FFFC

KerCo51

Anyone have one?  I had a good one yesterday, but I forgot it today.  I'm hoping it will come back to me.

KerCo51

I only have like two pictures of me and DD in the hospital.  I blame it on feeling gross too.  I was also hopped up on pain killers most of the time.I can relate.  I am actually disappointed how few pictures I have of DD and I the whole first year of her life.  

mancila60

I think there are 5 pictures totaly of me and DS since he was born. I got Bell's Palsy 6 weeks after he was born and my whole left side of my face was paralized and I felt horrible. Since I got better we just haven't done anything where we have taken pictures of me and DS. I'm usually the one taking the pictures.

mancila60

baconface said:

mancila60 said:

I think there are 5 pictures totaly of me and DS since he was born. I got Bell's Palsy 6 weeks after he was born and my whole left side of my face was paralized and I felt horrible. Since I got better we just haven't done anything where we have taken pictures of me and DS. I'm usually the one taking the pictures.

After the no-pictures-in-the-hospital thing, I was terrified of this happening, and I kept panicking and ordering DH to take pictures of us together... even though I hate having my pic taken. 

I have a few really nice ones, and many terrible ones that I wouldn't show anybody, lol.

Make it a point to take some selfies with DS!

Pretty much all the ones of us are selfies. This is the only time in my life I will actually take a selfie! We have a few from the hospital. And we have some family ones but as far as me and DS it's just selfies.

bkeane619

Warning: Loss mentioned











On Wednesday I felt like a bad person because my FB was lighting up with the pregnancy/infant loss posts and I felt bad for all the Moms but not for myself regarding our own loss. I always felt like something was wrong so it wasn't meant to be. I might have teared up at the time but I never felt like majority of the other Moms who have had losses. This time of year I am reminded of it due to the season and the leaves on the trees but I never cry, just think back on the disappointment I felt. I don't know why I feel like this. I feel like I have grieved friends losses more than my own.

jennlin

****loss mentioned****






@bkeane619, me too. a few of my friends "came out" that day about their lost pregnancies, that i never knew about and i just got so sad. i cried more than once.

ballygirl

I have been home with the girls all week and it has been a nightmare.  Lizzy has HFM and so couldn't go to daycare all week.  So she was super fussy, even though I think it was a relatively mild case of it.  And the girls fight constantly now.  They fight over toys, they pull each other's hair, they've started hitting each other, sometimes they just look at each other and start crying and its 100X worse when I am in the room.  It is all day and I can't stop it.  If I try to redirect one with another toy, then they start fighting over the new toy. If I pick one up, the other one starts screaming. Even if I give them both identical toys, they want the toy the other one has and fight over it.  It is maddening and they are too young to understand, so it is just temper tantrums all day long. 

This weekend is their birthday party which I'm sure no one will want to come to since they have HFM and all I want is the next 3 days to be over so that I can go back to work and get some relief.  I feel a little guilty for just wanting to get away from them.

Phalaenopsis

**loss**



@bkeane619‌ everyone grieves differently. Some people are more vocal or it affects them harder. I know someone who was disappointed but not sad and just moved on and started trying again. All forms of grief are personal and valid. So sorry to hear about your loss.

Mmhodges07

bkeane619 said:

Warning: Loss mentioned On Wednesday I felt like a bad person because my FB was lighting up with the pregnancy/infant loss posts and I felt bad for all the Moms but not for myself regarding our own loss. I always felt like something was wrong so it wasn't meant to be. I might have teared up at the time but I never felt like majority of the other Moms who have had losses. This time of year I am reminded of it due to the season and the leaves on the trees but I never cry, just think back on the disappointment I felt. I don't know why I feel like this. I feel like I have grieved friends losses more than my own.

I grieve for other people on a daily basis. I feel like I am so emotional all the time, and I never focus on my sadness, and I know I don't always grieve in the "healthiest" of ways. I have always been someone who "pushes" my feelings aside, but I have been trying to take a few moments a day/every other day to grieve my sister's passing. I seem to want to ignore it, and it still just feels like a dream. Like I will see her again, but the truth is I NEVER WILL!  Obviously everyone grieves differently, but I think it is important to connect and feel our pain. 
I'm sorry for your loss @bkeane619 and @jennlin

carawasa

Yesterday morning I changed LO when she woke up, zipped her pjs, and then we played a bit. While I was getting ready my FI was holding her and was like "uh...do you know you zipped a toy in her pajamas?" woops )

stephl3055

I have this weird double chin in the pictures of me and LO in the hospital because I was turning my head and looking down.  Plus DH took the picture at a weird angle.  I don't think we have a picture of the 3 of us at the hospital at all and I never got one with our doula.  

