Babies: 9 - 12 Months

If you found out DC's gender before birth...

...would you do that again with your next child(ren)? Why or why not?

Re: If you found out DC's gender before birth...

  • Yes.  I am too nosy and hate suprisesTongue Tied
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  • I wanted a surprise, but DH is a pusher!  He wanted to know soooo bad. 
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  • Absolutely. My little sister is pregnant and they arent finding out...and it jsut seems really tough to not be able to buy much.  She is buying alot of gender neutrals, but I loved buying boy stuff.

    I loved calling DS by his name, not "it' or "baby", and I just think I was ready when he was here with knowing I was having a son. I loved knowing. And my sister says she hates not knowing.

    so my vote is yes.

  • Nope. Somehow it was anticlimactic. Next time we're not going to find out. I want that anticipation.

    Now I'm excited about anticipating the anticipation. 

  • I found out with all of them. I liked decorating the nursery, calling them by name, etc. It made me feel closer to the baby. Not to say that you can't feel close without finding it out, but I just preferred to know.
  • Yes, because I'd like to know if I need to start buying clothes/stuff for the opposite sex.  Plus, I feel that it's a surprise at the U/S or in the delivery room.  I'll just get my surprise a little sooner. 
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  • We found out with Zachary, but the next baby will be a surprise.  I know it's a surprise either way - whether you find out at 20 weeks or at birth - but I think it will be so fun to combine that surprise with the absolute joy of meeting your new child :) 

  • i could totally wait.

    my DH not.

    we'll probably find out but might not tell anyone :) we're evil.

  • Yes we will.  I am far too impatient to wait
  • Heck yeah! I am way too curious of a person to not know ... and I don't really like surprises! I like to be prepared for things too! It would kill be if I didn't know!

  • Absolutely. For me it is a bigger surprise to see who the baby looks like. Plus we deserve a little surprise half way through!image
  • I didn't find out and I want to answer anyway. I wouldn't find out next time, either. Now that DD is here, I still don't see how I would have done anything differently. I love all her early gender neutral outfits and plan to use them with DC #2. I hate all the frilly, super girly outfits we received as gifts and once DD outgrew them, I passed them on to other friends with babies. And her room decor is perfect, IMO. I still like the color scheme we picked.

    I had a very strong connection to DD before she was born despite not knowing she was a she and I never referred to her as "it." DH and I had a nickname we used whenever we talked about the baby.

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  • i think so. i am too much of a planner!
  • our next will be a surprise!!!?

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    with the first i really wanted to have everything squared away, but intentionally bought a lot of g/n stuff (crib is yellow, bedding is green & white, etc.) in case the next was a boy. i didn't want to have to rebuy all of that stuff the next time. all i would need would be clothes, and i'm sure the grandma's would have no issue running out to pick up a few things if needed!?

  • Yes, without question.  I am to anxious not to.  I had CVS testing and found out  at 11 weeks with Emerson.  I knew before my H.  Next time I will have them write it down and seal it in an envelope and My H and I will open it together so I can see the look on his face.
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  • LOL @ "it." I knew Jo was a girl and I referred to her as "my parasite."

    bahahahha. Little parasite. 

  • I'm not patient enough to wait. Plus I'm slightly OCD so I need to plan ahead of time!
  • Absolutely! I wouldn't be able to wait. Plus, I like to be prepared.
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  • I'm so glad we found out with DD, because I really, really thought she was going to be a boy. Everyone did. And it was such a huge shock that she was a girl... I was really happy about it, but it took some adjusting. I had already started calling her "him" and had been picking out more boyish clothing, looking at boyish nurseries, and I don't think I would have been at all prepared for a girl.

    For number 2, I plan on finding out again.

  • I'll find out again.
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  • I'd find out again because i have no self control
  • yes i would find out the gender again...i didn't feel any less excited about ds's birth....it didn't take away from the excitement the day of......and i liked planning things for ds and not having to pick gender neutral things
  • We did, but we didn't really intend to. However, I was having a u/s every month, so it was bound to happen.

    Much like last time, we'd probably plan on not finding out, but be okay if we did.

  • it's funny - dh and I were just discussing this.  we found out the first time, luckily - I thought she was a boy and it took me the next 20 weeks to adjust to her being a girl.  we're thinking we won't find out with the next one, just for fun
  • yes. i liked being able to shop and buy for the right gender.  i also had the nursery ready before hand.
  • We found out this time and plan on making it a surprise next time.  We'll try anyway ;)
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  • We found out with DD and I'm glad we did. ?We're not finding out this time. ?I can't really explain why. ?We both just thought it would be fun to have a surprise this time.
  • There si no way I could stand not knowing...dh wants a suprise next time, but i don't think I could take the suspense!

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    Yes.  I am too nosy and hate suprisesTongue Tied

    This exactly.  :) Maybe I'd be able to hold out for a surprise... but probably not.

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  • We found out last time and we will the next time. I don't keep secrets well, lol!
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  • Yes, I wanted to bond with the baby after seeing the 20 week u/s, I wanted to know if I was carrying a he or a she.  Calling the baby 'it' got old fast.

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  • Yes, because I am a planner and also finding out the gender made me feel closer to my baby. ?I was already calling him by name for 20 weeks!
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  • DH needs to know... so I will cave - he is desperate for a boy so I think it is better we find out so if the baby is a girl he can warm up to the idea:)
  • We found out the first and not the second. I loved having the surprise. I'm really a planner and very impatient, so it was a challenge. In the end, it was so much fun waiting that long. It's totally different IMO than finding out at the ultrasound.
  • Oh HELL yeah!  I almost stopped breathing and had to be placed unconcious.  It would have sucked had I waited!  Also it just was so neat for me to be able to know that yes, my son was coming!
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  • If I only had to be pregnant for say...9 weeks, yes I could wait and just be surprised, but I am not patient enough to wait nine months...I need to know!
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    Yes, because I think I was able to better bond with Kate even prior to her birth.  She wasn't just "baby" in there, she was my little daughter and she had a name when I talked to her.

  • Yup, I found out for the first 2... now if I have a 3rd I will definitely find out again. I'm like a kid at Christmas... I don't like surprises and I always snoop for the presents. ;)
  • Nope! I'm glad we did b/c DH just *HAD* to know for #1. But, I never wanted to know the gender of my kids... I love surprises! I've already gotten DH to agree that for #2 we want the traditional surprise since #2 may be our last DC.
  • I have moments where I get excited about not finding out but then I remember how much I enjoyed knowing, too. So, I guess my answer is I just don't know yet :)
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