Has anyone had a glass of wine?

lesisk

Has anyone had a small amount of wine? I've heard conflicting opinions? Some say it's fine after the second trimester (in small amounts, and not too frequently) some say not at all. Thought I'd get some insight from you wonderful people

(I have the mobile app, and for whatever reason, I cannot use the "search function.") When people reply with search it, it doesn't really help.

gotdiesel2007

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taahira

It's really a personal choice. I personally didn't drink through any of my pregnancies. I didn't miss it enough.

amm0512

I tried to drink a glass a couple weeks ago as I was relaxing with friends. I filled a glass with ice and a serving of wine. Made it through almost half after three hours. Alcohol makes me sleepy regardless, so add the exhaustion of growing a tiny person on top of that and I was falling asleep. I had 3 half servings of wine when pregnant with DS, he was born healthy.

TacoSarah

If you use the search function, you will find multiple threads on this all over the community. It's pretty much in each BMB and there is currently one going on in the 3rd trimester board.

Be warned, it often gets heated and very opinionated.

BJoshlyn

It's fine. A 6 oz glass of red once in awhile is actually beneficial because of the antioxidants. But drink a bigger glass of water with it so you don't dehydrate. I didn't drink at all with my first two but this one I crave red wine. I'm still in my first trimester so I'm not taking the chance though. Always talk to your doctor.

ellebaby4

My doctor recommended I wait till the third trimester. I had wine a couple times and a couple martinis. (All separate occasions) That baby is 3 years now and perfectly healthy. My doctor said that in Europe mother's drink throughout pregnancy and their rate of fetal alcohol syndrome is tremendously less than that of the U.S. Just keep it to one serving and be sensible.

racerleo

I had half a glass of rose the other day at 14 weeks. It was heavenly!

jenboston22

I think it's completely fine in moderate amounts (1/2 glass to 1 glass appreciated slowly with food; 1 or 2 times a week), but ever since I started feeling little one kicking, I can't even bring myself to drink these small amounts. I know it's psychological (as I know scientifically the alcohol will all get processed through my liver before reaching the baby), but oh well. It doesn't really bother me -- I know that if I feel the desire, I can have a little. So, do what makes you feel comfortable, as long as what makes you feel comfortable is not downing 5 shots in a row 

PrimRoseMama

lesisk said:

Has anyone had a small amount of wine? I've heard conflicting opinions? Some say it's fine after the second trimester (in small amounts, and not too frequently) some say not at all. Thought I'd get some insight from you wonderful people

Personal comfort level. I do not feel comfortable ingesting alcohol while pregnant.

star8627

I miss wine soon much, but I'm waiting until he's out in the world to imbibe. Wine will be in the hospital bag. My Dr said no alcohol whatsoever.

Snoflakes4eva

It isn't worth the risk to me.

rue:D

I haven't had more than a sip or two so far (23w today). But a friend brought me a bottle and I will be having a small glass here at some point!

groovylocks

I have had three in total. 

• 1 glass of champagne when i found out i was pregnant. 
  
• 1/2 glass of wine after a day of delays and reroutes on a business trip (12.5 weeks) - would have had the whole glass but maternity sickness didn't like it
  
• 1 today with lunch (14.5 weeks)

Doc says a glass or two of wine a week is perfectly ok. I just can't drink that much because I"m already so tired. I might try a beer in a couple of weeks IF I can find a good dark stout worth drinking. Not sure yet. 

christina4436

No but I have had a few NA beers (not in one sitting). I like taste of beer and is refreshing in summer. Also had a few sips of champ on our 3rd anniversary.

leylacorbett1

Come on. Can people not really go without it for 40 weeks? And having champagne when you find out you're pregnant? Eek.

skabanak

I would never take a chance to risk my babies health alcohal isn't that important to me so I can wait until he's out in the world before I indulge.

DylansCandyBar

skabanak said:

I would never take a chance to risk my babies health alcohal isn't that important to me so I can wait until he's out in the world before I indulge.

So I guess you're eating an all organic diet, completely free of processed foods, artificial sweeteners, high fructose corn syrup, only grass fed and free range lean meats, walking everywhere you go wrapped up in bubble wrap, right? Exercising at least 30 minutes every day? No train rides or riding in cars?

DylansCandyBar

leylacorbett1 said:

Come on. Can people not really go without it for 40 weeks? And having champagne when you find out you're pregnant? Eek.

There's no need. My doctor has absolutely no problem with me having a half glass of wine with dinner a few times a week.