Phalaenopsis

I'm totally bumping at the lecture and not paying attention. Another confession is that I'd like to see some mud-slinging, empty-promising, dirty laundry-airing, slogan-toting candidates for mod here on Oct13. I mean, all are great candidates, but who wants it the most? #vryimportant

jennlin

Mmhodges07 said:

bkeane619 said:

Warning: Loss mentioned On Wednesday I felt like a bad person because my FB was lighting up with the pregnancy/infant loss posts and I felt bad for all the Moms but not for myself regarding our own loss. I always felt like something was wrong so it wasn't meant to be. I might have teared up at the time but I never felt like majority of the other Moms who have had losses. This time of year I am reminded of it due to the season and the leaves on the trees but I never cry, just think back on the disappointment I felt. I don't know why I feel like this. I feel like I have grieved friends losses more than my own.

I grieve for other people on a daily basis. I feel like I am so emotional all the time, and I never focus on my sadness, and I know I don't always grieve in the "healthiest" of ways. I have always been someone who "pushes" my feelings aside, but I have been trying to take a few moments a day/every other day to grieve my sister's passing. I seem to want to ignore it, and it still just feels like a dream. Like I will see her again, but the truth is I NEVER WILL!  Obviously everyone grieves differently, but I think it is important to connect and feel our pain. 
I'm sorry for your loss @bkeane619 and @jennlin

thank you. i wasn't intending to mention that i've had a loss....just that i feel so very sad for other losses. but in a way, i kinda/sorta did have a loss, even though i never saw the positive, and i don't know for sure, but i very much believed i was pregnant.....i don't consider it a loss....but now i'm getting the feels. maybe it was a loss.

Mmhodges07

jennlin said:

Mmhodges07 said:

bkeane619 said:

Warning: Loss mentioned











On Wednesday I felt like a bad person because my FB was lighting up with the pregnancy/infant loss posts and I felt bad for all the Moms but not for myself regarding our own loss. I always felt like something was wrong so it wasn't meant to be. I might have teared up at the time but I never felt like majority of the other Moms who have had losses. This time of year I am reminded of it due to the season and the leaves on the trees but I never cry, just think back on the disappointment I felt. I don't know why I feel like this. I feel like I have grieved friends losses more than my own.

I grieve for other people on a daily basis. I feel like I am so emotional all the time, and I never focus on my sadness, and I know I don't always grieve in the "healthiest" of ways. I have always been someone who "pushes" my feelings aside, but I have been trying to take a few moments a day/every other day to grieve my sister's passing. I seem to want to ignore it, and it still just feels like a dream. Like I will see her again, but the truth is I NEVER WILL!  Obviously everyone grieves differently, but I think it is important to connect and feel our pain. 
I'm sorry for your loss @bkeane619 and @jennlin

thank you. i wasn't intending to mention that i've had a loss....just that i feel so very sad for other losses. but in a way, i kinda/sorta did have a loss, even though i never saw the positive, and i don't know for sure, but i very much believed i was pregnant.....i don't consider it a loss....but now i'm getting the feels. maybe it was a loss.


((Hugs))

Also, I just want to say that I love you ladies. It's so great having such a constant support whenever it's needed. #wolfpackrocks

BMnatz11

DH left this week and will be gone for quite a while. I haven't bathed the kids in 3 days. Confession #2: I may wait until tomorrow (even though I *should* give them baths tonight) because MIL is visiting tomorrow and it's so much easier with two people.

Amjoy25

I like dancing to line dances at weddings; songs like Cupid Shuffle, Electric Slide, Cha Cha Slide, Wooble, etc. #noragrets

Weljadraak

awwwpuddin said:

I clean my house like a madwoman before my family leaves town, just in case we die. So whoever comes to take care of our stuff won't think I'm a slob.

This is the same mentality of always wearing nice and matching underwear.

Amjoy25

Hum, ok...I have had many people close to me die...one of them being a sister, and IMO losing her IS much worse to me than miscarrying. NOW BEFORE YOU FREAK OUT! I've never had a loss, but I did go through several rounds of IVF, and every time you get your period it's like a loss (or 3, depending on how many embryos you wasted). HOWEVER, I also feel like I have these feelings because miscarriages are commonly due to DNA transcription problems and non-viable lives....ALSO, I am not saying you cannot mourn your miscarriage because you ABSOLUTELY should...this is just me.

taylormarie923

I just cleaned the glass panes on our back doors for the first time ever. We have lived here for four years.

taylormarie923

I am on a hunt for chocolate teddy grahams and the grocery store has not restocked the shelf all week. Yes, I have gone in to look for them every day.

sleepy33

jgslr said:

Ok, a real fffc I HATE roomsharing with dd! We're on vacation and having to share a hotel room with her and my loud, fidegty dh sucks. She fights her sleep like crazy so every toss/turn or fart from dh is reason for her to turn and look. And I feel bad admitting it, but sometimes i feel resentful towards dd about how bad a sleeper she is. A broken 8 hrs a night is fucking ridiculous for a baby. She always looks sleepy and tired and even has bags under her eyes. But no matter what we do she refuses to sleep. Some friend on fb AW her 4mo who sleeps 12 hours and it made me all kinds of stabby.

