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you know what I hate?

preppynewlywedpreppynewlywed member
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People who think my uterus is their business.

I have a friend who is 5 months pregnant with her first.  She got married a few weeks before DH and I.

While I am VERY happy for her, I don't appreciate the email she sent me today that asks me when we're trying.  How COOL it would be to have kids close in age.  How she can't understand WHY we're waiting.

Seriously.

We're not waiting...I mean we waited a bit longer than them, but only by a few months.  We just didn't get pregnant the second we decided to try.

Booooo.

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  • blondie42107blondie42107 member

    My friend was like this.  When she and her DH were trying she didn't say much just that she wouldn't be upset if my DH and I got pregnant first.  Then she got pregnant and kept asking me why we were waiting/not pregnant yet, that it was so great, etc.

    DH and I decided a while ago that my eggs and his sperm were our business.  I think because we haven't shared this info openly like my friend and her DH did, she assumes my legs are crossed all the time.


     
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  • preppynewlywedpreppynewlywed member

    Exactly.

    I mean NO ONE knows we're trying.  Not a soul.  Well, except you girls.

    I think people assume that because we're not talking about it, we aren't trying.  All of my friends who are pregnant or are actively trying have made a huge deal out of the fact they are/were TTC.

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  • Becky19Becky19

    People can be really clueless about everything that goes into TTC, especially people who get pg the first second they try. Before we had started trying, a friend who was pg posted on my facebook wall: "Are you pregnant yet? I hear 2008 is a very fertile year!" and I thought it was really insensitive. I mean, how did she know I hadn't been trying for 2 years and/or wasn't currently immersed in fertility treatments? It turned out we got pg pretty quickly, but that's besides the point, ya know?

     

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  • Mrs. Tara LMrs. Tara L
    My theory is that those people are just missing a little filter in their head. Somewhere between their brains and their mouths.
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  • Mrs_LibertoMrs_Liberto member

    Ugh, I feel your pain. My Facebook status message right after Christmas was " [Mrs_Lib] is excited!" because two of my good friends and my sister got engaged on Christmas. I kid you not, I got a half dozen wall posts and messages asking if I was excited because I'm pregnant.

    Um, negatory, but thanks for reminding me.

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  • ~Flossie~~Flossie~ member
    Ugh, I know the feeling. It's like just because you are married you MUST have a baby right away, and if you don't there must be a problem. It has got to the point that I've had a few people say "What was the point in getting married if your just going to wait to have kids..." or when I tell them we are waiting some have even told us flat out that waiting is the wrong decision. Dh and I have decided that we will no longer answer any questions about when we will start having kids because some of the comments are getting so rude.
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  • canesgatorcanesgator
    My mom is the worst. I mean does she not understand we aren't exactly slacking on the trying part. We had dinner last night and as soon as DH went to the bathroom, she was all over me asking me how things were going. I really had to bite my tongue! She actually asked me if a doctor actually told me it might take a while to get pregnant or if I was just telling her that!!?
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