~~~ttcal newbie check-in (tuesday, april 15)~~~

meredithcarole

@meladoriestar‌ I am having occasional somewhat sharp (not debilitating by any means, just noticeable) twinges. It feels like the same spot that was particularly tender during my m/c (I had a bit of hope at the time that maybe I was just suffering from a rupturing appendix - who would have ever thought that would be a preferable option). I do have fibroids (which are supposedly not responsible for the loss) and I had a corpus leutem cyst on my right ovary so it could possibly be related. You may also be right that I am just now hyper-aware of everything my body does. I can also be a bit of a hypochondriac. Maybe it is in my head

Buttercup509

Hi @meladoriestar! Thanks for the check in! How are you? My niece is feeling much better. Thank you for asking! I've been really busy this week, and now I'm exhausted. I hope my schedule gets backs to normal soon!

Hugs to everyone that needs them!

longcat07

@meladoriestar - ***talking about my loss*** i'd read that here too, about waiting two weeks.  i'm wondering if he was expecting me to bleed longer?  i don't know.  it's all so weird, doing all this over the phone without an office visit.  he was acting like he didn't have a lot of time for me (i didn't mention that i'd already stopped bleeding because he was so rushed) so i'm wondering if i should choose a different OB office in the future.  it's the office in the same group as my GP though and i really want to keep all my records in one system if i can, for simplicity.  after he said that i thought about the infection thing and went and washed my hands really well and checked my cervix myself, and everything is all LFC already.  i guess i'm pretty lucky that it resolved so quickly, but part of me is feeling betrayed that my body can just be like, "ok, done!" so fast.  we're not having sex again yet anyway because we're just not feeling it yet, so i guess it doesn't matter too much at this point.  thanks for your response about humphrey too.  i hope to be able to contribute, but we'll see.  i feel like i've gotten off to a bad start so far and i'm afraid of being clumsy and upsetting someone.  i know how terrible grief can be from other areas of my life, and i don't want to be a source of pain for anyone.

akleng

Hey Ladies! Sorry for the late check-in. I was traveling for work and in meetings all day long, so this was my first chance to check the board!

Thanks for the check-in @meladoriestar, I hope your crazy day at work wasn't too bad. AF came on Saturday. I wasn't expecting to, but I cried. I think mostly because I'm happy that my body is finally moving on, but I was not expecting to be so emotional about it. I just started charting, so I'll make sure I add that to my siggy. My appointment is next Tuesday, so I'll let you all know how it goes!

@aggiebeth06 I hope your appointment goes/went well today! 

qanda2013 Yay for the cycle counting! 

I hope everyone is having a good Wednesday! Sending (((hugs))) to those that need one!

Buttercup509

meladoriestar said:

qanda2013 said:

@meladoriestar Good news/meh news the first cycle counted! Horray! The pathology results were just to confirm that what they took out were "materials of conception" (what stupid terminology) and not DNA testing. $300 (before insurance) to state the semi obvious. So no bad news/no answers. I'll take it:)

Yay that that cycle counted!! I'm glad you clarified and I was wrong I got that same stupid path report too. Are you having genetic testing on the tissue? I got the bs path report very fast but had to wait a few weeks to get the full report.

My doctor told me that the pathology checked for a molar pregnancy. Our genetic testing was separate and went to a different lab.

tfno2

@meladoriestar - Thank you. I didn't even think about really calling the OB about this. If it happens one more time I will.

kj808

Hi @meladoriestar! I don't know how I missed this check-in on Monday, but here I am!

kj808: I saw AF came. I’m sorry. ((hugs)). How are you holding up?

Yeah, i'm bummed that AF decided to show up, but I guess it's kind of bittersweet in that i'm back to having normal cycles at least which is a positive thing. That was my first full cycle after the m/c and it's nice to see that my body seems to be back to normal. It's definitely a step in the right direction. Today should be my last day of AF so we'll be back in business this coming week!

ETA: I forgot the QOTW! Is it sad that I can't even think of a favorite spring break memory? I think just the time off from school and hanging out with friends was awesome!

loveinkw13

meladoriestar said:

loveinkw13 said:

Hi! I've been lurking/around for about 2 months now. I always mean to comment on this thread, get distracted and forget. Sorry!! MH and I have been TTC since June 2013. We had our first BFP end in a chemical pregnancy in Feb 2013. We decided not to wait to see someone so we have our first appointment with a RE today! I'm very hopeful and anxious. I'm on CD23/6DPO but my temps were all over the place this cycle for no apparent reason. I just wanted to say hi and intro myself on this thread!

