having some fun by yourself.  

Zoey1019

One of my staff members just told me that her daughter is pregnant for the SECOND TIME BY MISTAKE....they terminated the first and now she wants to keep it...... OH WOE IS YOU I AM SORRY! 

Also @Sparty18 @simcal18 @Xstatic3333, this has happened to me. And admitting this might give me away again! I originally joined with me real name..dumb...and picture of me and DH...dumb #2. A friend of a friend told another friend (you know how it goes) and then I get a call from one of my BFFs all like, hey so I hear you post on TB? Are you WTO or TWW?? hahahaha Thus my change of name and picture  

izza2

MamaMunn said:

izza2 said:

My FFFC is that I do not find newborn babies to be cute/adorable/beautiful. Maybe that'd change if it were my own kid, but when they're all cone-headed with vagina juices and stuff on them.. I just don't see it.

They're way cuter once the vagina juices have been washed off.

Lmao, after a few days they tend to start getting cute.. But any baby I've seen that first day, when they're still fresh to the world, I just have not found adorable.
My cousin had her baby last month, and I saw the pictures of when she was first born, and then I saw her in person on day two, and it was like two different babies.

Lulucooks

This is me waiting for a repeat of July's BSC.  The Bump never forgets.

juliehollz13

izza2 said:

MamaMunn said:

izza2 said:

My FFFC is that I do not find newborn babies to be cute/adorable/beautiful. Maybe that'd change if it were my own kid, but when they're all cone-headed with vagina juices and stuff on them.. I just don't see it.

They're way cuter once the vagina juices have been washed off.

Lmao, after a few days they tend to start getting cute.. But any baby I've seen that first day, when they're still fresh to the world, I just have not found adorable.
My cousin had her baby last month, and I saw the pictures of when she was first born, and then I saw her in person on day two, and it was like two different babies.

Yes. All of the above plus they get little whiteheads all over their face and their skin smells sour for a couple of days....I'm assuming it's "breathing"? idk. But I would hold and love on that ugly little potato fresh from the womb if it was my own, i'm sure. 

sarah0985

What's this bsc you speak of? I was a lurker I. July and don't strongly remember what you're talking about. @Lulucooks

MonaLisaRalphio

@dogmomwantinghuman PPs have mentioned what I think is the real question - is it just that you've never orgasmed from sex or that you've never orgasmed AT ALL?  Lots and lots and lots of women don't orgasm from sex.  But if you haven't had an orgasm on your own, it may be time to start experimenting.  Vibrators are great, although I really don't like the bullet model that a lot of people are into.  I used to have one that was like a ring that fit over the tip of my finger.  That was awesome BUT THEN MY DOG ATE IT.  I also have a full-sized option for when shit gets real.  You could also invest in a really nice extendable shower head.  Take some time to think about what really gets you turned on - are you a visual person?  Do you want romance?  Are you interested in kinks? - and seek those things out, either with your SO or on your own.  It can be really fun to try stuff out together, but if you're not comfortable asking him for stuff until you figure out what you want, there's always porn!  It's not just for dudes!  There are actually feminist porn companies out there who do a fairly nice job, but there's no shame in seeking out the raunchy stuff, if that's what you want to try.

I don't think this applies to you, because the fact that you bring up the topic makes it seem like it's something that bothers you and/or orgasm is something you want, but it bears noting:  some people are just not that sexual.  And that's fine.  If you are perfectly happy not orgasming, don't get caught up in social pressure to do it.  A lot of people will tell you OMG YOU HAVE TO GET THERE IT'S THE BEST, and, yeah, it's the best!  But it's not the ONLY thing that is the best.  Snuggles are also the best.  And puppies are the best.  And nachos are the best.  So do some soul (and, heh, other parts) searching if you want to, but also don't feel like you HAVE to do it.

CoonMom

I have never o'd. Not on my own or with sex.  I have tried vibrators. I haven't really tried porn yet (not sure why not). I get the closest  when he goes down on me,  but he hates doing that so I'm lucky if I get it once a year. 

anj27

@LINDSEYRVA I love seeing orgasm and nachos in the same discussion. 

sarah0985

I would try some porn or literotica material. I am a mental orgasmer (not sure if that's a word) but I need to be mentally in it. If my mind is not into, physically I will never orgasm. I prefer literotica (.com) for some erotic reading but will also check out some porn sometimes if I'm feeling lazy. @dogwantinghuman


@lindeyrva
 said that is if you do want to. As she said, it's okay if you just aren't a sexual person as well. 

skiingstark

dogmomwantinghuman said:

I'm embarrassed to confess....I've never had an orgasm. Any advice/ tips would be appreciated. 

DH tries so hard but after so long it hurts more than is pleasurable.  

So I needed both penetration and clit stimulation at the same time to finally get me to orgasm. My fav is a cock ring with the vibrator on the end.  

MonaLisaRalphio

@anj27 I feel like a conversation that involves orgasms and nachos is pretty much the perfect conversation.

NamelessAria

@dogmomwantinghumanI definitely second literotica (.com) Porn isn't my thing really. And I've noticed that if I ever start watching porn to try to make that my thing (to be more normal I guess? I don't know.) that the porn has to keep getting raunchier and raunchier to do it for me. Eventually I'm over here watching like BDSM orgies or something like "eh if only there were something a little... more." (Don't judge me ladies!  lol)

A good literotica can sometimes make me orgasm no physical stimulation needed. On the flip side, I've only had an orgasm having sex a handful of times in my life. Maybe 10ish.

However, I have a friend who insists that she'd tried a wide variety of literotica and none of it has worked for her. She says porn is her thing. I have another friend who insists she doesn't need either just her imagination and a vibrator.

