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Confession/Vent

Donny-stfuDonny-stfu
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I am not going to be leaving my children alone with my MIL. Ever. She is a hard-core Christian, and I have no problem with that, at all. What I do have a problem with is her using toys and McDonalds to bribe all of her grandchildren to go to church with her. She does it to my 8 year old step daughter whenever we let MIL take her, and it PISSES ME OFF, but I stay out of it.

DH and I are not really religious, and we plan on letting our children come up with their own beliefs. If my daughter comes up to me one day and says she wants to go to church with grandma, I would let her go in a heartbeat. But until that day comes, I will not let anyone bribe my child with greasy food and cheap toys just so they can add another member to their church.

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  • Aimee0289Aimee0289

    I'm not either. My MIL sounds exactly like yours. She's the type who will say she wants to innocently take the baby to church, and when she comes back I'll discover that she's had him baptized against our will. And she totally uses McDonalds!

    So to avoid having to kill her, she's never allowed to be alone with DS.

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  • Temp552270562505132Temp552270562505132
    ooooo that would piss me off too!  it is YOUR child, and your right to bring him up however you choose. 
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  • Donny-stfuDonny-stfu
    imageAimee0289:

    I'm not either. My MIL sounds exactly like yours. She's the type who will say she wants to innocently take the baby to church, and when she comes back I'll discover that she's had him baptized against our will. And she totally uses McDonalds!

    So to avoid having to kill her, she's never allowed to be alone with DS.

    OMG that is something I totally see her doing. I'm so glad I am not the only one.

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  • BabyAlgerBabyAlger

    I'm not religious either but my MIL is very catholic. I'm shocked she has not brought it up with me but I will seriously lose it if I find out she baptized or took my child to church without my knowledge. I want my daughter to make up her own mind like I did. But so far she has been pretty respectful of my wishes.

     

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  • Aimee0289Aimee0289
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    we are hoping to not feed fast food to our kids as long as possible (and I REALLY hope that's feasible). I can just see MIL/FIL giving our child all sorts of crap to eat and then saying "you turned out okay"

    NO no we did not! Both DH and I have weight problems and DH esp. has food control issues. We would like to NOT pass on those issues to our child!

    This. I totally believe that some of our fertility issues are due to being loaded with crap food as children.

    My mother did.not.cook. Evah. She would swing us by some fast food joint on the way home, and my dad would do whatever for dinner.

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    I'm not religious either but my MIL is very catholic. I'm shocked she has not brought it up with me but I will seriously lose it if I find out she baptized or took my child to church without my knowledge. I want my daughter to make up her own mind like I did. But so far she has been pretty respectful of my wishes.

     

    i'm catholic.  our kid will be baptized, so that's how i know that you have to have parental consent for any child to be baptized in the catholic church.  the baptism certificate needs to be authorized by mom/dad and god parents.  don't worry too much about it, the catholic church is really big on rules so you should be ok!

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    Yeah...I know what you mean.  I love my in laws.  I'm lucky there!  But they do love to hand out the candy.  Plus DH is one of 11 and all the siblings seem to hand out the sweets as well.  I'll have to be psycho mom!!

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  • Donny-stfuDonny-stfu
    imageBabyAlger:

    I'm not religious either but my MIL is very catholic. I'm shocked she has not brought it up with me but I will seriously lose it if I find out she baptized or took my child to church without my knowledge. I want my daughter to make up her own mind like I did. But so far she has been pretty respectful of my wishes.

     

    This woman is not respectful of me/my family/my beliefs AT ALL.

     Por ejemplo: My mom, and my younger brother and sister are all gay. MIL knows this. I was in the car with MIL one day, when she starts telling me all the reasons Prop 8 should pass, and how marriage is something for a man and a woman, blah blah blah. I had to try SO hard to not reach over and strangle the biitch right there. I am worried that she will try to tell all this stuff to my kids as well, i.e.- my family is a bunch of heathens who are going to hell...

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  • Aimee0289Aimee0289
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    imageBabyAlger:

    I'm not religious either but my MIL is very catholic. I'm shocked she has not brought it up with me but I will seriously lose it if I find out she baptized or took my child to church without my knowledge. I want my daughter to make up her own mind like I did. But so far she has been pretty respectful of my wishes.

     

    This woman is not respectful of me/my family/my beliefs AT ALL.

     Por ejemplo: My mom, and my younger brother and sister are all gay. MIL knows this. I was in the car with MIL one day, when she starts telling me all the reasons Prop 8 should pass, and how marriage is something for a man and a woman, blah blah blah. I had to try SO hard to not reach over and strangle the biitch right there. I am worried that she will try to tell all this stuff to my kids as well, i.e.- my family is a bunch of heathens who are going to hell...

    Seriously, I think we may actually have the same MIL. The "gays/jews/insert random hated group here" go to hell thing is the OTHER reason she's never allowed to be alone with DS. The constant email forwards to me and DH are bad enough.

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