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Probably moving back with parents

If we do not find jobs in February, we will have to move in with my ILs in WA. If we pay no bills this month (and we have already paid no bills for January) then we can pay for March's rent. Our lease is up at the end of the month. Friend's here can store some furniture for us and we can keep some more at my FIL's church back in WA (he's the pastor there). My old job is being posted for right now and I think if I call my old supervisor, I could probably get hired back.

We're failures. We moved here a year ago and had two full time jobs. Now we have nothing. We are already on WIC otherwise DS wouldn't be eating. We are waiting for any other benefits the state might be able to provide to kick in, but so far there is nothing. I am depressed and wondering WTF is the point? Why did I think we could do this? Why did we have DS and bring him into this?  

Re: Probably moving back with parents

  • ((hugs)) I'm sorry you're having such a rough time. 
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  • So sorry you're going through this. Don't get so down on yourself. You couldn't have predicted a year ago that things were going to turn out this way. DH lost his job unexpectedly in June, and it's been tough since. We're just trying to keep the faith that something will pull through for us, and are extremely thankful that we have family that support us. Keep the faith - something will work out for you.
  • Sorry you're going through this. It doesn't mean you are a failure. Tons of people are losing their jobs right now. Economists are now starting to say this may be a depression. It's tough out there and there's no fault in doing what you have to for your family.
  • You're not a failure.  This is a setback, that's all.  There are a lot of people in your situation right now who are also not failures.  You're lucky to have people you can rely on for help.  Your DS will get to spend some quality with his grandparents, and you'll get back on your feet.  Someday, you'll be in a better place, and you'll pay it forward.  Don't beat yourself up--that isn't going to help anything. 
  • Try not to be so hard on yourself it could be alot worse.....keep your head up, it will get betterSmile

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  • You're not a failure.  Lots of bad things happen to good people.  Right now the economy isn't great and people are get laid off.  Do what you need to do to provide the best for your baby.  I will be keeping you and your family in my prayers! 
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  • I'm so sorry that you're going through this but things WILL turn around. Even if you have to move in with parents for awhile until you get back on your feet it won't be so bad.  Things will turn around.
  • I'm sorry you guys are having a hard time right now but you are not failures. Please don't think that.  If you need to move in with your ILs for awhile so that you can save up and get back on your feet, then you shouldn't feel ashamed. I hope you guys can both find good jobs. Good luck with everything.
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  • cheer up! You are not alone.There are so many people that have lost their jobs and are in the same position as you. So many people have lost their homes. I live in MI and they are running out of unemployment funds. I know it sucks now,but at least you have somewhere to go.
  • DH and I are in a similar situation. We are moving back to Seattle and will be living with my parents because we can't find jobs.

    Don't blame yourself, these are tough times for everyone. Now is a GREAT time to be employed!! When we all conceived our LOs, life was much different. I was gainfully employed, for one!

    Hang in there!!?

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  • ::big hugs:: I'm so sorry, hon! I totally, totally understand! DH and I are moving this saturday to live with my parents temporarily. My hubby is trying to finish up college, we're also on WIC, I'm a SAHM (wouldn't even be worth it to have me working if we had to pay for daycare), DH was laid off in December, so we're living off the last bit of his student loan money.

    You are absolutely not a failure! I know it's hard to keep your chin up during all of this, but it will get better! And if you ever need someone to vent to or anything, I'm in the same situation. Just page or PM me!

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