Um. Not flammable at all. I chucked Cam into his own room at like 2 months because I couldn't stand roomsharing with him. When I stayed at SIL's, I carved out a tiny hole in her junk-to-the-ceiling spare room, crammed his PNP in and made him sleep in there so I could be free to roam the house and make noise. I basically refuse to roomshare, at this point. I'm not sure what I'd do if I had to stay in a hotel, maybe put his PNP in the bathroom and pray I didn't have to pee all night?

mancila60

Snowboarderbritt said:

sleepy33 said:

jgslr said:

Ok, a real fffc

I HATE roomsharing with dd! We're on vacation and having to share a hotel room with her and my loud, fidegty dh sucks. She fights her sleep like crazy so every toss/turn or fart from dh is reason for her to turn and look.

And I feel bad admitting it, but sometimes i feel resentful towards dd about how bad a sleeper she is. A broken 8 hrs a night is fucking ridiculous for a baby. She always looks sleepy and tired and even has bags under her eyes. But no matter what we do she refuses to sleep. Some friend on fb AW her 4mo who sleeps 12 hours and it made me all kinds of stabby.

Um. Not flammable at all. I chucked Cam into his own room at like 2 months because I couldn't stand roomsharing with him. When I stayed at SIL's, I carved out a tiny hole in her junk-to-the-ceiling spare room, crammed his PNP in and made him sleep in there so I could be free to roam the house and make noise. I basically refuse to roomshare, at this point. I'm not sure what I'd do if I had to stay in a hotel, maybe put his PNP in the bathroom and pray I didn't have to pee all night?

Ugh room sharing in a hotel is awful. Our friends always get a suite now with their kids and I'm about at that point too. It is miserable for all of us.

This is a fear of mine because H and I always watch tv when we go to bed. I never thought of getting a suite but that would work! So far all the places we have traveled he has stayed in the room with us because the rooms didn't have tvs in them. We have always stayed with family.

hlb622

sleepy33 said:

jgslr said:

Ok, a real fffc

I HATE roomsharing with dd! We're on vacation and having to share a hotel room with her and my loud, fidegty dh sucks. She fights her sleep like crazy so every toss/turn or fart from dh is reason for her to turn and look.

And I feel bad admitting it, but sometimes i feel resentful towards dd about how bad a sleeper she is. A broken 8 hrs a night is fucking ridiculous for a baby. She always looks sleepy and tired and even has bags under her eyes. But no matter what we do she refuses to sleep. Some friend on fb AW her 4mo who sleeps 12 hours and it made me all kinds of stabby.

Um. Not flammable at all. I chucked Cam into his own room at like 2 months because I couldn't stand roomsharing with him. When I stayed at SIL's, I carved out a tiny hole in her junk-to-the-ceiling spare room, crammed his PNP in and made him sleep in there so I could be free to roam the house and make noise. I basically refuse to roomshare, at this point. I'm not sure what I'd do if I had to stay in a hotel, maybe put his PNP in the bathroom and pray I didn't have to pee all night?


--------motherfuckingquotetrees--------

#theonlysolution

bkeane619

BMnatz11 said:

DH left this week and will be gone for quite a while. I haven't bathed the kids in 3 days. Confession #2: I may wait until tomorrow (even though I *should* give them baths tonight) because MIL is visiting tomorrow and it's so much easier with two people.

I do this ALL the time.

WhenInRome11

I took LO to visit DH at work yesterday for lunch. I told him I just wanted to surprise him but really I wanted the validated parking so I could walk down the street to H&M after we ate.

I saw a girl walking down the street on my way to H&M, her backpack had pulled up her very short skirt and you could see her underwear. I didn't tell her. She was walking with a big group of friends and I feel like it's their job to tell her. I feel guilty, who knows how long that poor girl was walking around with her ass hanging out.

edit for typos

Amjoy25

carriet2018 said:

Amjoy25 said:

I like dancing to line dances at weddings; songs like Cupid Shuffle, Electric Slide, Cha Cha Slide, Wooble, etc. #noragrets

ZOMG ME TOO! we need to crash a wedding together....carawasa's maybe?