Basically, my point is, everyone is different. You just have to find your "thing." And if you start looking into porn/literotica don't limit yourself to things you'd actually do IRL. Sometimes people find what turns them on the most to see/read is something they would never want to actually do.

RatParade

This is probably an UO, but I'd be careful with going down the porn/literotica route.  To each their own, honestly, but I went down that path and I regret it.  I think it's only desensitized me, and like @NamelessAria said you start needed more and more.  Maybe it's different if DH was in on it but he's not (he's really not into that sort of thing, which I respect) and I feel like it's made it even harder to orgasm during sex with him because I need so much more mental/visual stimulation.  It's a habit I'm trying to break.

NamelessAria

My confession is that I've been spending so much time on here that I've started dreaming about checking the forums and reading the TWW thread. I had this super vivid dream last night that I was reading the TWW thread and it was BFPs for everyone. 

britters314

RatParade said:

This is probably an UO, but I'd be careful with going down the porn/literotica route.  To each their own, honestly, but I went down that path and I regret it.  I think it's only desensitized me, and like @NamelessAria said you start needed more and more.  Maybe it's different if DH was in on it but he's not (he's really not into that sort of thing, which I respect) and I feel like it's made it even harder to orgasm during sex with him because I need so much more mental/visual stimulation.  It's a habit I'm trying to break.

I agree. Porn definitely has some negative consequences that may not be worth it.

britters314

My FFFC is that I'm tempted to fail about half my students right now because they aren't even trying. Ugh.

Megzb510

My confession is that i stalked the October BMB after someone noticed a bunch of regulars had moved over there quietly. And I got sucked in reading threads and there's just so much new stuff to talk about when you're KU! .  I love this board to pieces and the snark level that is already set but I bet the BMBs don't get this snarky. But I would love talk about stuff besides WTO and TWW. (Hence my attempts add some spice with the "after dark" posts  )

NamelessAria

Megzb510 said:

My confession is that i stalked the October BMB after someone noticed a bunch of regulars had moved over there quietly. And I got sucked in reading threads and there's just so much new stuff to talk about when you're KU! .  I love this board to pieces and the snark level that is already set but I bet the BMBs don't get this snarky. But I would love talk about stuff besides WTO and TWW. (Hence my attempts add some spice with the "after dark" posts  )

I know right! Suddenly your life doesn't resolve around WTO and the TWW anymore. You can think about so many other things! I feel like right now about 50% of everything I think about (and dream about apparently) is related to WTO/TWW/TTC misc.

ETA:
*TW: previous pregnancy/loss mentioned below*

Although I will say, about the BMBs that the one I was on for June '16 had fairly varied topics at first. But in not too long it turned into a parade of ladies who were worried sick something was wrong and ladies who were leaving. Also, there was more threads about symptoms than you could possibly imagine. I swear it felt like 10 people a day made a thread about morning sickness alone. And let's not forget the 4 threads a day about "I know I'm only 5 weeks but I'm totally showing already!" There were definitely some days where I missed this forum. Not the TTC process, but ya know.

Lulucooks

Megzb510 said:

My confession is that i stalked the October BMB after someone noticed a bunch of regulars had moved over there quietly. And I got sucked in reading threads and there's just so much new stuff to talk about when you're KU! .  I love this board to pieces and the snark level that is already set but I bet the BMBs don't get this snarky. But I would love talk about stuff besides WTO and TWW. (Hence my attempts add some spice with the "after dark" posts  )

They do.  The first month there's a lot of rainbows and butterflies, but the snark definitely shows up.  It's fun when the BMB will talk about other boards and how much better they are, because reasons....  

PensiveCrayon

I feel like actually getting pregnant will only elevate the frenzied waiting, though. At least for me. Like, "Is this going to stick? Is the baby going to be healthy? Am I going to be a good mom?" etcetera. And for nine whole months!

MamaMunn

Megzb510 said:

My confession is that i stalked the October BMB after someone noticed a bunch of regulars had moved over there quietly. And I got sucked in reading threads and there's just so much new stuff to talk about when you're KU! .  I love this board to pieces and the snark level that is already set but I bet the BMBs don't get this snarky. But I would love talk about stuff besides WTO and TWW. (Hence my attempts add some spice with the "after dark" posts  )

You mean there's other things in to talk about besides WTO and the TWW? What is the dream world you speak of! 

picklesplease

Megzb510 said:

My confession is that i stalked the October BMB after someone noticed a bunch of regulars had moved over there quietly. And I got sucked in reading threads and there's just so much new stuff to talk about when you're KU! .  I love this board to pieces and the snark level that is already set but I bet the BMBs don't get this snarky. But I would love talk about stuff besides WTO and TWW. (Hence my attempts add some spice with the "after dark" posts  )

You are not the only one. I did the same thing. I think the snark level is about the same, but I keep checking it. I. Can't. Stop!

Lulucooks

I started a random thread for random chatting ^_^

wintersong

juliehollz13 said:

izza2 said:

MamaMunn said:

izza2 said:

My FFFC is that I do not find newborn babies to be cute/adorable/beautiful. Maybe that'd change if it were my own kid, but when they're all cone-headed with vagina juices and stuff on them.. I just don't see it.

They're way cuter once the vagina juices have been washed off.

Lmao, after a few days they tend to start getting cute.. But any baby I've seen that first day, when they're still fresh to the world, I just have not found adorable.
My cousin had her baby last month, and I saw the pictures of when she was first born, and then I saw her in person on day two, and it was like two different babies.

Yes. All of the above plus they get little whiteheads all over their face and their skin smells sour for a couple of days....I'm assuming it's "breathing"? idk. But I would hold and love on that ugly little potato fresh from the womb if it was my own, i'm sure. 

White heads, sure. But baby head smells like heaven.