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How to handle the date?

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I had a missed m/c with d&c July 25, and my body is taking its time getting back to a 'normal' cycle; we're still ttc for the second try. The due date for our lost angel would have been Feb 2, which is just one week away. Most of the time I've adjusted to the loss, but I'm very aware of how close I would be lately (plus a close friend just announced she's expecting this weekend, adding to the twinge).

How have you or would you acknowledge the due date? I don't want to be melodramatic and morbid, but the reality is it will probably be on my mind all day. I'm not sure it even registers on DH's radar (he's not the best with dates regardless of reason), and I certainly don't want to create a downer of a day, and work's too busy to really take the day off; but at the same time I can't (don't want to) forget. Any suggestions or ideas?

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  • mrsmacias2008mrsmacias2008 member

    Last July was the EDD for my second m/c and that was really hard. I just remembered on that day and told DH. He remembered too. We just had a couple drinks that night.

    This time is just as tough because the EDD would have been 7/3. I am praying by then we will be pg and be able to look forward to something.

    MY FOUR ANGELS... M/C 12/26/02 AT 4 WEEKS M/C 12/31/07 AT 12 WEEKS, D & C M/C 12/5/08 AT 9 WEEKS, D & C ***BFP ON 3/26/09*** MARY REYNA BORN AND PASSED AWAY JULY 31ST, 2009 AT 23 WEEKS. GOODBYE SWEET BABY...I WILL MISS YOU FOREVER. ***AFTER 17 WEEKS ON BEDREST*** Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
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  • ibisibis member
    I'm sorry for your loss. My would-be EDD is not until August. You may want to also post this on TTCAL, since I think many of us here have m/c more recently... GL to you.
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  • Lucky428Lucky428

    My due date would have been August 30th and I already know what I'm gonna do.  When I found out I was KU my DH bought me roses.  I dried them out.  After I lost the baby, they were such a cruel reminder of the joy they represented.  I couldn't throw them away, so I put them in the river (pix in my siggy) Every time I drive over the river I blow a kiss and tell my baby I miss her and love her.  On August 30th, I will go to the river.

    You could buy a plant to represent your angel, or you could find somewhere that makes you feel close to your baby like I did with the river.  Maybe you and DH can take a day just to be together (for me, everything is easier with DH around). 

    I'm so sorry your EDD is right around the corner...  I'm sending you a big hug.

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  • GreenEggs&HamGreenEggs&Ham
    I am not sure where you live, so weather may not permit, but how about planting a tree?  or planting something inside until you can plant it outside.
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  • G_HopingG_Hoping
    I don't know.  My first missed due date..is tomorrow.  I have been thinking about it all week. 
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  • epopp85epopp85

    I don't know what I'm going to do either.  My first EDD would have been Feb 3rd so I'm right there with you.  I just lost another baby yesterday and I was hoping that I would carry this one and that way I'd have something to look forward to.  I think for me it just added insult to injury.  I may just try to hang out with DH and take it easy.

    I'm sorry you have to go through this. GL to you.

    Mc 6/2/08 at 6w2d * CP 11/22/08 * CP 1/21/09 - Dx compound heterozygous MTHFR 3/23/09 - BFP 3/24/09
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  • jaredandmarthajaredandmartha

    I am so sorry. I lost my baby to anencephaly and had to give birth at 5 months pregnant so I feel you. My EDD is January 31st, I know it is going to be hard but just spend sometime with friends and family. my husband and I are probably going to have people over to talk to and not get sad. you could take a small trip, hiking or the zoo?

     

    Take care

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