Azoospermia Girls (edited)

SeaSoul · January 2009

I just wanted to share with you how wonderful life with our little 6-week-old Cal is. My DH is completely enamored of him, and vice versa. DH is a hands-on dad; a true equal partner in parenting. He uses the word "son" as often as possible...and with obvious great pride. He has said to me countless times while gazing at Cal "look what you made!" without a hint of resentment for not being able to say "look what we made" (though the way I see it, we did make him by carefully selecting a donor together).

Best of all, Cal loves his daddy and it's DH who gets most of the attention and most of the smiles...it's DH who has the talent for calming him down and soothing his cries.

So, I'm here to tell you that a father/son relationship can be every bit as special without a genetic link. You probably know that in your heart, but are a bit doubtful in your mind right now...believe me, once that little one is in your life you will know just what I mean. I encourage you to move forward without hesitation with your donor search, or your adoption...there is no greater joy!

Oh, and one more thing. Someone (who also did DI) I met on another site when we were newly pregnant told me that her DH said after their 1st son was born that he would never wish that their son was biologically his, because then his son wouldn't be the same person, and he loved him so much he couldn't imagine life without HIM. Do you understand what I mean? My DH just said the same thing about Cal the other day. Once you and your husbands meet and get to know your baby,you will be happy with who s/he is and where s/he came from. Because without that history, that same little person you love so much wouldn't be here.

Best of luck to all of you!

EDIT: I don't mean to discourage pursuing a biological child together through whatever means! I was speaking more to those who have either opted not to go that route, or who have tried and failed.

k827 · January 2009

SeaSoul,

Thank you so much for sharing your story. Congrats to you and your Dh with your new baby. Hes is adorable to say the least. Im not sure what we will face in the future on our journey but pray that we can have the same hope and joy that you and your dh have been able to have. Best of Luck!

Babytime25 · January 2009

Thank you for your inspiring story and Congrats on your new bundle of joy. You brought tears to my eyes reading this! I wish you nothing but the best with your new baby and your wonderful hubby. Thank you for giving me hope! Big Smile You really made my day!

Goldengirl16 · January 2009

Thank you so much for sharing your story! Your son is gorgeous! It's so uplifting to hear success stories from donor sperm. We are currently in the 2WW from our second DIUI and test on Friday. I just hope after all the heart ache we have all been through with the azoo, that we'll all end up as happy and as blessed as you! Best wishes and congratulations!

mnj1125 · January 2009

Just wanted to second everything Seasoul said. She put it much more eloquently than I could have done. But it rings true to our relationship with our 3 children as well.

Mahon Baby · January 2009

Thank you for sharing your story. We are considering DE and I'm assuming it'll be the same feeling for the mom although right now it's still hard to accept I won't have a genetic link.

Your story was inspiring and thanks again.

Congrats on your son...he's adorable.

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