I hope all you judgy pearl clutchers are maintaining a perfectly clean diet, exercising daily and abstaining from riding in cars, trains and planes during pregnancy!

knolliepollie

I have enjoyed two glasses of wine in my second trimester. Not at the same time of course. But I plan on having a glass of wine per month if I want it

fashiongirlsteph

I must admit I really do miss my wine!

Due date is Dec 2nd, so maybe a glass w/ my Thanksgiving dinner?

Not feeling like its really worth it at this point, I think I would feel too guilty. 

TacoSarah

skabanak said:

I would never take a chance to risk my babies health alcohal isn't that important to me so I can wait until he's out in the world before I indulge.

amberrmariee20

skabanak said:

I would never take a chance to risk my babies health alcohal isn't that important to me so I can wait until he's out in the world before I indulge.

I won't drink or smoke while pregnant, however there are risks involved with everything, like eating processed foods while pregnant, not exercising, using any chemicals to clean with, being in an outdoor environment that could have been treated with pesticides, there's too much "risks" with everything, not just Alcohol alone.
Some people have a few drinks their entire pregnancy and have perfectly normal babies. With my son I never smoked or drank, and being around cigarette smoke made me puke so I limited my contact with it, my son was born with asthma which is genetics, and also born with a cyst on his vocal cords, the first thing the drs asked me was "did you smoke" and I proudly said no. So I'm assuming they were trying to find a link, but there was none. Sometimes things just happen and are out of our control. There isn't enough studies done to determine what's a safe limit with alcohol and when it becomes dangerous.

christina4436

TacoSarah said:

skabanak said:

I would never take a chance to risk my babies health alcohal isn't that important to me so I can wait until he's out in the world before I indulge.

Haha love this pic!

Krs18

It's something that is a personal choice. I personally do have a beer or a glass of wine, sometimes once a day. Never 2 in one day, and it typically takes me at least an hour to drink it.

I did this with my first child when I was pregnant, too. My doctor said its ok, and that is the most important thing in my opinion.

It's funny how judgmental people on these boards get scrutinized by other judgements...irony.

Lis5362

I personally abstain (as per the AAP, NIH, CDC and ACOG recommendations) because studies show pregnant women metabolize alcohol at a slower rate than non pregnant women and a safe level hasn't been established (no judgement, but to me it's not worth the risk, but I wasn't really a drinker to begin with). To the original poster- If you feel uncomfortable doing it, I think that's your answer. My friend had a great mental guide as to what to eat/drink while pregnant: would you give it to a 2 year old? It works for anything from alcohol to highly fatty foods to too much sugar

MariahOBrien

I love wine.

brecam15

@fashiongirlsteph That's me. It doesn't bother me when others do it, but I think the guilt would get to me!

amberrmariee20

Lis5362 said:

I personally abstain (as per the AAP, NIH, CDC and ACOG recommendations) because studies show pregnant women metabolize alcohol at a slower rate than non pregnant women and a safe level hasn't been established (no judgement, but to me it's not worth the risk, but I wasn't really a drinker to begin with). To the original poster- If you feel uncomfortable doing it, I think that's your answer. My friend had a great mental guide as to what to eat/drink while pregnant: would you give it to a 2 year old? It works for anything from alcohol to highly fatty foods to too much sugar

The whole "would you give it to a 2 year old" is completely different when pregnant. By the time the alcohol reaches the baby it's not the same % or quantity. Yes, some alcohol does reach baby, but it can't be compared on what you would feed your 2 year old.

groovylocks

leylacorbett1 said:

Come on. Can people not really go without it for 40 weeks? And having champagne when you find out you're pregnant? Eek.

Actually in europe they believe mild consumption benefits the baby and the mother so maybe not being so passive aggresive is the way to go here?

It's only in north america (and not all of NA either, for that matter) you'll find this level of paranoia. Europeans are not worrying about the occasional drink. And their kids are outperforming our kids. 

I'm not arguing FOR alcohol. But a glass of wine isn't going to hurt you. If you don't want it, that's great! That won't hurt you either obviously. But sorry. I just don't buy into the paranoia. Not on the news. In ads. Or on the internet. I listen to my doctor and if she says it's safe in small doses, then i believe her. She's been a doctor longer than i've been alive. 

I also eat sushi on occasion. The only thing I don't touch is McDonald's - and i'm guessing you don't either? Because that would be pretty awkward if you were scarfing down stuff insects don't even eat and lecturing other women on the occasional drink.

