In my childhood our "privates" were just that and covered everything where "strangers shouldn't touch". This mentality led me to be unable to use certain words without them feeling "dirty" and I don't want to repeat that cycle.
I'm wondering if you ladies have any suggestions or experience to share regarding how your LO refers to their bits or how you plan to introduce this subject?
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Re: Questions about privates
Here's one: https://m.today.com/parents/just-say-vagina-using-correct-body-part-names-empowers-kids-6C9551650
From that article-
"Sex abuse prevention educators want kids to know that their private parts are off limits to others and to be able to talk about them in ways everyone can understand, rather than using euphemisms like cha-cha or wee-wee."
Makes sense I think and might be enough of a reason to use proper names for those who are squimish.
Boys just love saying those words, and they love bathroom humor. Thankfully, they seem to know better than to say it in public, but when they're around 2 years old and shout something out in the middle of church, well...I think "boy part" doesn't grab as much attention as "penis." Just my opinion, but I think there's an appropriate age to introduce certain terminology.
I'm super glad I got over it bc DH is named Tyler.
I figure I'll teach this little boy to call it a penis. It's actually a pretty cool word.
As you already stated, thankfully they know not to speak about it in public, so if they have learned that very important lesson, what is beneficial to having them refer to it as a "boy part" instead of "penis" when it's in private anyway?
And I know it still could be embarrassing if shouted out in public, but personally I would almost be happier to hear "penis" shouted in public rather than some other cutesy word, because it means kids are being taught things in an honest and matter of fact way. And depending on the age of the kid I would probably be pretty quick to excuse it as a kid still learning what is acceptable.
I wish I could find the article that I read this in, but someone said that when you call body parts by something other than it's proper name, and then they learn the truth elsewhere, you establish yourself as an unreliable source and run the risk of them going elsewhere for further info on private/sexual matters. And to me, that makes total sense. I grew up with slightly "prudish" parents and I ended up getting most of my knowledge from friends (a lot of it wrong, in the early years) I don't want my kid to do that. My hubby and I hope to establish ourselves as the confident source our kid can come to so we can give them proper info as well as have open honest discussions about what is appropriate.
I'm also in the no forced hugs and kisses camp. I can see it being an issue with my in laws as they always request them when we leave, DS is agreeable at this point but when he's older I will tell him he doesn't have to give hugs and kisses to anyone (even DH and me) if he isn't comfortable.
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Enter Thor.
My DH, who had no idea about their name selection for privates (and how
Could he have ever have guessed?) said "Hey Thor, show me your hammer," to which my nephew promptly dropped his pants.
This could have created a lot of awkwardness and confusion if there wasn't an audience present.
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She uses hiney for the front area and butt for the rear. She's two, so I didn't think I'd need to really get into detail on it. When we get to that I'll be more anatomically specific.
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Edit because it's still early and words are hard.
Edit: is to his (chubby finger problems)