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Suggestions/Opinions on Shower
Hi All...
We're expecting our first in early August and have just shared the big news with family and friends. Already we're being asked about showers. I didn't know that would start so early, lol!
At any rate, DH and I were planning a big (not fancy) party for the baby's Christening and thought that it would be a lot to ask of people to attend both a shower and a Christening celebration.
Some of our family is close by but many of them live a good distance. Our concern isn't gifts (we are very simple people and do not want/need much) just attendance. We'd rather share the Christening with everyone since the baby will actually be there - and because it's a bit more family friendly (i.e. guys and kids wouldn't feel out of place/left out.)
The dilema is, my MIL (whom I love) and SILs (whom I also love) are already wanting to plan a shower, and they seem pretty set on the idea even after we mentioned the Christening party.
Should we go ahead and have both - or insist on just the Christening party?
Thanks for your thoughts! 
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Re: Suggestions/Opinions on Shower
Only first-time Moms get showers, so honestly I would accept. It's not like you'll have this issue arise with each pregnancy, should you decide to have more than one child.
Your MIL and SIL are very excited and really want to celebrate. More importantly, this is a way of showing you that you're really part of the family! Graciously accept, ask if they will consider keeping it low-key, and have a good time.
The shower is a chance for the women of the family to get together. The baptism will have both men and women. Everyone is going to want to get the baby gifts anyways and people enjoy seeing each other. These are two very different events.
The idea of the shower is to help the new mother get ready for the baby and have some great girl bonding along the way. These are important traditions, not only for you, but for the rest of the family. If they want to throw you a shower that you should be nothing but gracious and thankful! You are very lucky!
Congrats!!!!
First of all you would be hosting a Christening party yourself and both men and women would be in attendance. Secondly, most people buy regligeous type things for a Christening (Bible, books, crosses, etc) although not always...but certainly not things like baby swings, bouncy chairs, diaper bags, etc. A baby shower would be hosted (and paid for) by someone other than you.
I would have both. We had a lot of people at the shower we did not invited to the Christening since they would not have been comfortable there.
The idea of the shower is to help the new mother get ready for the baby
Ditto, ditto, ditto. Accept the shower and enjoy yourself.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
Oh man, have both!
The shower sounds as if it's as much for your MIL and SIL as it would be for you and the baby. they sound excited and want to do it so I would go ahead and let them.
Like you said, this is more for the ladies than the guys and kids anyway. You can always make it clear on the Christening invites that gifts are not expected.