do you ever wonder why?

KKM · January 2009

I apologise before hand for my rambling...also because I am not sure if this is the right place for this post.

I have followed Stacy's (aka coolteacher) blog for a long while now about her pregnancy, birth and death of her beautiful, sweet, baby Issac. I cannot help but to think why each time I read it. Why I am blessed with a beautiful healthy baby, and she, or anyone in a similar situation is not. Why I get to hug, kiss, and watch my baby grow, and Issac died 16 minutes after he was born. I dont know what I am looking for, other than maybe an outlet for some of these feelings....or an answer. Has anyone found a way to come to peace with any similar feelings? Again, I am sure this isnt the right place for this but I am putting it out there anyways.

Amrice78 · January 2009

I've wondered and don't really have an answer besides "It's in God's hands" I just thank God every day for my wonderful little boy.

KKM · January 2009

Amrice78:
I've wondered and don't really have an answer besides "It's in God's hands" I just thank God every day for my wonderful little boy.

That is what I have been going with, but it obviously hasnt gotten me that far. I guess it just makes me think of how fragile and fleeting life can be

trapani2be · January 2009

dh were just talking about this last night, how amazingly lucky and blessed we are to have a happy, healthy, growing little boy. I tear up everytime I think of how fortunate we are and what rough times others have had.

crackerjackprinter · January 2009

I often wonder the same thing. I am not a religious person, so I do not find my answer there. The only thing I can think is that none of us have healthy babies because we "deserve" it (since there are plenty of deserving people out there that can't have children). It just, for whatever reason, does not happen for everyone.

I wish life were fair. If it were, my aunt and uncle (who had lukemia) would have a child already. I often wonder if it is painful for them to see me with my daughter when they only gave up trying a year ago.

I guess I have come to peace with it by acknowledging that I can't possibly understand why these things happen. I hope that makes sense.

Amrice78 · January 2009

KKM:
Amrice78:
I've wondered and don't really have an answer besides "It's in God's hands" I just thank God every day for my wonderful little boy.

That is what I have been going with, but it obviously hasnt gotten me that far. I guess it just makes me think of how fragile and fleeting life can be

I definitely understand where you're coming from here. I've been going through this too lately, since the death of my student. I guess I also believe that it will all make sense in the end (in heaven) and we might not get to know all the answers now. Kwim?

BetchySprout · January 2009

I do wonder why. I am also a reader of her blog. But there are women who would never get to hold their live baby for 16 minutes and their baby is stillborn. There are women who miscarry multiple times and will never meet their baby either. There are women who have trouble getting pregnant and there are those who will never be pregnant. I see no rhyme or reason to any of it and I do wonder why there are wonderful women who have these trials when others have been so lucky. She was fortunate to get that 16 minutes with her baby, and I know she is thankful for that. They both deserved so much more. I also have a friend who lost her 2.5 month old but his heart beats on in a little boy in Iowa. I would love to know the answer.

racegirl723 · January 2009

I always tell myself that God had more important plans for that LO. It's the best I can come up with b/c if you really think about it and how sad it must be for the parents, it can become overwhelming. I try to use things like that as a reminder to count my blessings.

KKM · January 2009

I too believe that these babies had a more important role in heaven than they did here on earth...I just want to know why.

skoorbnibor · January 2009

I think it all the time. Some of the women I cycled with on TTTC are still not pregnant and I have a beautiful baby. It is not fair and it is survivor's guilt.

Peace? No. My friend just buried her 6 year old nephew, he had Batten's. Another friend has a 9 month old with brain cancer. She has weeks. There is no peace in that

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