YASSSSSS!!!!111!!!

Amjoy25

WhenInRome11 said:

I took LO to visit DH at work yesterday for lunch. I told him I just wanted to surprise him but really I wanted the validated parking so I could walk down the street to H&M after we ate.

I saw a girl walking down the street on my way to H&M, he backpack had pulled up her very short skirt and you could see her underwear. I didn't tell her. She was walking with a big group of friends and I feel like it's their job to tell her. I feel guilty, who know how long that poor girl was walking aroung with her ass hanging out.

Poor Rachel #friendsreference

PixiesDust

I HATE roomsharing!  This is one of the reason DD went to her own room at 8 weeks (which I think also helped her start sleeping through the night around 10 weeks).  Whenever we have to share a room, it's so nerve wracking, esp. because DD ends up sleeping like shit.

*loss mentioned:




My first pregnancy ended in a miscarriage at 12 weeks (they thought the baby stopped developing around 6 weeks).  I had a feeling all along that something wasn't right, so when we got confirmation I was mostly disappointed and pissed off that I hadn't found out sooner.  It also took almost 3 more months before my levels went back to zero, and i still had so much retained tissue that i needed a D&C anyway (had I been advised it would take this long to go down, I would have just gotten the D&C outright).  This just added to my frustration that all that time we could have been trying. I was also really embarrassed to tell anyone, and didn't for a long time (besides our families who we had known I was pregnant).  But amongst all of these feelings I was never really sad, and I still feel guilty about that fact.

carawasa

Amjoy25 said:

carriet2018 said:

Amjoy25 said:

I like dancing to line dances at weddings; songs like Cupid Shuffle, Electric Slide, Cha Cha Slide, Wooble, etc. #noragrets

ZOMG ME TOO! we need to crash a wedding together....carawasa's maybe?

YASSSSSS!!!!111!!!

it will be a line dance-off. I don't fuck around when it comes to cotton eyed joe!

KerCo51

*loss mentioned*

I have been lucky enough to never have had a loss, but I have such sympathy for those who did Everyone deals with it differently and you shouldn't have guilt for feeling too much or too little.  I am just happy that it is being discussed more frequently.  I didn't realize how common it was to have a loss until recently, because no one ever spoke about it.  

carawasa

Snowboarderbritt said:

So my husband really wants to run for city council. More so, he feels like he needs to. But I am so nervous about the time commitment along with his real job. It is a 4 year term. I would feel so guilty telling him no. But we could have like 2 more babies in that time! It would be nuts. Right?

My uncle was a town councilman and it didn't take up all that much time, if that is what you are worried about

blueeyedrose86

I guess my fffc is that I love room sharing! One less thing to stress about when we travel and I never have to worry about being separated if, for example, our house caught fire at night.

sweettooth87

Snowboarderbritt said:

So my husband really wants to run for city council. More so, he feels like he needs to. But I am so nervous about the time commitment along with his real job. It is a 4 year term. I would feel so guilty telling him no. But we could have like 2 more babies in that time! It would be nuts. Right?

Could you talk to a prior town councilmen about the time commitment, etc.? That's a long commitment so I'd want to make sure I know everything upfront. 

vargasgurl

I carry a lot of emotions w me. A lot of times I pretend to be ok even if I'm not. It's when people look at me w sadness for whatever I'm going through , that I will often break down and cry. It's like I don't want people feeling sorry for me. It makes me feel vulnerable and I like to feel like I have things under control.

vargasgurl

Ok ... So I wonder if I can do the deed while on bed rest ... #needsomethingtodo

Amjoy25

vargasgurl said:

I carry a lot of emotions w me. A lot of times I pretend to be ok even if I'm not. It's when people look at me w sadness for whatever I'm going through , that I will often break down and cry. It's like I don't want people feeling sorry for me. It makes me feel vulnerable and I like to feel like I have things under control.

Wait. Did I write this?

Amjoy25

vargasgurl said:

Ok ... So I wonder if I can do the deed while on bed rest ... #needsomethingtodo

I did NOT write this. LOL.

vargasgurl

@Amjoy25‌ I think you did! Lol I needed to lighten things up. Meanwhile DH & I are laying in separate beds looking at our iPads! I'm not a perv I swear ! It was his idea .. Lol

KerCo51

I hate when I love-tit posts and realized I already loved it. 

#drunkbumping #notdrunktonightthough

muffyvonmuff

Do I have the sex today to potentially make a baby?  Todays question.

carawasa

muffyvonmuff said:

Do I have the sex today to potentially make a baby?  Todays question.

Oooooh I'm requesting a follow up