How much should I help out?

groovylocks

So how much help do I give my planner (Friend and coworker)? What is the correct amount of help to offer? I don't want her to do this all on her own because she was very kind to throw me a shower and I want to be able to do whatever I can to make it easier. But is there etiquette around this sort of thing?

Knottie1442268460

You don't do anything unless she asks you to do something specific or asks you to choose something.

VOR

If you want to throw out a general "if you need any help, let me know", ok.  But past that?  sit back and let her ask you/take you up on your offer.  If she says "Nope- I got it under control", then let it go.

People who offer to throw showers- they usually do so knowing that is entailed.  And really, they aren't THAT difficult of an event to throw. 

groovylocks

Ok thanks This helps.