What are you most nervous about?

shevaCC

Curious what you're most nervous about as birth quickly approaches for many of us...and bored today at work. Feel free to elaborate after you vote.

raquelynn714

Other: breastfeeding and returning to work

klauke_t13

Can I say other for all of the above?? There are times when I think I'll be ok, and other times when I'm just petrified!

kaitm22

Definitely caring for a newborn! Hubby and I were talking yesterday as I was having some Braxton-Hicks about how I am sort of ready/excited for labor, or at least for something to be happening, but I am not necessarily ready to be done being pregnant and not at all to be a parent. =( I am still not in tune with the fact that we will be bringing a real live baby home that belongs to us.

caybeh

Other: the timing and logistics. My parents are staying with DS, but they live 2.5 hours away. So I'm nervous about when do I call them. My brother will watch DS in the meantime, but I'm nervous about false alarms.

shutaff

There are unknowns and scary things with all of these, but labor and delivery lasts a max of a day or two. Having a child lasts forever. Definitely more scary.

shevaCC

Although I'm a planner, I have a hard time thinking/worrying too far ahead about things so my biggest fear is how we'll manage finding someone to watch DD if I go into labor before my mom flies in. I have one friend who volunteered but it makes me very nervous not having a definite plan. Once my mom arrives, I think it will be having both a newborn and a toddler, and how that transition will go for DD. I know that I'll love our DS once he's arrived, but I don't have that overwhelming bond with him that I do with DD so my first thought now is always her.

ehpope

I put caring for a newborn, but it's mostly the lack of sleep. I sleepwalk terribly when get too tired. With my twins my husband found me looking through the drawers in our dresser for our children. I was always scared i would end up hurting them when i sleep walking! Hopefully I will make sleep my main priority this go round, and I will only have one newborn instead of 2!

poofwok

Can I say all of the above? Scared shitless.

kareik01

I put other because I'm scared about all of the above to some degree.

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mhbraymer

I voted other. I'm nervous about caring for 3 kids alone but super happy dh will be home for 3 weeks. And breastfeeding with my other two I had a hard time so I'm hoping I can do it this time at least for a month. I plan on making little goals for myself every few months.

rockyrollgirl

Caring for a newborn and a toddler. DD needs all the attention and I am afraid she will feel like I do not care about her anymore.

I am sure I am being silly, but I worry about it.

HalseytoBe

I chose other because I'm actually, surprisingly, excited for labor and caring for a newborn. Obviously it's going to be difficult, but so ready for her to be here. I'm more nervous about Breastfeeding and the anxiety and stress that comes with going back to work- I'm not going to want to leave her!!

courtniko

I know that whatever happens I will survive L&D, there will be doctors and nurses that have done this all a thousand times before.  But taking a newborn home and having her completely dependent on me and DH when we have absolutely no idea what we are doing is quite scary.

caballablanca

Mine is finding a balance with a newborn and a toddler.

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caballablanca

lappyfoinker said:

caballablanca said:

Mine is finding a balance with a newborn and a toddler.

Did you change your name?

Yeah. I joined the change your name bandwagon.

dawnangela79

All of the above and then some! I'm a total planner, and not knowing when/where this is going to happen is driving me insane! I'm terrified of labor, I've been having some contractions and knowing it's going to get worse before it gets better scares me! I'm terrified of delivery and the aftermath of that, I don't want to have to wear granny panties with 'padsicles' for weeks! I don't want my va-jay-jay- to be all stretch out, I really hope that the hubby can't tell a difference, that would make me sad. I'm nervous about raising a person! And what if she doesn't like me?!?! I want to work up until the baby comes, but also don't want to have my water break at work - I think I'd have to quit my job I'd be so embarrased!! And I don't want to go in to labor at work either, so these things have me convinced I need to start my leave a week before I'm due. I'm pretty much a wreak about the whole thing!!

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happylady07

Other- Recovery. I had a tough one last time (vaccum assisted delivery/episiotomy that tore further and didn't heal right). I felt like I had been hit by a bus. That combined with some baby blues and general first time mom hysteria/crazy hormones has me apprehensive about feeling that crummy again. I keep being told recovery is way easier the second time around, after you know more what to expect, but that is definitely what I'm most nervous about. I'm actually excited for my labor and delivery experience this time, and really amped to meet baby and find out who he or she is!!!

