Ok, so I know I have some insecurities (body,worth , emotional ) so I want a second opinion on the situation .
My fiancé is wonderful to me or at least I think so ( only had one other long term relationship and he was abusive) but I have this feeling that something is off ,we took a break in March/ April for a few weeks and then mended our relationship in that time we saw other people. He saw his best friend and I saw my ex , I always though they had something which he said was friendship / brotherly love until then ...
When I found out they slept together it crushed me because I didn't sleep with my ex or really even want to.
I tye strong love with sex so I feel they must have been deeply in love . He left her because he wanted to be a family and loved me more ( there was about 2 weeks of cheating (him cheating on her) ) that made me so self conscience .
Long story short we've been back together awhile and they're friends. But his ringtone for her is a love song , one I sent/sang to him . They are so close sometimes I feel less important and like he's hiding somethin
Re: Is this sketchy or am I just insecure
This x2. I really couldn't have said it better myself. Their friendship at this point is completely inappropriate.
If he can't respect the fact that their relationship is inappropriate, then I would take a step back and reevaluate whether he truly loves you. It would also give me a clue as to how important your relationship is to him. Good luck.
With a baby on the way, and presumably soon, you don't have time to constantly be wondering about your fiance. You need to get yourself figured out in order to be the best mom that you can be. When you can love yourself on your own, then I would revisit the idea of marriage.
...just my 2 cents.
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1) Counseling for you should be your number one priority; you cannot love someone else until you love yourself first, and your actions, as well as how you feel about his actions, show that you do not.
2) Marriage with this guy should not be on the table. Seems like he has his own issues stemming from a need to be needed by women in his life and the fact that he's not stopping seeing his friend now that he's back with you shows that he is selfish.
If you choose to get mentally and emotionally healthy before you jump back into a serious relationship (which I hope you do), then you're going to need to figure out a way to co-parent until you're ready to make that decision.
Best of luck.