1st tri FAQs

LnR70707

In an effort to help out new members and reduce some of the repetitive questions, lets compile a list of FAQs.  Feel free to add anything you think should be covered and I will do my best to either edit this post or create a new one that will remain pinned.

PrimRoseMama

You can drink tea & coffee in moderation. ~O)

24karat

I'll try to draw up a "what to expect" for u/s...what you see when and how many to expect.

24karat

I might also add in a bit about the whole "OMG it must be twins!!!!" posts since that comes up fairly often. Or just link what we have on the multiples board.

allrightmeow

Ramiz's method, peeing on baking soda, Chinese gender calendar, Intelligender.  All of these things will give you a 50/50 guess as to the sex of your baby.  No one cares to help you use these things to guess the sex of your baby.  It does not matter if your neighbor's, best friend's cousin used one of them and it was right.  That is called coincidence not science.  We all understand how excited you are.  Wait till your doctor can tell you the sex if you want to know. 

If you or your SO really really REALLY wanted one sex over the other and will be so very disappointed if it turns out you are not having what you want, DO NOT post that here.  Yes, a certain level of disappointment is normal but, if you are devastated because "What am I/DH supposed to do with a boy/girl?" "We already have three boys"  "I HAVE to give DH a son"  Do. Not. Post. That. Here. 

MNgirl326

If you are bleeding or cramping it could be a couple different things.

1. Normal

2. A miscarriage.  Only an OB can confirm this, we cannot.  Please do not rush to the ER or UC for this.  Keep an eye on it, and call your OB and make an appointment to go in.  

 if it is a m/c we are sorry.  It sucks.  But know it wasn't your fault and there isn't anything anyone can do to stop it. 

**SIde Note- the only time it is appropriate to visit an ER for this is if you are soaking through a pad an hour.  

wintersong139

Another FAQ: How can I deal with my morning sickness? When will it go away?

Absolutkm1

Loving this feed. It's right to the point!

Tapsalteerie

wintersong139 said:

Another FAQ: How can I deal with my morning sickness? When will it go away?

There are several ways to deal with morning sickness.
- constantly keeping small meals in your stomach.
- anything ginger.
- a diet high in protein.
Everyone has their special cure. Some may work really well. Some may not. In some cases, nothing works. If you feel like you are vomiting excessively within a 24 hour period and cannot keep anything down, please CALL YOUR OB! Dehydration is serious!

Your OB can:
- prescribe you anti nausea medication to help control your vomiting/nausea.
- provide you with additional tips on what to eat or drink when and if you can.
- provide you with better access and care through a hospital.

As far as when your morning sickness will end, there is no magical date. Some find it will diminish when 2nd tri starts and others can go straight up through delivery. It can disappear for weeks and suddenly return later with a vengeance.

Sugalile

Tapsalteerie said:

wintersong139 said:

Another FAQ: How can I deal with my morning sickness? When will it go away?

There are several ways to deal with morning sickness.
- constantly keeping small meals in your stomach.
- anything ginger.
- a diet high in protein.
Everyone has their special cure. Some may work really well. Some may not. In some cases, nothing works.

Also know that what works for one woman, may be completely the opposite for you.
Best wishes!

wenmatt

I love this feed! I'm brand new to this site, I literally just joined about 2 hours ago. According to the calculator I'm 7 weeks along (although I thought I was 5) so I have a lot of catching up to do on my checklist! One thing on my checklist is BUDGET. I know I'm getting ahead of myself but I'm trying to figure the delivery costs and I know it's different for everyone.. How much does it actually cost to have the baby (after insurance covers what it covers) ?

24karat

wenmatt said:

I love this feed! I'm brand new to this site, I literally just joined about 2 hours ago. According to the calculator I'm 7 weeks along (although I thought I was 5) so I have a lot of catching up to do on my checklist! One thing on my checklist is BUDGET. I know I'm getting ahead of myself but I'm trying to figure the delivery costs and I know it's different for everyone.. How much does it actually cost to have the baby (after insurance covers what it covers) ?

The cost will depend greatly on your insurance coverage. Your deductible and OOP max should give you a good number to plan on.

christenld

Forgive me if this has already been answered, but is there a typical time that physical changes occur? Such as an enlarged nose, swollen feet, etc.? I'm assuming these things would occur later (especially the swollen feet), if they do, but I've seen some information suggesting they occur right after conception. I know it probably varies from person to person, just wondering when I might expect these changes should they occur. 

Thanks so much!

mlueders

Any advice for wheening off and/or taking anti-depressants while pregnant?

Maebb

christenld said:

Forgive me if this has already been answered, but is there a typical time that physical changes occur? Such as an enlarged nose, swollen feet, etc.? I'm assuming these things would occur later (especially the swollen feet), if they do, but I've seen some information suggesting they occur right after conception. I know it probably varies from person to person, just wondering when I might expect these changes should they occur. 