Danielle0989

I voted labor, but really, I'm scared for all of it! I know we will be bringing a baby home at the end, but I don't know if it's really *clicked* that we have to take care of someone other than us two. I'm worried about how our animals will react, and I'm worried about not being a good mom. This kid will depend on me for the rest of his life.

caballablanca

lappyfoinker said:

caballablanca said:

lappyfoinker said:

caballablanca said:

Mine is finding a balance with a newborn and a toddler.

Did you change your name?

Yeah. I joined the change your name bandwagon.

I've said it out loud like three times in a funny accent! I like how it sounds haha....is that weird?

It's best to say it with a sombrero and a handlebar mustache. Or imagine someone saying it with those.

Daisylola11

Other: recovery!... whilst taking care of a newborn and adding regular life to that is my biggest fear. Although the unknown of when and how labor will go down is driving me crazy too!

Valancyy

I'm another mostly scared of the logistics of getting care for my boys while I'm in labor.  It's so much easier the first time when you and your DH just go!

Our plan is to have my parents meet us at the hospital, and then take the boys from there, since I have a history of fast labors.  I just don't want to have the baby on the side of the road.  I'm kind of scared my DH will miss the birth! 

mislogis

The "ring of fire" said in the blowfish voice from Finding Nemo

MC03

I've been worried about what to do with DD if I go into labor before my RCS.  So my mom is coming early, and now will be here tomorrow!

Other than that I am mostly worried about dealing with a toddler and a newborn, and DD1 not feeling left out or ignored. 

+RBL+

Other - most nervous about how DS will react to the baby and being able to give him the attention he needs from me.

shugirl76

I'm worried about sleep deprivation and that I won't wake up to cries even though I take ambien. It's not a new drug to me, but I don't know what to expect. I also worry about my cat and the baby.

rainbowwillow

Getting through labor and delivery. I am lucky to have a lot of help after LO gets here. But no one can really help during L & D. I don't want to tear, post-partum poop, ice my vag, have a catheter inserted, or recover from a c-section.
I am scurred.

chase16

Being a parent for the rest of my life.. Eeeek!! And for my cats.. I don't want them to feel neglected

Jennyfahh

Terrified of how DS will react to having a little brother and how the eff am I gonna handle two?!

Raclla

I'm nervous about when this show is finally going to get started.

I'm also nervous about splitting time with DD, DH, new baby, pets, work, etc.

tamarar5

Tearing worse than I already have in the past. That's pretty much it.

Pinkalana

Post partum life for sure. Recovery from csection, breast feeding and sore boobs terrified of bad nipple sores like I had with my first, sleeplessness, the hormonal emotional roller coaster. The first month is usually pretty rough but once you come out of the fog it gets better. Definitely looking forward to sweet cuddles and hearing little baby noises and kissable cheeks. Also seeing my kids proudly transform into big siblings. They are 7.5 and 5.5.

camichalski

I chose caring for newborn but I am most nervous about cloth diapering! I have done 8 months of research but not actually being able to practice drive me nuts! I haven't even had much practice with disposable diapers! My dogs refuse to let me put diapers on their bottems!

blushingbride_08

Getting childcare for my toddler while I'm in labor.

pmpkn219

I voted newborn care, both because my son was a high touch needs newborn, and that was draining. But also, how could I do that again Plus with my toddler?!

Soymami2

I'm nervous about my two year old DD adjusting to a new sibling.

IvyMagic828

FTM, so I'm pretty much nervous about everything.  Especially the newborn care and adjusting to life as parents.  Frankly, pregnancy hasn't changed my lifestyle all that much and I've been fortunate to have very few unpleasant side effects from it.  But having a baby to take care of 24/7 is going to be a drastic change for me - that coupled with sleep deprivation, I hope I can hold myself together and not get too moody/cranky as a result.  Hopefully I'll be able to focus on the good parts and find better ways of coping with the less pleasant stuff.  Functioning well and being a pleasant person on very little sleep is probably going to be one of my biggest challenges!

Jenrileysmom

I'm worried about going back to work the most. I can't wrap my head around getting myself ready, my DD ready for school, fed and on the bus all while taking care of an infant and getting him fed, ready and to the sitters and then get myself to work on time. Then work 8 hours and come home and do all the nighttime stuff on my own too since DH primarily works away. And I hope this kid catches on to sleeping at night because mamma's going to be stretched pretty thin as it is. It sounds terrifying. 

I know other women do it everyday but I am so scared.