Have any of you done this?
Personally, I would be nervous to buy anything not knowing it would happen ever/anytime soon. Maybe I am superstitious.
My cousin didn't even tell the extended family she was pregnant. I just saw her last Saturday, and she is more than 6 mos pregnant. To my knowledge, she has not had any problems. She has a 1 year old. That is a little much, for me, but I guess everyone is different.
Re: Buying baby stuff before you are pregnant
I didn't buy anything when ttc. Which I'm glad, because we had trouble ttc so it took a while before I actually got pregnant.
I was confused about that too!
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We are both superstitous. Just that I thought not telling us that she was pregnant when she is going to have a baby in two months was a little strange. Yeah, whatever, if that is how she feels, fine. But obviously she is pregnant and other people know it. Why not let family know also. We are close in age/location and she knows we would probably be trying soon too. I just think her level of superstitous is a little much and mine is more normal. God forbid, if she was to lose it, we would find out so why not tell us you are pregnant?
I bought quite a few things (everything on sale) throughout the years before we started ttc. My reasoning was that we would have a baby someday, somehow.
I did not buy anything after we started ttc, probably because that took care of any baby fever I had. I had anticipated that I would go nuts when I got pregnant, but I was extremely reticent to buy anything. In fact, we only bought one item - a blue stuffed elephant.
That ended in m/c - and while the other baby stuff didn't bother me (it's pretty much out of sight and mind), that elephant made me sad for awhile. It stays on our bed for now.
I don't feel superstitious about it, necessarily. I don't think buying or not buying baby stuff has any real bearing on my fertility, and spreading out some of the costs is not a bad thing. But I understand why people don't want to do it.
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Wow, sorry about that all...either the bump or my computer weirded out and duplicated half my post...anywho
we now have a sweet set of little Gator booties and a Red Sox binky, my DH tried to hide them in the back of the drawer but I know they are there and it still hurts to look at them. Even when we get PG again, I'll feel like they belonged to our baby we lost :-(
I've said it before and I'll say it again, 'it aint about superstition, it's about balancing hope w/ pain'
I have, in my basement, a pile of baby crap I've been given/handed down. It'll be tremendously useful when/if I get PG (and if we can't get PG, I have no reason to think that I'll definately have infants and not adopt older...). But that doesn't mean, seeing as that crap has been in my basement for 4 years, that having to deal w/ it doesn't hurt.
There are days when dealing w/ a pile of hand-me-downs, tucked off in a store room, under a tarp can bring me to tears; I can't even imagine how much greater that pain would be if, instead of it merely being 'just in case' hand me down storage it was a pile of my own hopes for the future sitting there.
I buy things if they are on clearance (mainly @ Target). I have so many friends & relatives that are pregnant/ttc, that I figure, if I'm never blessed with a child, I've got plenty of gifts.
I haven't made any large purchases (not saying I haven't thought about it - almost bought a maclaren stroller last year), and my hubs is guilty of phantom baby shopping, too, so no guilty conscience or suspicious mind here.
I bought some gender neutral clothes when I found things on sale (aka Gap onesies for $1.97 apiece). ?When I was pg with Harpie, we bought our stroller & a few other things.
I don't believe in superstitions, honestly. ?Buying a stroller before the 2nd trimester is not what caused me to lose the babe.
And it doesn't bother us having it in the house. ?We know we'll have a baby some day, some way.?