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Babies: 9 - 12 Months
Do you feel old? ::rant::
I know I'm not that old, I'm 29. But lately, I feel old. I look at my friends, and my cousins, and I can't relate to anything they are doing now. Most of them are single. I love being a mom, I love my husband, and my marriage, and I'm glad I don't have to deal with dating and all of that. But I just feel so different now. I look in the mirror sometimes and don't even recognize myself anymore. I don't take care of myself like I used too. Whenever I get home, I spend as much time as I can with DD, and when she goes to sleep, I do too. Whenever I talk to my friends, I try not to bring DD up, unless they ask. But sometimes, I wish I had different things to talk about. I really need to get a hobby. But then I feel bad because I will be taking time away from DD. Ugh, sorry for the rant, and thanks for reading if you made it this far.
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Re: Do you feel old? ::rant::
Yes, I feel older than my age. I was the first of my friends to get married (23) and have kids (27). I have few friends since we just moved here and I teach high school, so that really makes me feel old.
A hobby might be a good idea as well as finding like-minded moms that like to do things that keep you feeling young.
All you ladies in your 20's need to kindly STFU
You are making me feel ancient.
I'm 27, and I feel pretty lucky because in my area of the country, most of my friends are having babies now too. So we are still relating and getting along really well.
Can you find a mom's group? Or find classes or storytime at the library to take your DD to so you can meet some other young women with babies? Not that you need to leave your old friends, but it never hurts to have someone who understands what you're going through.
Also, does your DH ever take your DD so you can have some "me" time? Don't feel guilty about spending that time away from her. You're giving her quality "dad" time, which is really important for kids, and also having you be happy is going to make for a happier baby.
"I have four children. Two are adopted. I forget which two. -Bob Constantine
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I am 31 (almost 32) and I don't feel old at all. I still feel 22. Seriously. DS keeps me young. DH and I continue to do fun things and I make time for myself and friends. Age is just a number.
Honestly? Every time I'm on TheBump!
For instance - On Baby Names someone wanted to name their DD Kerrington. Most people responding associated it with So You Think You Can Dance?
I immediately associated it with Dynasty.
For the record, I'm 33.
I do feel older than most of my friends - the only other couple I knew that was married got divorced right before my wedding and they are both now going through that single phase again. Since my best friend and BIL broke up a few months ago (yes it is very awkward especially as he has moved on, she soooo has not), the one person who I had more in common with has become a weekend college binge drinker because her baby daddy (not BIL) takes the kids on the weekend (they are 6 and 4) and all her other friends are single. And anyone else I do know is single and still parties like they are in high school. I have come to realize that I have nothing in common anymore with most of the people I was closest to, and it is a crappy reality. I think it has been going that way for a while, but getting married and having DD made me open my eyes a bit more.
But you know what I have realized is that I grew up and know who I am and a lot of these people I am not so close to have a long way to go to be in that same place.
***Sigh***?
Right?!! ::grumbles the 34yr old who's still in sweat pants and a tshirt::::
I was thinking the same thing! If they feel old...what am I?
In all honesty though...it's because you have a new baby. Give yourself a few more months. Once you get some sleep and the milestones stop happening one on top of the other and things get more into a set routine...you will start to feel more 'normal' again.
Oh...and your hormones are regulating. Right now you are in a big huge spiral. It's a mess and it takes it's tole on your body. Be nice to yourself and sleep when you can.
I'm also 29 and feel old. I guess it doesn't help that my OBGYN keeps telling me that next year I'll be "advanced maternal age" and that I should start trying for #2 sooner rather than later. Ugh.
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