Welcome, though I'm sorry for your loss. How did the appointment go? Temps can vary for quite some time after a loss but hopefully they stabilize soon.

ETA: I just saw your chart was linked. Yes those temps are all over! But it still looks like a pretty clear shift so it's not too big of a deal. 

Thanks! The appointment went really well. He was very helpful, and we have a plan which I am a huge fan of. H will drop off his SA on Friday and I have to get some additional BW done. I am positive for one heterozygous copy of MTHFR which can lead to MCs. He wants to dive further into that and check my egg count. He confirmed I O'd this month which was great to hear since my temps were ridiculous. 

Also, I did not temp this morning and I won't tomorrow either. My dogs decided to use my BBT as their latest chew toy, so I'm waiting on the one I ordered from Amazon to come in. 

MelissaL121

I cracked open the bbt thermometer vs the regular one. So far, so good! I'm impatiently awaiting AF. My midwives don't want to track blood work at this point. I'm still within about 5 weeks post d&c so still a very normal waiting period. Spring break- hmmm. I don't know but today I'm enjoying the long awaited sunshine with my furry kids.

loveinkw13

@meladoriestar‌ hmm I'm not sure what you mean about the strand? I know I'm heterozygous in one copy of the mutation. My RE ordered bloodwork to check my homeocysteine levels which, from my understanding, will tell us if I need to take more folic acid. I would love to see those threads about the mutation though! TIA!

meredithcarole

@qanda2013‌ if it makes you feel any better that's what I was told too regarding testing with similar dates.

longcat07

meladoriestar said:

@meladoriestar - ***talking about my loss*** i'd read that here too, about waiting two weeks.  i'm wondering if he was expecting me to bleed longer?  i don't know.  it's all so weird, doing all this over the phone without an office visit.  he was acting like he didn't have a lot of time for me (i didn't mention that i'd already stopped bleeding because he was so rushed) so i'm wondering if i should choose a different OB office in the future.  it's the office in the same group as my GP though and i really want to keep all my records in one system if i can, for simplicity.  after he said that i thought about the infection thing and went and washed my hands really well and checked my cervix myself, and everything is all LFC already.  i guess i'm pretty lucky that it resolved so quickly, but part of me is feeling betrayed that my body can just be like, "ok, done!" so fast.  we're not having sex again yet anyway because we're just not feeling it yet, so i guess it doesn't matter too much at this point.  thanks for your response about humphrey too.  i hope to be able to contribute, but we'll see.  i feel like i've gotten off to a bad start so far and i'm afraid of being clumsy and upsetting someone.  i know how terrible grief can be from other areas of my life, and i don't want to be a source of pain for anyone.

I'm going to bed so I'll respond to the rest later, but can I ask why you feel off to a bad start? I looked through your recent post history and don't see anything offensive or upsetting. In fact I see quite a few supportive posts. What makes you feel that way?

i'm probably being paranoid, lol.  i'm just trying to be careful because i realize that, while i've suffered a loss, i haven't had the same struggles as a lot of you here and i want to do right by all of you.  i have had other losses in my life and i know what it's like when people mean well but still don't get it, so i'm trying to tread lightly, if that makes sense.  thank you for the vote of confidence!

longcat07

meladoriestar said:

@meladoriestar - ***talking about my loss*** i'd read that here too, about waiting two weeks.  i'm wondering if he was expecting me to bleed longer?  i don't know.  it's all so weird, doing all this over the phone without an office visit.  he was acting like he didn't have a lot of time for me (i didn't mention that i'd already stopped bleeding because he was so rushed) so i'm wondering if i should choose a different OB office in the future.  it's the office in the same group as my GP though and i really want to keep all my records in one system if i can, for simplicity.  after he said that i thought about the infection thing and went and washed my hands really well and checked my cervix myself, and everything is all LFC already.  i guess i'm pretty lucky that it resolved so quickly, but part of me is feeling betrayed that my body can just be like, "ok, done!" so fast.  we're not having sex again yet anyway because we're just not feeling it yet, so i guess it doesn't matter too much at this point.  thanks for your response about humphrey too.  i hope to be able to contribute, but we'll see.  i feel like i've gotten off to a bad start so far and i'm afraid of being clumsy and upsetting someone.  i know how terrible grief can be from other areas of my life, and i don't want to be a source of pain for anyone.

