Did you chose to not have sex?

tnkrbl21 · January 2009

Our dr's havent said anything about us not being able to / permitted to, but I was wondering if anyone decided to not have sex while Pg and what you're reasoning was. I still want to (though I defintley can't manuever at all) but i'd like to hear some opinions. (Yes I know if I want a definte answer I should speak with my dr and I will.... i just wanted to see your opinions).

craziheazo · January 2009

We only had sex a handful of times up until 37 weeks. I just didn't feel like it. When I did feel like it (near the very end) I felt like I was doing an aerobic exercise Stick out tongue

From 37 weeks until I got induced (38w3d) we had sex daily. Yep, I was officially using my husband to help my progress! He didn't mind a bit!

I'm not sure if there are any special restrictions since you are having twins though. Hopefully, some of the twin mommies will respond.

To sum it up, I was lazy and enjoyed sleep too much!

laura&dan05 · January 2009

No, we were never given any kind of restrictions and started back up a week after my ET and have been having sex ever since. We don't have it as often as we did before but we still do several times a week. I plan on continuing until it's not comfortable any more or obviously if my OB tells me we can't.

Magoy · January 2009

We didn't chose not to in the beginning. We waited until after I got my BFP and the RE said we were safe. We did HAVE to stop when I was dx'd w/ placenta previa at about 19 weeks. The dr later said we were ok, but we didn't, just in case.

susan_m · January 2009

Only in the beginning we really didn't just because I felt so crappy. We have started to again every so often since I have been feeling better but it's still sporatic. I'm sure that will increase since I have not been as tired or sick these days....which makes DH a happy man! Big Smile

schmoodle · January 2009

Both pregnancies, we chose not to at all because we were too concerned about potential issues and high risk complications. Both times, I was later instructed to be on strict pelvic rest, so I've been somewhat "validated" in our choice not to do so.

Kim777 · January 2009

We didn't until I was full term with Rhett. I was just too scared after all we'd been through, and although I know DH wasn't thrilled, he was very supportive. This time I am even more nervous because I have been spotting the whole time. Dr. told us no sex until I hadn't been spotting for 4 days. We had a small window of opportunity, which we missed, and then I was spotting again this weekend. I guess we'll see what happens with the spotting, but I imagine it would be the second trimester before we would think about it anyway because I am too sick right now.

Katietwin · January 2009

We waited until the 2nd tri to stay conservative - and now that we're back "on", we are also being very cognizant of the GENTLE factor. ?It's actually kinda great, b/c DH likes to joke that we're both "Generals" in the bedroom- (two Aries...go figure) - but...while I am pg, I get to be completely in charge. ?It's kind of an understanding we have. ?:) ?

somethingchangd · January 2009

I elected not to during the first trimester. We'd had too many early losses and we were both too nervous. At my 14w appointment I was going to check for clearance (even though my doc never said not to) but instead was put on pelvic rest for placenta previa. We haven't done it since august. Crying

LilSurferGirl · January 2009

We were not allowed during my first trimester due to a previous m/c and spotting issues that I was having. Once the spotting stopped and the OB gave the okay, we did have sex, but not as often as before. As I got bigger, we did it less and less, and finally stopped around 32 weeks. At that point with twins it was just too awkward and uncomfortable for me no matter what we tried.

pamela-matt · January 2009

I think we did once before I was on pelvic rest. Does not really matter b/c my hubby would not touch me with a 10 foot pole while I was pg. He is just like that...it drove me crazy but nothing I could do about it since I was not allowed to have sex anyways

HeatherandRay · January 2009

I am 12 weeks along and we have not had sex since my BFP; in fact, since I got PG through IUI we did not even have sex the cycle we conceived. I had a rough time early in the PG - I miscarried a twin and was bleeding from week 5 through week 10 so DH and I were nervous about sex (though not strictly prohimited by my RE). I am eager to jump back in the saddle again, but am nervous at the same time.

LVBlvd · January 2009

We have no reason we can't, but really don't do it that often. We are both so tired after working all day, and I honestly just don' t love pregnant sex. I don't know what people are raving about haha

MayDayGirl · January 2009

We had sex after the first tri... up till the night before he was born!

skoorbnibor · January 2009

best.sex.ever during the 2nd tri!

we weren't allow in the first, I didn't really want to at the end, but in the middle it was awesome!

Temp159135562506975 · January 2009

we were both too scared to do it until 12w.

funny thing is the morning after we finally had sex- i threw up for the first time... dh said "is it b/c we had sex???" LOL.

then 3 days later i started spotting - had to have an US... doc said all was OK but to hold off on sex for a while- go figure.

we have done it once more since then.... thanfully neither of us are dying for it right now- and if DH needs some and i'm not in the mood or feeling good- he's totally happy with me just giving him a HJ

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