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I Am Emotionaly Exhausted
Why is it men can work an individual who sucks at their job and NEVER SAY ANYTHING TO THAT PERSON? But carry the stress home.
I know when he's working with D-even when DH hasn't told me. I feel DH's stress level build all day. And then I deal with his irritable stressed out self when he gets home in the morning. DH takes his fustration out on our family by being irritable and grouchy.
D. works midnights in law enforcement, but doesn't sleep during the day. He has a never ending list of excuses of why he can't sleep. Including an unofficial job operating heavy machinery on the side. Most nights, he comes into work and tells DH that he needs a nap before they can go out on the road. He's fallen asleep driving a couple times, so DH has started driving every single night that they work together. Night driving is stressful!
DH is so worried that he'll need D to back him up in a situation, and D's reflexes will be slow because he's so exhausted. He's going to get DH killed.
I have told DH and told him and told him that he needs to take this to D & the supervisor, because D is a walking hazard. But DH won't. Some bullshiite about a code of ethics. But it's okay to be an a$$ right before he leaves for work, because D makes him a nervous wreck.
GAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAH!
I am so emotionaly worn down from DH working w/ D, that I *wish* that something would happen to D. Something bad enough he can no longer work the job. And I feel horrible for feeling that way. But, quite frankly, this guy is making my life a living he!!.
I sleep like craap when DH & D work together. I'm listening for that knock on the door. The one where I'm told D got my H killed.
I used to be friends with his wife, but I've been advoiding her every since D took up that unofficial second job. I feel like biitch for never calling her back, but I want to scream at her to make sure D gets some sleep.
Why, oh why, couldn't he have shot himself in the foot during hunting season? :::huff:::
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Re: I Am Emotionaly Exhausted
Wow was that long.
But, it feels sooooooo good to get that off my chest.
I feel for ya dear. I have family in law enforcement and used to be myself. There is nothing like having THAT person on yous shift.
On the other side dh is not in LE but still a stressful job and I have started to get nasty at him when he is an a$$ toward us. Im tired of it.
I used to be in LE in the AF, and I worked with some lazy scum. And I understand the embarrassment of calling a partner out. But this shitte is old. I told him tonight that he needs to get the D thing fixed or the kids and I go. I've had it. I HATE fighting to begin with, it's even worse when it's right before he leaves for work.
Good lord, the man kicked the cat tonight because the cat got in his way. What has the cat ever done to him?!
Jenni, I'm sorry. I'll say prayers for his safety, your
sanity, and that you guys get a much needed solution
very, very soon.
Mother's Day, 2011
Is it legal for D to work on the side like that?
I know some LE aren't allowed to moonlight...
I am not saying you should tattle on him, but an anon. tip on someone employing an off-duty....
Is there a DH boot camp? Because I would send mine right this second. Sounds like your's might need it too.
Actually there is one on tv called Tool, but I think those are mainly boys in mens bodies.. Not pmsing grownups male type creatures.
He got in trouble for the side job, and then got out of trouble because he said he's "just helping his FIL with some stuff". I kid you not. No one wants to work with him.
(((hugs))) I'm so sorry you have to deal with this, Jenn. This HAS to stop.
I would totally anon to the chief AND the union, and the county/city attorney, and the mayor/supervisor's office.
Your only loyalty is the health and saftey of Mr. Jenni, D can take a leap. Thejennigirls code of ethics is looking out for Mr.Jenni.
It's a public safety issue.