And to answer your snarky question, actually I have disliked alcohol since becoming pregnant. The list I gave you is the list in total to this day. I'm not drinking it unless i feel like i want it. So yes, I am "able" to avoid it. I just choose not to live my life in fear. The kid is going to be fine. Just like every other kid whose mom has a glass of wine or beer here or there. I may not want it once a week but i am not going to judge a woman who does. And i'm not arguing this to justify any bad behaviour clearly. It's the principle of the thing. 

My doctor knows more than you do. So i trust her. That's where we are. 

groovylocks

amberrmariee20 said:

I personally abstain (as per the AAP, NIH, CDC and ACOG recommendations) because studies show pregnant women metabolize alcohol at a slower rate than non pregnant women and a safe level hasn't been established (no judgement, but to me it's not worth the risk, but I wasn't really a drinker to begin with). To the original poster- If you feel uncomfortable doing it, I think that's your answer. My friend had a great mental guide as to what to eat/drink while pregnant: would you give it to a 2 year old? It works for anything from alcohol to highly fatty foods to too much sugar

The whole "would you give it to a 2 year old" is completely different when pregnant. By the time the alcohol reaches the baby it's not the same % or quantity. Yes, some alcohol does reach baby, but it can't be compared on what you would feed your 2 year old.

I would allow a small child to taste alcohol anyway. It is customary in my culture to allow children to take small amounts of wine on occasion. I grew up doing it and I'm one of the few people I knew growing up that didn't binge drink or see it as a big deal at all. 

And looking back over my life, I performed quite well. So it didn't seem to have any effects on me whatsoever. 

I just refuse to be That Kind of mom.. I refuse to be in panic mode for the rest of my life. 

andreaAL11

Why is it that we are all moms to be but we still judge each other and comment like snarky high schoolers? She asked a simple question, is it really necessary to be sarcastic and judgmental, not only to her but each other. Come on, we are all obviously mature enough to have children so act like it, for heavens sake.

I'm 15 weeks and had a 1/2 glass of wine with dinner, I don't think I'll be doing it again though, just because I felt guilty afterwards! Most OBs say it's okay to occasionally have 1/2 glass to a glass a week.

TacoSarah

groovylocks said:

amberrmariee20 said:

I personally abstain (as per the AAP, NIH, CDC and ACOG recommendations) because studies show pregnant women metabolize alcohol at a slower rate than non pregnant women and a safe level hasn't been established (no judgement, but to me it's not worth the risk, but I wasn't really a drinker to begin with). To the original poster- If you feel uncomfortable doing it, I think that's your answer. My friend had a great mental guide as to what to eat/drink while pregnant: would you give it to a 2 year old? It works for anything from alcohol to highly fatty foods to too much sugar

The whole "would you give it to a 2 year old" is completely different when pregnant. By the time the alcohol reaches the baby it's not the same % or quantity. Yes, some alcohol does reach baby, but it can't be compared on what you would feed your 2 year old.

I would allow a small child to taste alcohol anyway. It is customary in my culture to allow children to take small amounts of wine on occasion. I grew up doing it and I'm one of the few people I knew growing up that didn't binge drink or see it as a big deal at all. 

And looking back over my life, I performed quite well. So it didn't seem to have any effects on me whatsoever. 

I just refuse to be That Kind of mom.. I refuse to be in panic mode for the rest of my life. 

I'm from the UK and my parents were a lot more relaxed around alcohol. I would get given a very watered down, very small glass of red wine with Sunday dinner, probably from about 4 years old and onwards, if I asked for it. And my dad let me finish the dribble of beer left in the bottom of the can after he poured it into his glass on a Saturday afternoon.

I've grown up with a very healthy view on alcohol. I've never had to sneak it at home like other teenagers. If I wanted a drink I only had to ask for one when I was a teenager.

I know my mum had the odd tipple here and there when she was pregnant with me and I'm very successful. I have an MBA.

allrightmeow

andreaAL11 said:

Why is it that we are all moms to be but we still judge each other and comment like snarky high schoolers? She asked a simple question, is it really necessary to be sarcastic and judgmental, not only to her but each other. Come on, we are all obviously mature enough to have children so act like it, for heavens sake. I'm 15 weeks and had a 1/2 glass of wine with dinner, I don't think I'll be doing it again though, just because I felt guilty afterwards! Most OBs say it's okay to occasionally have 1/2 glass to a glass a week.

You should lurk more and get the feel of the board.  This might not be the place for you.  Sarcasm is the norm here. 

delujm0

I had a glass of wine here and there while pregnant, enjoyed slowly with a meal. Baby girl is fine.

OP, even on the mobile app you can use the search function. Scroll all the way to the bottom of the board and there it is. You're welcone.

