s/o about sending baby to nursery....

smiling76 · January 2009

That post below made me relive my days in the hospital after the c/s delivery. TRUE STORY--funny now (and sort of funny back then)--and no one can believe it--but DS came out screaming and like the original poster below didn't stop for 3 months LOL--I would send him at night so I could get any amount of sleep possible (usually just about 3 hrs since my IV drips were constantly beeping)---but during visiting hours my hospital would take the babies to the nursery b/c of germs and such.

1st evening of getting visitors--I was so excited to see my friends--and they're there for like 5 minutes or so and the nurse comes walking in and says "he is disrupting the other babies in the nursery--we can't calm him--he wants his mom"----(I had been BFing him right away and had just fed him right before sending him to the nursery--so this was odd). She comes and rolls him in the room and just walks out. My friends were still there!!!! I was like ????? --but at least they got a close up view.

2ND NIGHT OF VISITORS----I send him to the nursery during visiting hours again and they call me like 10 minutes later to see if I had visitors and to tell me that this time they must leave b/c they were bringing DS back down--that he won't stop screaming. So visitors had to leave this time and well.....that was the story for the next couple months as he was the most colicky baby I've ever seen.

I will remind him of this later on......like when I'm waking him up for school and all he wants to do is sleep LOL

vanillacourage · January 2009

I don't blame the nursery. He's your kid, not theirs, and keeping the majority of babies quiet and calm is more important than your privacy to entertain visitors.

"He just wants his mom" doesn't necessarily mean he was hungry.

Erin Mary Ackerman · January 2009

I can't imagine what dealing with a colicky baby must be like.. that said I agree with Vanilla.. The nurses aren't there to mind the baby so you can hang out with your friends..

took79 · January 2009

So people couldn't come and visit you and the baby? weird. They just require that everyone was there hands and there are sanitizer dispensers in every room at our hospital.

wcp · January 2009

i could have written this post regarding my second son! after our first night there i was walking to get some coffee and as i walk past the nurse's station i see my son in the plasticky bassinet there with the nurses at their desk. i'm like "what?' and they told me he was kicked out of the nursery for waking the other babies up with his crying. and yes, it didn't stop for the next three months.

smiling76 · January 2009

I agree---but they also said that he seemed hungry--and said he needed to be BF'd. Which was fine by me.

Just to clarify---they FORCED the babies to the nursery during visiting hours---it wasn't a choice. Hospital policy. I had mixed emotions on it but it didn't really matter anyways because he was in there so little. So yes--it's not their job but they make it so when they force the babies to go there--ya know?

lanie26 · January 2009

vanillacourage:
I don't blame the nursery. He's your kid, not theirs, and keeping the majority of babies quiet and calm is more important than your privacy to entertain visitors.

"He just wants his mom" doesn't necessarily mean he was hungry.

Ditto. I'd have loved to have some time to rest but having nurses babysit so you can hang out with your friends is weird.

anna7602 · January 2009

I roomed in with DD, didn't have any visitors at all except for my parents who arrived on the last day to take us home from the hospital. I guess I just viewed my time in the hospital as a time to meet and adjust to DD, not entertain people without DD around.

n&bcarlson · January 2009

He must have been quite a handful if the nurses couldn't handle him! I do understand that is he was waking the other babies, it would be a problem. But wow, all I remember of the nursing staff in the nursery (there were a few nurses who just did nursery as the nursery was mostly for babies who were undergoing treatment or having other problems), was that they seemed like they could get any baby calm in about 5 seconds. They were real pros!

smiling76 · January 2009

People as in non-grandparents could not see the baby up close (only through the nursery window). The grandparents could see him all day during the day and non-general visiting hours.

Shanseur* · January 2009

I was the "original poster." I totally feel your pain! Sounds like my experience. DD was only in the nursery at most for about an hour at a time. I think once I sent her she stayed 2 hours but that was it. I breastfed as well and right when I would be finished I'd send her so I could sleep, but inevitably she'd be back 30 minutes later.

She's such a happy baby now, its kind of funny. I just hope the next babies don't scream quite so much. Maybe 5 hours a day I could handle.

took79 · January 2009

smiling76:

Just to clarify---they FORCED the babies to the nursery during visiting hours---it wasn't a choice. Hospital policy. I had mixed emotions on it but it didn't really matter anyways because he was in there so little. So yes--it's not their job but they make it so when they force the babies to go there--ya know?

I would have had a huge problem with that policy, I was in the hospital for 5 days.

n&bcarlson · January 2009

Okay, if the hospital forced all the babies to go to the nursery during visiting hours, then I don't blame you for finding this odd. It's a strange policy, though. I thought most people came to the hospital to meet the baby!

MrsTotty · January 2009

I don't understand why visitors couldn't be in the room with the baby? I must have had 20+ people come and visit me while I was there and every single one of them held him. He also spent zero time in the nursery ... but then again he slept for pretty much the first two days of his life and barely cried ... so I guess I had it easy

Sharon&Paul · January 2009

I don't know why you are getting attacked, but I totally understand. My daughter cried from Day 2 til week 10. Day 1 we thought we had the perfect baby. Little did we know. We spend the next 10 weeks bouncing on an exercise ball 24 hours a day. it was the only thing that stopped the crying.

smiling76 · January 2009

Totty---I know. I like to hold the babies too when I would go and visit friends in the hospital--but at the same time---people are generally stupid and ignorant at times and come in with colds and such (or come in before even knowing they are about to get sick). And the other thing they said too was 'safety'---they could keep a better count of babies and their safety (like strangers walking out with the babies or moreso people posing as nurses).

I figured the time in the hospital was for me and baby and DH (and the grandparents which did get to see the baby any time of day)---and if I wanted people to visit the baby they could come to the house. I was actually pretty careful even with house visitors--only close family and then a few weeks later had close friends. It wasn't until about 6 wks that I really let more people come to the house anyways---espeically since the pedi said if the baby should get ANY fever before 6 wks it's a mandatory hospital stay. I didn't want to risk it just to have a couple friends hold the baby.

smiling76 · January 2009

Sharon&Paul--thanks!!! I don't know why I'm getting attacked either. I thought my original post said it was hospital policy. I was not looking to hang out with friends --but visitors are always nice. But yeah---it's tough to have a colicky baby and totally hear you on the ball bouncing---we tried it all.

nictel · January 2009

Our hospital had the exact same policy. Only parents and grandparents could visit the baby in the room. Everyone else had to come during assigned visiting hours and look at the baby through the nursery glass. Also, rooming in wasn't allowed. The baby came to your room during the day, then went back to the nursery from 6:30pm to 8:00pm, and stayed the night there. If you were breastfeeding, the baby came back for a feed, but then went back to the nursery. In our case, DS was a preemie, so he didn't leave the NICU for 2 weeks, but either way rooming is wasn't an option.

Marie Tourville · January 2009

1) I believe in 'rooming in' with your baby.

2) I had a VERY colicky baby

3) I had lots of visitors

4) If my visitors didn't want tos ee me nursing they could leave. None of them did.

Buckets of Moonbeams · January 2009

MrsTotty:
I don't understand why visitors couldn't be in the room with the baby? I must have had 20+ people come and visit me while I was there and every single one of them held him. He also spent zero time in the nursery ... but then again he slept for pretty much the first two days of his life and barely cried ... so I guess I had it easy

I could have written this.

mrsjenni · January 2009

Our hospital didn't even have a nursery... DS was with me at all times, which is exactly the way I wanted it.

I'm confused as to why you wanted to send your DS away to the nursery while you had visitors. Weren't they there to SEE the baby?

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