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First night of Ferber....

BejebusBejebus
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Happened earlier and he only cried for 36 minutes.  The longest 36 mimutes of mine and DH's life, but still, could have been worse.

Has anyone ever had a second night that was worse than the first?  Thanks.

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Re: First night of Ferber....

  • ToosdaiToosdai member
    36 minutes straight????? Dude.
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  • kelbriankelbrian
    I doubt that it was 36 minutes straight. If you do Ferber, you go in at intervals. The first night, the intervals are very short - 3 minutes, 5 minutes, and then ten minutes. Ten is the longest you will wait to go in.
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  • BejebusBejebus
    Checked at 3 minutes, quieted then started crying again when I left.  DH went in 5 minutes later, he quieted, and started crying again.  During the next few 10 minute intervals he stopped once or twice but started up again.  But yeah, Ferber is letting your kid cry a little.  Hence why it blew. 
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  • ToosdaiToosdai member
    Thanks, KB. I haven't had to do Ferber so I'm not familiar with the method.
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  • kelbriankelbrian

    And to the OP: When you do Ferber, the same person should do the routine and check-ins. I don't remember where I read this in the book, but I do remember it.

    Toosdai, you're welcome. It can seem confusing if you don't know about what the method entails :O)

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  • IckyThumpIckyThump
    That's pretty good for the first night. We're starting tomorrow and I'm really hoping it works out because this is our last resort.
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  • jacksonville2jacksonville2
    as long as you're consistent, it gets better every night
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  • SevenThree2004SevenThree2004

    Consistency is key, I did read that the baby could get 'worse' the 2nd or 3rd night, honestly we had to give it a full week or so, but she didn't cry for long. She still cries/whines when we put her to bed but it isn't anything dramatic like when we started this process.

    Just to give you incentive though at 5ish months we started she was up every 1-2 hours, no joke, at 6 months she was sleeping 4-6 hr blocks without a peep and now at 7 months she STTN 10-11 hours and shes BF so it can happen!    I hear ya about the longest 35 mins of your life though.

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  • sep24/05bridesep24/05bride

    Here is my log from my first 3 nights/days of Ferber.  I would highly recommend creating a log.  It helped us so much!  It really does get easier each day.  The first week is hard.  Most nights by son now goes down without any crying and only wakes 2 times for a binkie replacement.  Good luck to you and remember to stay strong!   Wednesday Night

    Placed in crib at 7:26.

    Crying

    Soothed at 7:29 for 2 minutes

    Crying loud

    Soothed at 7:36 for 2 minutes

    Crying loud

    Soothed at 7:48 for 2 minutes

    Crying with periods of quite

    Soothed at 8:00

    Crying softly

    8:06 ? Asleep!

    1:30- awake for binkie/right back to sleep

    2:33- ""

    3:41- ""

    5:00- ""

    6:00- ""

    6:15- ""

    7:40- Awake for the day

     

    Thursday

    Down for nap at 9:40

    Crying- whining

    Soothed at 9:45 for 2 minutes

    Crying with periods of silence

    Soothed at 9:57

    9:58- Asleep

    10:17- awake and crying

    10:19- stopped crying- babbling

    10:22- inserted binkie- looks awake

    10:30- Awake

     

    12:45- Down for nap

    12:50- Soothed for 1 minute

    12:57- Asleep

    1:14- Awake for binkie

    1:18- Crying

    1:23- Soothed for 1 minute

    1:22- Crying

    1:30- Awake

     

     3:01- Down for nap

    Crying

    3:07- Soothed for 2 minutes

    Crying hard

    3:19- Soothed for 1 minute

    3:20- Asleep

    3:50- Awake

     

    7:31- Down for bed

    7:32- Crying

    7:36- Soothed for 1 minute

    7:45- Asleep

    8:26- Awake for binkie/right back to sleep

    2:20- Awake for binkie/right back to sleep

    5:20- Awake for binkie/right back to sleep

    6:40- Awake for binkie/right back to sleep

    7:20- Awake for binkie/right back to sleep

    8:20- Awake for the day

     

    Friday

    10:12- Down for nap

    10:13- Crying

    10:15- Fussing/talking

    10:23- Soothed for 1 minute

    10:24- Crying

    10:30- Fussing

    10:35- Soothed for 1 minute

    10:36- Quite/Asleep

    11:25- Awake

     

    2:52- Down for Nap

    Crying

    3:02- Soothed for 1 minute

    Crying

    3:14- Soothed for 1 minute

    Crying

    3:29- Soothed for 1 minute

    3:31- Asleep

    3:35- Awake

    Crying

    3:50- Soothed for 2 minutes (really upset)

    3:55- Awake (gave up on afternoon nap)

     

    7:00- Down for bed (fell asleep in car)

    7:25- Awake, put binkie back in

    Crying

    7:35- Soothed for 2 minutes

    7:47- Soothed for 2 minutes

    8:00- Asleep

    8:24- Awake

    8:26- Asleep

    8:26-11:00- Awake/Asleep a lot (cheated- held him, feed him, changed him)

     

     

     

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