Alright ladies... I need some opinions... I can take it...

lishalou · January 2009

Here's the deal. I am a horrible horrible person when it comes to birthday presents etc.... I wait until the last minute to buy them... If we aren't able to go to the birthday party, then sometimes it may a month or two before I get around to buying them something. Yes, I know I'm horrible! Well, I actually have two friends (kids) that had birthdays a couple of months ago. We weren't able to go for one reason or another. Well, I still haven't mailed them their b-day cards w/ money. Yes, I know this sounds really bad. Ok, so now dd's b-day is in two weeks. We are inviting these friends. Yes, I know they shouldn't even come. However, should I go ahead and mail their b-day cards knowing that dd's invite will come shortly after? Should I send them together? Should I wait and give them the bday cards at dd party? I can't believe I've done this.... I feel horrible and am very embarrassed! What do you guys think? Would it really piss you off if you were one of the other kids parents to receive your kids bday card and the invite together? I just want to know what you guys would do if you had foolishly done what I did. well, here goes I'm posting... I've never been flamed before... I'm sure I will for this dumb thing.... that's ok though.... i've got my big girl panties on...

MrsDR1015 · January 2009

I would hold onto the birthday cards and give them to them at the party, should they come. When you give them the cards, apologize that they are so late and explain that you have been very busy. You could also say something to the effect of "I wanted to give this to you in person, so that I could tell you how sorry I was that we couldn't make it to your birthday party and so that I could tell you how special you are/how much you mean to me."

That's just MHO, though.

ETA: Oh, and I would also let the parents know ahead of time that I was planning to do this, making sure to apologize and explaining that "things have been really hectic lately and I just haven't had a chance to mail out the card, etc..."

Mama Jan · January 2009

I would probably wait until the birthday party to give it to them. If you do send them now, send an apology with it and tell them that you found it on your counter (or something) but had meant to send it a long time ago.

FWIW, I don't even give gifts if we don't go to the party (only if it's a wedding, bridal/baby shower). I don't expect gifts from people who can't make the party. In fact, I told DH last night that I feel bad for inviting all the people I invited now that I know people are sending gifts just because they got an invite. I invited our far-away family knowing they wouldn't/couldn't come, I just wanted them to know we were thinking of them and wished they could be there. I had no idea people would send gifts...

RingBling · January 2009

I agree with Mama Jan. I would think that not being able to attend the birthday party would leave you off the hook for a gift. I think it's very sweet of you to send something along anyway. I wouldn't send the invite and birthday cards together. I agree that you should wait until the day of the event and pass the cards along then.

TheMalleys · January 2009

I would go ahead and send out their b-day presents before you send out the invite. Send them with a belated b-day card and write some funny note inside. They kid's parents may be discouraged from coming to your b-day party if you didn't get their kids anything.

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