NBR: Wedding Registries

armywife7205 · January 2009

Ok so its been 4 years since I got married... but i'm looking at a friends registry.... and YIKES!

I dont have a clue what to get her! Everything is Vera Wang or Kate Spade or something else super expensive. I hate to give like a creamer but that is $80.00. We are flying in for this wedding so it isnt going to be cheap to begin with.

Any suggestions? Should I ditch the registry? What do you think?

S&D_2005 · January 2009

Cash, or a gift card.

armywife7205 · January 2009

I thought about that but I was hoping to be more personal.

Descanso*Bride · January 2009

Gift card! Then you don't have to ship anything, either.

S&D_2005 · January 2009

Well then, maybe you can still get a gift card, and then get them something monogrammed with their name on it. Maybe something from things remembered. I guess it all depends on how much you want to spend.

punkn · January 2009

Something not on it that you love? Spring foam pans for cheese cake? cookie sheets? Buy them from the same store as her registery is at so she can return if needed.

mrobertson20 · January 2009

I just got married in April and I loved the money and gift cards. That way I could put it toward something that we really needed but I also wasn't registering for such expensive things.

May524 · January 2009

Some of my favorite gifts were ones not on the registry. What about something like this:

https://www.thestationerystudio.com/index.cfm/fuseaction/catalog.viewProduct/productID/3633/catId/1033/Housewarming_11-inch_Plate.html

I've seen much cuter ones than this, but you get the idea. Something personalized or monogrammed is always a hit.

franciscaz · January 2009

That seems ubber rude to have only registered for high price stuff. I actually registered at 3 places: William & Sonoma, Bed Bath & Beyond, and Target to give guests from all different financial situations options. I agree with pp go for a $50 gift card!

tmp-336341562506044 · January 2009

Ugh, that irritates me when people register for only high priced items. I work for BBB and we always tell brides to register for a wide variety of items from all price ranges.

LoriFalce · January 2009

I know I am in the minority when it comes to registry buying, but I think it's incredibly pretentious and greedy to beg for gifts and get piissy about getting things that weren't on it.

Friends and family aren't catalog customer service departments filling orders.

If it were my friend, I would use the registry to guage her tastes and the style of her home. I would then buy her a meaningful, heart-felt gift that I believed said something about our friendship, her marriage, or both. If that could be found on her registry, okay. If not, c'est la vie.

And by far, I think the two worst arguments for this are:

1) You have to buy something that covers the cost of your plate. Why not just ask me to buy tickets to your wedding, then. Maybe I could scalp them and make a buck since it's obviously nothing more than a Broadway show and not a celebration of love and meaning.

2) "I spent a lot of time picking out the stuff on my registry so it's rude not to get me what I want." I can't think of anything more rude than decorating your little marital Barbie Dream House and expecting the guests to pick up the tab.

Mrs Manners · January 2009

Here's my favorite gift to give. I didn't get one for my wedding so I bought myself one

https://www.etsy.com/view_listing.php?listing_id=20122503

Or this one:

https://www.etsy.com/view_listing.php?listing_id=20224313

You could also get them something cool like zoo or aquarium season passes if they live near a town that has those attractions.

Mrs Manners · January 2009

Oh...and some of my favorite things I own (that I would have loved to have gotten as a gift) are:

Cuisinart mini-chopper

Cuisinart stick blender

Monogrammed hand towels with our initials on them

Digital photo frame

Something on their honeymoon (ie. prepaid massage for them, prepaid excursion, etc)

Collapsible collander (silicone)

Custom photobook (ie. shutterfly style) made with photos of the couple

LoriFalce · January 2009

FWIW, my absolute favorite wedding presents are things I would never have even thought to ask for.

My uncle and aunt made us a photo album genealogy of my family. Since I am 1500 miles away from them, it made me feel so much closer to them. Plus, it now gives me pictures to show Joseph of the people I love.

And one of my best friends, a lady in her 70s whose husband was in the hospital with cancer and she didn't get to come to the wedding, gave me a book of some of her favorite recipes that she collected when they were stationed in Europe, along with some German and Italian kitchen gadgets to make them.

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