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itsmyangel · January 2009

Hey everyone,

I just wanted to introduce myself. I have been ttc since May of this year with PCOS. I had a chemical pregnancy in October. We decided to go ahead and get a s/a on my husband which came back a couple of weeks ago with 0% normal form sperm. We were then referred to a male infertility specialist which would cost 150 for just the consultation. After much research, we decided to get him taking vitamins etc and we'll retest in a couple of months. Meanwhile, we've decided to take the adoption route with our first child....maybe eventually we can persue the ivf with icsi if his morphology is still way low for our second child. I'm actually really please with this decision. I feel like i ahve a goal and something to look ahead to. I think we're goign to be going through catholic social services. They seem to be less expensive and you still are able to get an infant domestically. It'll be at least 9-12 months to get the homestudy done ...then that takes 2 months.....and then we can be in the interview group for potential birthmothers. this gives us plenty of time to get our basement finished....and save up some money for our litle one.....I look foward to shareing this journey with you

-Amanda

Ranita · January 2009

welcome to the board

itsmyangel · January 2009

thank you

jacksjerseygirl · January 2009

Welcome.

Home studies for domestic adoptions tend to take 4-8 weeks, your post sounded like it will take you 9-12 months? Contrary to popular belief, domestic adoption of newborns is alive and well. There are actually a lot of domestic newborns available for adoption - though it depends on finances available and what race you desire. I wish you a smooth process!

Good luck with your journey remember knowledge is power

itsmyangel · January 2009

Actually...I think we will be goign with catholic social services. Their program is very inexpensive 5k-14k based on income. The trade off is the long waiting list. After the application process its a 9-12 month wait to get the home study. that will take 2 months approx...then we'll be in a pool of 10-15 accepted couples that will go through the interviews. They told us you could be chosen right away....or there has been someone who waited 4 years..

jacksjerseygirl · January 2009

Wow I had no idea they had a wait like that just for the HS. Can you join them without them doing the homestudy with them so that you can go in the waiting pool sooner? Agencies do not generally 'have' to do the home study it can be done by 'anyone' who is licensed to do so. And as I said generally they take 4-8 weeks. Waiting a year for just the home study is really a long time. Sad

Good luck :-)

itsmyangel · January 2009

I know...I would LOVE a baby like NOW....but my dh is actually sold on this becuase he has some things he wants to get done in the next year (finish the basement etc) we just bought our hoseu....this will give us time to look foward to the adoption process and get our life ready for our new bundle

jacksjerseygirl · January 2009

Well for you then I hope it isn't a four year wait! Or, Stick out tongue DH doesn't take the full 2-4 years to finish the basment lol

Good luck and look forward to seeing you around!

itsmyangel · January 2009

hahah yeah I agree....i so want a baby now....but know we can't afford to pay the money all in one lump..thats the biggest thing right there i think....and i think he wants some time too to get stuff done...i'm really hoping year to 1.5 at max

BurkeJax · January 2009

Welcome to the board!! Best of Luck...I grew up outside of Dayton Big Smile

itsmyangel · January 2009

OH really? So did I....where abouts did you grow up?

nisems · January 2009

Welcome!!

Capricornbaby80 · January 2009

Welcome and I hope that your wait isn't too long

speak-ez · January 2009

welcome to the board!

PrudenceP · January 2009

Hi! This is my first post on this Board. I felt compelled to respond because we are currently on the home study waiting list for CSSMV. Our application was approved in September. (We had tried to TTC for three years, including IF treatments before applying.) We just missed the January home study group and are hoping we'll make it into the Fall '09 group. We looked into some other agencies in the areas and felt the most comfortable with CSS (by a landslide), especially because of all the birthparent counseling. Good luck on your journey.

BurkeJax · January 2009

ItsmyAngel: Beavercreek

PrudenceP: Welcome Aboard!!

itsmyangel · January 2009

Hey great!! Where do you live? We are in dayton....looking at cssmv as well! I'm going to the adoption fair in feb to get an application but we are also looking at adoptionlink.org based out of yellow springs.

itsmyangel · January 2009

Hey burke...waht year did you graduate....i graduated from oakwood in 2005

itsmyangel · January 2009

sorry..college was 05......hs was 2001! haha i'm not THAT young

BurkeJax · January 2009

I am in fl now...I am old I grad in 1996

PrudenceP · January 2009

itsmyangel:
Hey great!! Where do you live? We are in dayton....looking at cssmv as well! I'm going to the adoption fair in feb to get an application but we are also looking at adoptionlink.org based out of yellow springs.

We also live in Dayton (more specifically, a close suburb). I am somewhat familiar with adoptionlink. I will be curious to hear your feedback about the adoption fair.

itsmyangel · January 2009

I grew up in a close suberb as well

anyhow..what was your take on adoption link? I really would like others opinions

i'm just worried about cssmv becuase it seems to take so much longer than anywhere else

PrudenceP · January 2009

itsmyangel:
I grew up in a close suberb as well anyhow..what was your take on adoption link? I really would like others opinions i'm just worried about cssmv becuase it seems to take so much longer than anywhere else

PrudenceP · January 2009

whoops, previous message posted too soon and wouldn't let me delete.

My experience is fairly limited and yours may be different. I had a difficult time getting information from them. I don't want to say too much, but my husband does a decent amount of GAL work for Montgomery Co. and has been involved with a birthmother and some families who have used adoption link. I understand from the literature that they have had quite a few successful placements.

We were also concerned about the waiting time with CSSMV, but at the same time, there are parts of it that I like because it gives us time to appropriately prepare and to continue to spend time doing things we enjoy that would be more difficult to do if we had kids (e.g., traveling, going out to dinner on spur of the moment, sleeping in (rarely), fixing up the house, building my career, etc.) Although we were pretty confident with our decision to adopt in the first place, it's also given us an opportunity to truly study up on adoption issues and parenting techniques. As corny as it sounds, I really have appreciated how much my marriage with my husband has grown over the past five years (including all of the surprises, challenges and rewards). BecauseI know that having a child is going to radically change our life together, I'm enjoying the continuing evoluton of our relationship, which I think will make us personally better equipped to welcome child with all of the joys and challenges he or she may bring. I've learned that things in life doesn't always happen on the schedule that we want, but along the way I've discovered a lot of interesting things I may not have known had i always stuck to "the plan." I still think of myself as young with a lot more to discover in life (even though I think I graduated from HS 10 years before you), so I'm using the waiting time to keep learning and living.

[This ended up longer and more rambling than I epected. Sorry . . .]

itsmyangel · January 2009

Thats ok...thanks for your insight. I don't have info on adoption line quite yet...i just spoke with they lady over there today and they are supposed to be emailing me some info. So you said you had heard that they HAVE had quite a few successfull adoptions? well that is good to know...I just got my cssmv info today...but am kinda dissappointed I cant even start the applicaiton until the adoption fair as they dont have any meetings until then.

foreverbride · January 2009

Welcome and good luck!

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