Thanks so much!

@christenld‌, this is different for everyone. I never got swollen or enlarged feet or nose, and I never had to take off my wedding ring. Some people do - I think most often in 3rd tri?

My boobs never really got bigger (sad face), but for some people that starts in 1st tri. For me, I started showing where I could notice it around 14 weeks and where strangers could notice it around 24 weeks, but everyone is different with that too.

rachelcalderon525

mlueders said:

Any advice for wheening off and/or taking anti-depressants while pregnant?

I weened off antidepressants before we got pregnant. I had been on Wellbutrin XL for 8 years. There are some antidepressants, which i believe are SSRI's, which are approved to take during pregnancy. But every doctor will always say that the best case scenario is to be completely off of them.

The best thing to do is to talk with your psychiatrist/pschologist and truely evaluate where you are in terms of your mental health. Have you been stable for a long time or have you had ups and downs? If its the latter, than your doctor may suggest taking one of the approved medications during pregnancy. If you have nee stable then he may start you on a ween and see how you do on lower dosages. Explore your options, but if you are planning on TTC, have a game plan in place so that your not forced into a decision after you find out that you are pregnant.

transplantedhawkeye

Though you have to admit, the hard stuff tastes much better.  Angry Orchard, Woodchuck and Woodpecker, see you in 9 months, you will be missed.

transplantedhawkeye

Also Womanly Art of Breastfeeding.  

You spend 9 months pregnant, only 24 hrs in labor/giving birth but WHO (World Health Organization) recommends at least TWO years of breastfeeding.  You'll be doing that longer, start reading it NOW, not 2 weeks before your due date.

shortnatie

Some people may have the stupidest questions, but they lean towards other people for advice. This is the rudest group of people. You were all probably the same way when you got pregnant. I just cant believe how you would jump down peoples throats like this!

allrightmeow

shortnatie said:

Some people may have the stupidest questions, but they lean towards other people for advice. This is the rudest group of people. You were all probably the same way when you got pregnant. I just cant believe how you would jump down peoples throats like this!

 Well thanks so much for your contribution.  If you took the time to read the previous post you'd see that everyone, newbies included, really like this thread. 

Lark425

@shortnatie
Preach! I'm in total agreement and wish there was a forum for people who were kind and got thoughtful and respectful comments in return, not full of snark and attitude. I don't enjoy reading a post where someone gets publicly shamed for asking a question. Tired of jerkfaces running this place.

LnR70707

@shortnatie @lark425 did you even bother to read this post before trashing it?  the whole purpose of this thread is to HELP people who are asking common concerns.  Now I have pinned post with your nastiness in it.  Good job adding to the negativity!

shortnatie

MrsMuq said:

shortnatie said:

Some people may have the stupidest questions, but they lean towards other people for advice. This is the rudest group of people. You were all probably the same way when you got pregnant. I just cant believe how you would jump down peoples throats like this!

Okay. ::pats newbie on the head::

Most of the stupid questions and the snark/sarcasm that follows them would be avoided 90% of the time if newbies like yourself would a) exercise some common sense, and b) pick up a pregnancy book to read instead of running to the interwebz for instant gratification.


I agree this post is helpful. I was just stating that when any "new" person joins and ask a question it... omg could we answer this one more time today? Everyone has questions and we dont deserve to be told were stupid. We all come here for advice and to me it seems like no one wants to answer a question nicely. I just felt that people would read this post and people needed to know that the newer girls feel pushed away.

bdancer88

shortnatie, thank you for finally saying it.  I've been one of those people who comes on to these threads to ask questions that I know I can find else where.  Sometimes a girl just needs someone to tell her what she already knows.  I understand that everyone who has been on here for a while doesn't want to answer the same question over and over again when the answer is obvious, but when you snap at a newbie like that it makes us hesitant to come onto these threads in the future.  Everyone needs support, and sometimes we need to ask stupid questions to get the obvious answer to make it more secure in our mind. 

Thanks again shortnatie!  I'm with ya! 

natalie115

Why did it take so long for someone to make this??? Although it leaves me wondering what will be left for some of these ladies to post

crunchymamaof2

bdancer88 said:

shortnatie, thank you for finally saying it.  I've been one of those people who comes on to these threads to ask questions that I know I can find else where.  Sometimes a girl just needs someone to tell her what she already knows.  I understand that everyone who has been on here for a while doesn't want to answer the same question over and over again when the answer is obvious, but when you snap at a newbie like that it makes us hesitant to come onto these threads in the future.  Everyone needs support, and sometimes we need to ask stupid questions to get the obvious answer to make it more secure in our mind. 

