i know they have them for a reason

Sonya Flanagan · January 2009

but does anyone think those little print outs you can get for your registry are tacky to include in your invitation? How did you let people know you were registered somewhere? In our wedding invites we just had a little piece of paper.

Mrse916 · January 2009

Some people choose to have it printed on the invitation but the most ettiquetely correct way is to not include registry info at all. Then when people call and RSVP you can have your hostess tell them where you are registered if they ask. A lot of people will search for your registry on their own anyway.

Erin Mary Ackerman · January 2009

I HATE the cutouts. They are hideous. Although I'm not fan of including the registry info on an invitation, I HATE advertising in an invitation.

No, I don't want to see the purple BRU or bullseye logo in an invitation. I'm all set with the not so subtle marketing.

RoxyLynn · January 2009

Basically, the stores are asking you to do their advertising for them. That's all those little printouts are. Just throw them away.

If anyone wants to know where you're registered, they'll ask when they RSVP to the hostess (or they'll ask you or your Mom in conversation). Anyone who can't take literally 30 seconds to find out doesn't really want to know; it's rude to force the information on them in an invitation.

hopefulmom · January 2009

IMO...they are great in shower invites. I don't have time to play phone tag with someone trying to find out where a person is registered. I can just get the invite, look on-line and order what I want to purchase. As for putting any registry info in a wedding invite...it is just not done. Many people who go to a wedding have already been invited to the shower so know where the couple is registered.

BTW...I don't look at the cards as advertising for the store since that IS where a person is registered...so obviously that is where they want their giffs purchased. Of course it is totally up to the guest whether to honor that "request" or not.

KimmyB111304 · January 2009

hopefulmom:

IMO...they are great in shower invites. I don't have time to play phone tag with someone trying to find out where a person is registered. I can just get the invite, look on-line and order what I want to purchase. As for putting any registry info in a wedding invite...it is just not done. Many people who go to a wedding have already been invited to the shower so know where the couple is registered.

BTW...I don't look at the cards as advertising for the store since that IS where a person is registered...so obviously that is where they want their giffs purchased. Of course it is totally up to the guest whether to honor that "request" or not.

I agree. First of all, from the standpoint of a shower guest, I would MUCH prefer to see where they are registered in the invitation rather than having to call around and find out. It's so convenient that way. And now that I am actually on the receiving end of having a shower thrown for me, I don't think it's rude or tacky to have that in the invite, because I am not throwing the shower for myself (which would be tacky on it's own). Overall, I just think it's convenient to have in an invite.

wilberta2006 · January 2009

Etiquette wise, on shower invitations it's okay to list the registry info right on the invite. People know that they are supposed to purchase something. Just don't put it on the wedding invitation.

Stellar1 · January 2009

My sisters and my mom who are hosting my shower decided that it was proper etiquette not to include the registry info. on the invite. I assume they will either search BRU website, ask my family, or some have already asked me where I am registered.

hopefulmom · January 2009

Stellar1...it's possible that many people will not be buying off your registry since it is not included in your invitation. I could be wrong...but be prepared.

arps26 · January 2009

i did the same thing as mrse916. Didn't include it on the invite and let people search the usual sites or when they rsvp'd they asked and i told them. Was a better option then on the invite. After all, you want to keep the invite as a memory of your own shower.

hopefulmom · January 2009

arps26...they RSVP'd to you? Did you host your own shower?

BTW...my DD liked having the cards from the stores in the invite. She did save the invite (not sure if she saved the cards).

arps26 · January 2009

No no. I hosted my sister's and best friends' showers most recently. But also hosted a few prior to that. I had consulted them on what they preferred and so I had them rsvp to me and spread the word when guest rsvpd. Suprising almost all casually asked and weren't too suprised. I think the best person to RSVP to is the hostess. Oh yeah, the cards from the stores in the invite is also a good idea!

hopefulmom · January 2009

OK...I understand.

My DD's friend added the registry cards and RSVP's could be called or emailed. Most people just left a message (since her friend works) to RSVP so never really "talked" to her. Not many RSVP's by email. So...the cards were necessary. Plus, the baby had already arrived (that is the way my DD wanted it since she didn't know the sex) so people knew she had to obviously have some things already.

RoxyLynn · January 2009

hopefulmom:

IMO...they are great in shower invites. I don't have time to play phone tag with someone trying to find out where a person is registered. I can just get the invite, look on-line and order what I want to purchase.

Seriously? You can't just search Target and Babies R Us if you're going to go online anyway?

Mrs.Carlybella · January 2009

I am not a fan of the inserts, however don't mind at all seeing the registry info printed on a shower invite. I think that is easiest for everyone involved, an even if it is not Emily Post etiquette- I think now it is so common that no one think twice about seeing it on a shower invite

Mr. & Mrs. RN · January 2009

Tacky for sure IMO

KimmyB111304 · January 2009

Question for everyone who thinks this is tacky...did you also ask that your registry info not be included on your bridal shower invitations? I can see where the options on where to register are somewhat limited for a baby shower, but there are a bunch of places people can register for their wedding. I guess I just never realized that so many people thought it was tacky to include registry info on shower invites. I think most people I know would be annoyed if it wasn't on there.

wilberta2006 · January 2009

Cards= tacky

My registry info was printed on the invitation.

erosa · January 2009

if you're throwing your own shower, then yes, it is tacky to include registry info, in addition to the fact that you probably shouldnt be throwing your own shower anyway. most people are invited to showers want a registry, so they won't be out trying to buy crap. I've been to dozens of showers & I'd be very annoyed if I had to go online & check BabiesRUs.com, Target.com, BuyBuyBaby.com, BabyDepot.com, PotteryBarnKids.com!!!! Hello! Invitees KNOW they will be buying gifts, why make them work harder than they should. Registries wouldn't exist if they weren't meant to be shared!

userdeleted · January 2009

wilberta2006:
Etiquette wise, on shower invitations it's okay to list the registry info right on the invite. People know that they are supposed to purchase something. Just don't put it on the wedding invitation.

ditto

Stellar1 · January 2009

hopefulmom:
Stellar1...it's possible that many people will not be buying off your registry since it is not included in your invitation. I could be wrong...but be prepared.

I know- thanks. That's the choice they made. My friend just had her shower a few weeks ago and she did put the registry info. on the invite and people still didn't get her stuff off her registry. If people care- they can ask me or ask my mom when they register or they can spend two minutes and search us on BRU.

iluvabrit · January 2009

MrsHowdy:
but does anyone think those little print outs you can get for your registry are tacky to include in your invitation? How did you let people know you were registered somewhere? In our wedding invites we just had a little piece of paper.

well, considering you did the tackiest thing in the world by including your registry info in your wedding INVITE, i wouldn't worry about etiquette here, either.

courtneyaok · January 2009

I'm including them, but it's also on the invite. I don't mind receiving them because then I can just take that little card to the store instead of the whole invite (for spelling).

talltalltrees · January 2009

Yes, the reason they have them is so the stores can make more money. They are tacky.?

amhough · January 2009

I agree that they are tacky. I've always heard that you should NEVER include registry information in any kind of inviation, wedding, shower or otherwise. That kind of information can be spread by word of mouth. I didn't receive anything that wasn't on our wedding registry, and the only way people knew where to go was because my mom and my MIL told people and it got passed along.

Anytime I get an invite with one of those cards in it, it makes me think that it's my present they want, not my presence. I know shoers are about gifts, but shouldn't they also be about getting good friends and family together to celebrate an exciting event?

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