So I have this friend who is like I have to have a gender/sex reveal party. At first I wanted one but I think they are cute. I have my 20 week appointment all set where I will find out the sex, however now the appointment is on a Tuesday morning and the weekend of that week I will be gone with my husband attending a family wedding. Also we are dying to know and will want to tell everyone right away. I told my friend this and she is like let's do it during the week and I'm like wait, what? I don't think that it will work, trying to gather people and plus my husband doesn't get off work until 6pm and then gets home around 6:45pm, we like to hang out at home during the week and relax.
We can have it at a restaurant but it just seems so difficult and then it is an another expense to pay for food, decorations ,etc. She says she will plan even though I don't need help with that since I'm a planner but I don't want to have to pay a lot and I'm sure she would offer to help pay which I would not let her do either.
Is it rude of me to put my foot down and say No? I know she is excited, I'm one of the first of our friends to have a baby but now that my appointment is during the week and taking place a week later than I thought, it just seems more complicated and just too much. I don't know if I even want it anymore.
Re: Sex Reveal Party
When your friend has a baby, she can do a sex reveal party if that's what she wants.
It doesn't sound like you're fully on board so I wouldn't mess with it if I were you. Go for the photo reveal
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I've been thinking about having one. At first I wanted to have just my parents and brother over and cut into a cake or something. But my aunts and cousins have asked if I'll do a reveal party, and I think it could be fun. So I think I'll throw a party and serve fun goodies and do a cute annuncemnet, either with cake or maybe balloons. My whole family doesn't get together as often as we would like, so it would be just another excuse to get us all together to visit. I certainly have never thought of any party my family members have thrown as a waste of my time, especially if they have gone to the effort of serving food and drinks. But I assume the idea of reveal parties its different in different social circles.
And if you don't want to do a party OP, you shouldn't feel guilted or pressured into it! Do what makes you happy!