Thanks again shortnatie!  I'm with ya! 

Then leave. Or you could, you know, use the search feature and get your instant gratification that way.

But I vote leave.

allrightmeow

bdancer88 said:

shortnatie, thank you for finally saying it.  I've been one of those people who comes on to these threads to ask questions that I know I can find else where.  Sometimes a girl just needs someone to tell her what she already knows.  I understand that everyone who has been on here for a while doesn't want to answer the same question over and over again when the answer is obvious, but when you snap at a newbie like that it makes us hesitant to come onto these threads in the future.  Everyone needs support, and sometimes we need to ask stupid questions to get the obvious answer to make it more secure in our mind. 

Thanks again shortnatie!  I'm with ya! 

@bdancer88 That is incredibly dumb.  Id like to think that the great majority of women on here don't need anyone to blow smoke up their butts and treat them like children. You're basically asking to be treated like an idiot if you need to be told what you already know.  When we waste time entertaining people like that, the boards get clogged up with nonsense.  Posts by people who need REAL help get pushed down.  @shortnatie has spent her time here complaining & spreading negativity because she didn't like the very honest responses she got to her posts.  Had we told her exactly what she wanted to hear she'd be singing another tune.  That's not how it works here.  Like others have said, not one is forcing you be here.  If you want honest not sugar coated feedback, stay.  If you need us to waste time telling you what you already know, this is probably not the place for you.  

realprinzess32

Hi..new here and just found out I was pregnant. This is my first and I am super excited. This app was recommended but I was wondering if anyone in here knows a really great and friendly pregnancy forum to be a part of? Some of the questions and answers are helpful here but I am not looking to argue. Thnx!

realprinzess32

Don't get me wrong Red headed ass or baker whichever it is. If you post another comment like that making fun or trying to start something. .I.will be more then capable of finishing it.

What ashame that people look for support and this is what you get...Delete

allrightmeow

realprinzess32 said:

Don't get me wrong Red headed ass or baker whichever it is. If you post another comment like that making fun or trying to start something. .I.will be more then capable of finishing it. What ashame that people look for support and this is what you get...Delete

LOL @realprinzess32  Good lord, nice try.  You were looking to stir the pot with your initial post. Nice touch on waiting a few days before you started posting with your AI.  

Meery82

realprinzess32 said:

Don't get me wrong Red headed ass or baker whichever it is. If you post another comment like that making fun or trying to start something. .I.will be more then capable of finishing it. What ashame that people look for support and this is what you get...Delete

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kyrstyunderwood

Okay can we all stay focused on what's important? Let's take a step back and enough with the rude sarcastic remarks. This is a stressful time for all mom's and we all need to pull together and make the best of it.
For me, I am expecting my first child if all goes well April 2015. I am 7 weeks along and can't seem to find anything to ease my nauseousness. I spend a lot of time if I'm not working laying down. Does anyone else feel like this?

bmc4788

I as well find people on here to be extremely rude. We shouldn't be providing our personal opinions of whether or not someone's question is stupid. Not your place to judge, just don't respond if you feel annoyed.

BriLlewellyn

What pregnancy apps are the best?

KnittersRevolt

I'm a newbie to this forum and to being pregnant, and I have to say that this is exactly what I was looking for. Over at other forums they answer the same questions a thousand times with the same answers. It's nice to have the answers already there for me. No need to start a whole new thing if I can find what I want in one convenient no bullshit location.

marthah05

I gave up coffee, because prior to getting pregnant I was drink 4+ cups a day, in addition to countless cups of unsweetened iced tea. I stoppedmy coffee all together because drinking decaf is like going fishing with no bait, pointless. I also cut down on my iced tea intake. I have been craving sour things like lemonade, orange juice, and water. I miss coffee.

ilovemybob

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snflowr14

1) I would like to add a recommended book: "Pregnancy, Childbirth, and the Newborn: The Complete Guide" (4th ed). It is a very useful piece about thinking ahead and being responsible. It does not help with what symptoms you should have at any given week etc (for which I would recommend "The Girlfriends' Guide to Pregnancy" and "Great Expectations"), but it does tell you to do things you may not have thought about early on, like estimating your out of pocket expenses and putting it down in an FSA, what genetic testing you want to have, etc...
2) If you are concerned about whether your baby is developing fine or if you are miscarrying (e.g., because you are bleeding, you lost symptoms, or just because you are a worrywart), do not POAS! It does not tell you anything. HPTs detect low levels of bHCG (that you have around 9-14dpo), and one you reach about 5 weeks or so, your HCG is so high that even if your pregnancy was not viable or development was slow, the test would keep showing positive. HCG also takes about 2 days to drop by half, so by the time you get a negative test you would already have other, more clear indications that you lost.