Why haven't you gone to see your OB in person? Do you have a 2-week follow up appointment? Honestly, I'm feeling pretty skeptical about this guy and it sounds like you are also having doubts. My advice is find a new OB. I was very hesitant to find a new one because I'd had 2 losses and all my gyn history with one OB. But switching to a new one who I trusted and was comfortable with was awesome. Best decision. As for the records, they're usually electronic these days and if not, your new OB will have you sign a release and fax it to your old one and your old OB then faxes all your records to the new one. Very easy! You may also request a copy of all your records (they'll charge you for that though) and then you have your own personal copy to take to any new doctors.

and for this one...TBH, i have no idea why i haven't seen him (or anyone in the practice) yet.  i love my GP and a couple of the specialists i've seen in my time with this medical group (namely my gastroenterologist and dermatologist), but this isn't the first specialist i've "seen" (since i haven't actually seen him) that i haven't been impressed with.  this IS the first specialist i've seen that has left me feeling more confused than before i called.  i'm uncomfortable with switching practices but the more i think about it, the more i think i'd be MORE uncomfortable sticking with this practice.  there is an OB practice with a different group that's a lot closer (literally 5min down the road--a hospital and everything--whereas the other place is about 25min away) that i'm seriously thinking of calling.

polevaultRN

meladoriestar said:

polevaultRN said:

***siggy warning***


Still haven't had a +OPK. Today is CD20. Oh well. Just doing EOD to cover our bases until the next AF (or a BFP) arrives!

QOTW: I went to Rosarito with a few of my college track and field teammates several years ago and had a blast! A little too much to drink though :P

ETA: words

Hopefully you get a positive OPK soon. I often don't O until around CD18-24. But EOD sounds like a good plan. Hopefully you O soon so you can take a break

I hope so, too because I need a break. I'm getting tired! lol

***siggy warning***

@tfno2 Welcome. I'm sorry for your loss. It is definitely hard going back to work for the first time. Hang in there! ((Hugs))

@meredithcarole Bless your heart for taking in that little kitten. You are so sweet! As far as the "odd cramps" are concerned, I did experience menstrual-like cramps about 3 or 4 weeks before AF actually arrived. It was so strange. No sharp pains though.

@chicagojackie I hope AF arrives soon. The wait is no fun! ((Hugs))

@Buttercup509 I hope you are able to get some rest & relaxation and take a break from your busy schedule. ((Hugs))

@akleng I hope your appt. goes well next Tuesday!

@kj808 I'm sorry that AF arrived. ((Hugs))

@MelissaL121 The wait for AF is definitely tough. Try to keep yourself busy. Hang in there!

loveinkw13

@longcat07‌ I actually felt the same way when I first joined. While MH and I have been TTCing for 9 cycles, we only had one loss and it was early. I haven't been through even close to what a lot of these women have, but it seems as long as you show support, you'll get support. I have felt an enormous sense of support from these ladies!

chicagojackie

@meladoriestar checking for O with OPK tests. It was weird because I got two positives this month a few days apart (I should have been temping but I've been doing night shift stuff at work this month)...and now we are waiting.

OB sent me for some blood tests (he LOVES ordering labs, which suits me just fine since I like to know what is happening) to see what the old progesterone and HCG are doing and they were both totally normal so now we just wait it out.

@aggiebeth06 I can't wait to hear how your alternative medicine treatment goes. Keep us posted.

@meredithcarole so sorry about the little cat. that made me so sad. you did the right thing.

longcat07

@meladoriestar - thanks!  that sounds like a good idea re: the consult visit.  i can feel proactive doing it too, since i can do that right away.

longcat07

meladoriestar said:

Double check with your insurance though because it may not be covered. From my experience it ran about $100 without insurance so not bad, but always good to be able to plan for that.

i'm due for my yearly in about a month...i could always use that as a test-drive.

yellowcat10

Thank you for the check-in.  I am a bit late this week because of travel and the flu which will hopefully be gone soon!

Dreams are better, I think having other things to think about helped.  We are redoing all of the RE testing starting Monday which is also something else to focus on.

Hope everyone is feeling better and had a good week!