Is anyone else's Mom..

Chief_Carters_Lady · January 2009

"having a hard time wraping her brain around her only daughter being pregnant, and isn't ready to talk about it"? Seriously, this is the conversation my mom and I are having right now. She had made me feel like crap the last two weeks. Is anyone else having this issue???

Brownie_222 · January 2009

Not in my case...why is she not ready to talk about it? Does she not like your SO or does she think you're too young, or any other reasons why she's not ready? Sorry if those questions are too personal, just trying to understand the situation.

manda16 · January 2009

I haven't told my parents yet but knowing my mom I'm terrified this will be her reaction. This was her reaction when we got engaged and my mom LOVES my DH. She had issues with me growing up and I scared this is going to happen again. Not to mention she's not a fan of kids. Telling them this weekend so wish me luck. GL to you and hopfully your mom will come around!

JCM052707 · January 2009

I really thought mine would be like that, but my parents have been crazy excited and my God, my dad calls me all the time (they live around the block!) to ask how I am feeling, if i'm showing, etc. I think either extreme is a little tough to deal with. Hopefully she'll come around!

bpgswife · January 2009

How old are you? My Mom is pretty stoked. Guess because I am 34 and she is like it is @ time! Hmmm may be try talking to her @ what her reluctance is......ya never know what she is thinking. Good Luck!

K

Chief_Carters_Lady · January 2009

Nope, she LOVES DH, I am going to be 27 in August, college educated. I have no clue what her issue is. The rest of my family is thrilled. We had a familly dinner Monday and she would just act like any talk about the baby wasn't happening, and ignor anyone that asked her questions about it.

thaira · January 2009

wow...my husband and I havent told our parents and dont plan on it till 3 months... neither of us are close to our moms (im sure my mil will stroke out and figure out a way to get attention as soon as we tell instead of being happy for us) and we love love love our daddies....so the idea of irritating our moms and keeping it a secret till we tell everyone makes us happy!

In response to you...that sucks! You need to just block our her negativity...maybe by telling her that you are so excited about your baby and when she says are you ready, etc. Just be happy and say yes and dont even acknowledge her attitude problem...i know thats hard....

aaahhhh family....and here we are bringing innocent beings into this messed up world with such high hopes... We can dream ey

Brownie_222 · January 2009

Chief_Carters_Lady:
Nope, she LOVES DH, I am going to be 27 in August, college educated. I have no clue what her issue is. The rest of my family is thrilled. We had a familly dinner Monday and she would just act like any talk about the baby wasn't happening, and ignor anyone that asked her questions about it.

Hmmmm, is she worried about getting older herself then? Seems like you're in a good spot, and hopefully she'll come around soon!

mrsmel · January 2009

my mom still does't know. oops....

Chief_Carters_Lady · January 2009

I guess the thing that finally set me off was getting an e mail from my Aunt with the closing line, "we love all three of you" meaning, me DH and the baby. Sooooooo I brought it up in a text because there is NO way I could talk to over the phone about this. She told me "now you have upset me and i will not discuss this via txt" . okie dokie. Hope she's ready by September.

Thanks for listening to me vent.

bpgswife · January 2009

That is what we are here for! Good luck!

jrickard7 · January 2009

Just to play devil's advocate: could she be worried that it's very early and she's simply trying not to get too excited yet? My dad refused to get excited when my brother and SIL announced they were pregnant with the first grandchild when they were only 8 weeks along- once 2nd tri hit, he was over the moon with excitement.

sunandsand · January 2009

I dont think my mom was thrilled. DH is still in school and we live in an apt, so she wanted us to wait. She actually thought I was joking when I told her. When she found out I wasn't, her first sentence was, "Well it isn't calling me grandma...I'm too young" (she's 45)....a few days later, she was telling her friends, so it seems like she's turning a corner...hope yours does the same!

Chief_Carters_Lady · January 2009

I don't think it has anything to do with it being early. Oh well.

On a happy note, it really made me smile to scroll through and see all the little baby tickers. I don't know why, but it did.

Thanks

PuppyMommy · January 2009

Do you think she is just worried? My parents are very excited, but it's a different excitement from when my bro had his baby or from my ILs excitement. They have told me that it's such a different feeling when it's you actual daughter having a baby. They said it comes with a lot more worries.

BCLong21 · January 2009

I was a little afriad to tell my Dad's mom. She had made many a comment on how we needed to wait 5 years and that we should never have a babies. So I understand. Both of the mothers were so excited about hearing about the babies.

I just make it a point to not talk about the baby in front of my grandmother because I know if she says something it will piss me off. I want this to be a good time and everyone else is so excited about the baby. I told my grandmother and the rest of the family on Christmas day. I was concerned about her reaction but she just told me she loves me and congratulations. I gave her time to think about it and digest it. She is now fine with it.

Do not push your mom into a conversation about the baby. When you get the first sonogram of the baby and she sees it hopefully she will be more excited. Maybe she thinks you and your DH need to experience more of what life has before you have babies. One never knows. Just give her time and soon she will learn that it is not as devastating as she thinks it should be.

Good luck. I hope all the best for you and you DH.

jesstibb · January 2009

My co-worker was just telling me a story the other day about how her mom was in the hospital room with her because my coworkers DH ran to get lunch and when my coworker felt the baby drop her mom said "Ok, I gotta go" and ran out of the room to go shopping for some stupid little thing leaving my coworker all alone. She found out later that her mom was just totally freaked out about becoming a grandma for one reason or another but of course couldn't resist the baby once it was here!

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