5 month old baby and one on the way

pramire2

so I just had my beautiful baby girl Anaya. She's 5 months and I just found out I am pregnant again. I realized it was very irresponsible of me not to pay more attention to my birth control pill and this is where k stand now. My kids will be a year apart and I am freaking out. I have a aunt that lives 250 miles away I don't get to see often and only 4 close friends with lives of their own and pretty much made me feel selfish and guilty about keeping this new baby. I couldn't live with myself not having it even if it mean I must struggle with no help. Me and My boyfriend pretty much have only each other to watch the kids and it's a struggle just to work since some days we work the same days. I just need some guidance and support since the friends I have seem not to support my decision.

Knottie1442268460

It's TOUGH. I'm a SAHM. Grandmas been coming over to spend 2 hours with the oldest while baby and I sleep (baby is 2 mos) every morning. It may be the best option for you to consider adoption. I think you can meet with an adoption counselor for free. I know of a family that adopted, in an open adoption-still contact birth parents. The birth parents had several kids and just couldn't afford it. The adoptive parents couldn't have kids.

I'm sorry you're going through this.

hlvonb

pramire2 said:

so I just had my beautiful baby girl Anaya. She's 5 months and I just found out I am pregnant again. I realized it was very irresponsible of me not to pay more attention to my birth control pill and this is where k stand now. My kids will be a year apart and I am freaking out. I have a aunt that lives 250 miles away I don't get to see often and only 4 close friends with lives of their own and pretty much made me feel selfish and guilty about keeping this new baby. I couldn't live with myself not having it even if it mean I must struggle with no help. Me and My boyfriend pretty much have only each other to watch the kids and it's a struggle just to work since some days we work the same days. I just need some guidance and support since the friends I have seem not to support my decision.

@pramire2

1. How's it going now?
2. See the bolded - Friends shouldn't make you feel like that. If they still do, you may need to remove yourself from that friendship since they're not adding anything positive.
3. Whatever you decide, best of luck to you and your family

babybrownbear2015

I'm also expecting baby #2 with a 5 mo old baby girl.  I'm also a days drive away from our closest family and totally relate to your anxieties! My husband and I are also tag-teaming constantly.

I am very nervous about having kids so close in age but everyone keeps telling me after you get through the "baby" stage with both of them, it's a wonderful experience.  They will probably be very close friends since they will grow up enjoying the same things around the same times. And the moment I stopped freaking out was the other day when my baby girl was giggling uncontrollably and I thought "how wonderful that sound is... And how wonderful it will be when there's two of them giggling at each other!"

Just take a deep breath and take it one day at a time.  My opinion: God won't give you more than you can handle and if he didn't think you could be a wonderful mother to 2 under 2 he wouldn't have given you another miracle to raise.
Don't be so hard on yourself and trust your gut.  You know what's best for your family!