Alyllyra

groovylocks said:

leylacorbett1 said:

Come on. Can people not really go without it for 40 weeks? And having champagne when you find out you're pregnant? Eek.

*snip* Actually in europe they believe mild consumption benefits the baby and the mother

---qbf---

This argument always come up, and I never understand why. See, I live in Europe. Sweden, to be precise. And the recommendation here is NO alcohol in any form during pregnancy. At the first meeting at the OBs office, they let you watch a 5 min film about the damages that alcohol can cause in a growing fetus. So no, the whole of Europe is not the same. Not every country has the same recommendations regarding alcohol.

groovylocks

Alyllyra said:

leylacorbett1 said:

Come on. Can people not really go without it for 40 weeks? And having champagne when you find out you're pregnant? Eek.

*snip* Actually in europe they believe mild consumption benefits the baby and the mother

---qbf--- This argument always come up, and I never understand why. See, I live in Europe. Sweden, to be precise. And the recommendation here is NO alcohol in any form during pregnancy. At the first meeting at the OBs office, they let you watch a 5 min film about the damages that alcohol can cause in a growing fetus. So no, the whole of Europe is not the same. Not every country has the same recommendations regarding alcohol.

To be fair, when I talk about Europe, I am talking about the countries I am familiar with. My apologies because you're right. Europe is a huge place and has a lot of varying opinions on this subject. I am not familiar with Sweden but not surprised since my friend, who is Swedish, also didn't drink and made a point of talking about how she felt it was not safe.

groovylocks

Btw, moms who do choose to have a glass of wine, be aware that it will hit you HARD. You may feel like you're eating for two but you are definitely not drinking for two. 

Drink it slowly and with food. I personally recommend that if you drink any, keep it at a half glass. A full glass was far too much and half of it went down the sink. 

Alyllyra

groovylocks said:

Alyllyra said:

groovylocks said:

leylacorbett1 said:

Come on. Can people not really go without it for 40 weeks? And having champagne when you find out you're pregnant? Eek.

*snip* Actually in europe they believe mild consumption benefits the baby and the mother

---qbf---

This argument always come up, and I never understand why. See, I live in Europe. Sweden, to be precise. And the recommendation here is NO alcohol in any form during pregnancy. At the first meeting at the OBs office, they let you watch a 5 min film about the damages that alcohol can cause in a growing fetus. So no, the whole of Europe is not the same. Not every country has the same recommendations regarding alcohol.

To be fair, when I talk about Europe, I am talking about the countries I am familiar with. My apologies because you're right. Europe is a huge place and has a lot of varying opinions on this subject.

I am not familiar with Sweden but not surprised since my friend, who is Swedish, also didn't drink and made a point of talking about how she felt it was not safe.

-----Edit: damn quote box fail!

Thank you for clarifying

Just because I'm curious, which countries are you familiar with? I think many of the European countries are now leaning towards recommending pregnant women not to drink, but I also know that some will fight for it tooth and nail (looking at you, France, lol).

rmarie13

I live in Spain, land of cured meats and red wine. DH and I are pretty big wine consumers. My Dr says wine is fine in moderation. I really haven't been wanting any so I haven't had a glass since we found out about LO. I do however have a sip here and there to toast to things. If I do have a sudden urge for a glass I would have a small one. It's a very personal choice.

I can't believe so many have slammed the girl who is abstaining about being judgy. Her misspelling the word "alcohol" made me way more irate!

groovylocks

rmarie13 said:

I live in Spain, land of cured meats and red wine. DH and I are pretty big wine consumers. My Dr says wine is fine in moderation. I really haven't been wanting any so I haven't had a glass since we found out about LO. I do however have a sip here and there to toast to things. If I do have a sudden urge for a glass I would have a small one. It's a very personal choice. I can't believe so many have slammed the girl who is abstaining about being judgy. Her misspelling the word "alcohol" made me way more irate!

Spain too? Similarly I'm thinking France. 

I also know (personally, not professionally) a german doctor who says the zero tolerance on alcohol is just silly and that her colleagues share her opinion. I can't say for sure anything of the opinions of Germany at large however. 

Nobody takes any issue with somebody choosing to abstain. To drink AT ALL (forget pregnancy even) is a personal choice and it's not going to hurt anybody if you choose not to have any. The only posts I have taken issue with is those that ALL BUT USE THE WORDS "bad mother" or "Oh my god, I can't understand how anybody WHO LOVES THEIR BABY would.."

Passive aggressive people drive me bananas. We all see through it. So you might as well say what you're really thinking rather than hide it behind that kind of silliness.