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NMR: So upset right now about my shower (LONG!)
and Im not sure who to be upset with so Im just sitting on the couch crying hysterically. When my mohter and sisters told me way back when that they wanted to have a shower for me, they asked me if I wanted to be surprised. I told them the only thing I wanted to know was the date. Well I knew this would be a problem for my mother since she has always come to me for everything (ie-advice, suggestions) so they told me the date then she wanted my input on the place and I kept telling her I didn't care that the three of them could come up with it. She then started telling me who was rsvping and when, and I told her I didn't want to know and that I wanted to be surprised as to who was going to be there.
I did call my one sister and said "I dont know who is doing the cake for you but dont go to Mc**** because they screwed me big time when they did the cake for me for A's party". So then my mom calls me and says "well where do you want your cake from, tell me so we can get exactly what you want" and I said that I didn't care I just didn't want what happened to me to happen to them. I suggested this place about 45 min away from us that DHs friend's wife goes to all of the time. This same DH's friend's wife sends DH an email which he forwards to me (why he forwarded it to me instead of my sister is beyond me but whatever) and she offers to help in any wya possible. I forward the email to my sister and say "hey if you guys want to get the cake from that place, see if she can go pick it up..Just an idea" The girl's parents live 5 min from the bakery (where she is at/works 5 days a week) and she lives 5 min from the restaurant so I didn't think it was a big deal at all.
Fast forward to this morning when DH says to me "Hey what time is your shower supposed to be" and I said "1pm, why?" and he said "well am I supposed to take you" and I said "Yea at 1:30". So I see him make this face and I ask why and he tells me that his friend's wife emailed him and her husband and she wants them to go pick up the cake which would eat about 2 hours of DHs time when he takes the GMATs 48 hours later. Then he would have to come home pick me up and drive all the way back to the restaurant which is about 25 min away then come home and then finally start doing work. He then said that her other solution would be to tell my sister she cant get the cake to which my dad would have to go to a place/town he has never been to get the cake.
Im just so upset right now and can't stop crying. I dont know if it is because I always go out of my way to help to help people out or do things for other people without inconviencing anyone else. Im also upset that i didn't even want to be a part of any of the planning and at this point its like Im throwing the shower for myself which is ridiculous. Im just so upset and I don't even know who to be upset with.
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Re: NMR: So upset right now about my shower (LONG!)
Okay you need to calm down. Dont get stressed out about this and tell people they need to figure this out. I know you are upset and that is valid but this isnt that big of a deal.
I think that is the exact reason why I am so upset. I have planned and hosted plenty of parties for other people without asking for anyone's help and when it comes to me, people just flake out.