Did you prepare yourself for the worst before you got your BFP?

Jaclyn278 · January 2009

I'm 4dpiu and this is my 2nd round of injectables and 4th iu and I guess I'm so afraid of being so hopeful to only be let down so I am "preparing" myself for the worst if that should happen.

Just curious if you girls thought it was a bust when it was something much more!!

my*heart*is*his · January 2009

Completely. I had some spotting, and with non-BFP cycles that was the norm, so I had a complete meltdown two nights before, because we were going to have to stop treatment (b/c of $$). When AF didn't show, I took a digital test and stood at the sink while it processed, repeating "Not pregnant, not pregnant, not pregnant" to myself so I wouldn't be (more) disappointed. I almost didn't believe the "Pregnant" that popped up!

TakYelgif · January 2009

With IVF #1 I got AF 4 days before my beta so yes when I was close to my beta for IVF #2 I automatically assumed I would be getting another BFN.

Imagine my surprise when I got the faintest BFP on a HPT I still didn't believe even after my positive beta, I kept thinking I would wake up and it would all be a dream!

trilady2 · January 2009

Dear Lord yes. I was on IVF #4 and will all of the negatives under my belt and no symptoms, I was just sure it would be negative. I held out for the beta and was happily surprised. It's so hard to have hope when you have had failures and BFNs.

Hang in there, I sincerely hope you get good news soon.

muppet.fan · January 2009

I always prepared for bad news and it drove dh nuts! But I had to mentally be ready for it in order to deal with it. For this successful IVF cycle, I had completely convinced myself it hadn't worked (I never took any hpts). I had even practiced what I would say when they called!

Aaron'sAlli · January 2009

Absoultely!! I broke down into hysterical tears a few days before and told my husband that I wanted to make a reading room for myself, in one of the rooms we had reserved as a nursery, because I felt like AF was coming. We only got limited $ from insurance and we only had two little snow embies left to try with. The hormones really don't help the situation either! Best of luck!

desabean · January 2009

Well, I let the call go into vm so I could listen to it at home (I had gotten a bfn call at work before and had a total meltdown so I wasn't going that route again) I stopped at the store and bought a bottle of wine and pack of cigarettes because I was sure it was going to be a BFN. I actually had to listen to the voice mail twice because I thought I had just imagined she said I was "pregnant" .....so yes, I *tried* to prepare myself for the worst (though I think I would have needed more than wine and cigarettes to conquer the hurt if it was negative) and I got the best!

Good luck!!

Jen&John2005 · January 2009

I had implantation bleeding which I thought was spotting at 8dp3dt, and I cried my eyes out the night before my beta. When I POAS the next morning the day of my beta and got a BFP, I was in shock. I could barely speak to tell my DH the good news.

LVBlvd · January 2009

only POAS because I wanted to get drunk that night!! GL!!!

gambler2100 · January 2009

GL ... let us know how it goes!

mrsolsenk12 · January 2009

I was totally prepared for the worst. 2 days before Beta I had the worst cramps and told DH that they were period cramps. I was determined that my cycle had failed.

lovemy2boys · January 2009

I guess I was in the minority here. I tried my hardest to keep a positive attitude during all of my cycles - I don't think you have anything to gain by "assuming the worse". Just my opinion!

Good luck!

nicolita14w · January 2009

I didn't so much prepare as I was just 100% sure it hadn't worked. I just wanted to get my beta out of the way so I could proceed with IVF (BFP was from IUI#3). I didn't do a home test, so when the nurse called me with my result my response was "WHAT? You're joking."

Good luck-- I hope this is your cycle.

krissybegs · January 2009

To get through the 2ww I was very hopeful. My DH was not. He was preparing for the worst so he could pick me up off the floor if we would have gotten a BFN on our IVF.

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